Gf wants to get used to it.

Right, so my gf is still in high school and I'm starting University in about two months here in Geneva. However, I have also applied for 2007 entry in the U.K. Today, my gf said to me that she doesn't want to see me often because she "wants to get used to" being away from me as I'll be off to the U.K. next year (hopefully). Correct me if I'm wrong, but that's a pathetic excuse and not only is she being selfish, but she's making things worse. It's not like we're enjoying this 'distance' anyways.

What do you all think?

Reply 1

username47781

20

Yeah that does sound selfish if you were gonna be spending alot of time apart in the future, you'd be spending more time together now and treasuring it.

Reply 2

wipeandclean

maybe she wants to go off with other guys?

shes not being weird, you are, just forget about her and move on, jeez, ur young

Reply 3

WokSz

OP

17

What should I do about it? ignore her and do like she does with me?

Reply 4

username47781

20

WokSz

What should I do about it? ignore her and do like she does with me?

You may be better off finding some who appreciates you more, because clearly she doesn't.

Reply 5

WokSz

OP

17

But I love her and don't want to leave her.

Reply 6

username47781

20

WokSz

But I love her and don't want to leave her.

Yeah it is very hard but surely if she loved you she'd want to spend more time with you before you go away not less.

Reply 7

wipeandclean

maybe she just realises its OVER

Reply 8

Sharp_Shooter

1

I don't mean to sound harsh, but if you're moving away for a year or so chances are that you may both end up with other people. Lets face it, she's in High School and you'll be in Uni-totally different environments and numerous temptations. I would suggest you do as she wishes, its probably for the best either way.

Reply 9

Ron Stoppable

14

WokSz

Right, so my gf is still in high school and I'm starting University in about two months here in Geneva. However, I have also applied for 2007 entry in the U.K. Today, my gf said to me that she doesn't want to see me often because she "wants to get used to" being away from me as I'll be off to the U.K. next year (hopefully). Correct me if I'm wrong, but that's a pathetic excuse and not only is she being selfish, but she's making things worse. It's not like we're enjoying this 'distance' anyways.

What do you all think?

C'est une blague ou quoi? Plaque-la tout de suite.

Reply 10

WokSz

OP

17

ouais, mais je l'aime comme tout. C'est pas si facile.

Reply 11

Tennessee

To be honest, i can kind of see where she is coming from. Is it going to be harder for her if your spend a lot of time with each other now when you leave, or if you dont spend so much time together now? I think that she might be trying to make things easier for herself. I wouldn't take this to instantly mean she doesn't love you enough or that she wants to break up with you or go off with other people. Try to trust her. I'm not saying this isn't what she wants to do, but it's quite possible that she really does just want to get used to it. That's going to depend on what kind of person she is. But I know that it would be much harder if i spent regular time with my partner, then they left, rather than if we saw each other not so often. I think she just wants to see how she's going to cope. You never know, it might send her crazy and she will jump back into your arms telling you she cant do it and she'll just deal with it when it comes. Or, she might be strong, and in the long run, it'll be better for you both because if it hurts her too much when you are away, then she's more likely to break it off then to find someone near. Whereas if she's more okay with being away from you, that might not happen.

Reply 12

blue_foil

Mate, no matter how much it hurts, you might love her with all your heart but she might not love you like that backand by the sounds of it, she is willing to just let you go and live everyday without you there. Its the worst feeling in the world to be on an uneven balance like that but as some people have already said maybe you should start fresh when you leave and meet someone who will appreciate you loads. You don't need something like this bogging you down and messing you around. You might love her but sometimes you have to do what is best for the both of you in the future. You will both change or grow up or whatever an you might come back and find that the spark isn't there anymore or your feelings have changed. How much would that hurt to return and see that. Save yourself the pain and walk away now while you can.

Reply 13

lasttoiletroll

yep sounds a bis suss/silly to me, but you should ask her if she means what she says. girls are horribly confusing

Gf wants to get used to it.

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