Going to old uni, wise?

Heres my story in a nutshell-

went uni last year, hated course, dropped out. Applied again, ended up picking the same uni for a different course and im moving in next week.

Now, one of my good friends (and one of the few friends I have) goes to this uni. This friend has been really good in the past and stuck by me when things went bad, were still close and see each other a lot but they never really give the impression they care or appreciate me. In fact, they only seem to want to be around me when they have nothing better to do, and if ANYONE else is with us they basically ignore me :frown:

so Im worried how it will affect our friendship by me being there, if Iwent elsewhere wed probably meet up in the holidays and that would be fine.

Another problem is the people I knew before, I made some friends, some of which Im still in touch with. Problem is, I really want a fresh start and am not really that fussed about continuing friendships with these people. How do I avoid doing this if they keep getting in touch?

In general im just very aprehensive abot going back to my old uni for the above reasons :s

Reply 1

kam

Treat your friend how you want to treat him and if he ignores you, just tell it to him like it is, him not taking your friendship for granted or what have you.

Your old friends will understand that you'll be making a fresh start and will be meeting new people, making new friends and having other priorities.
If they get in touch with you more often then you'd like, an easy explanation of you being busy with your new course/coursemates would let it sink that you won't be able to be active friends as you may have been before.

I don't know....I need some sleep.

Reply 2

SugarExplosion

If you were this worried about the people there, uni you originally didn't like etc then why did you re-apply to go back there?

Reply 3

OC_girl

Here's what i would do if i was so concerned about an issue like this-
I would go into the uni and make tons of new friends and be the kind of person other people want to know.
Then i would act slightly indifferent towards my old friend and make her want my friendship more than it appeared that i wanted hers.

but to be honest, i would more more focused on actually getting through uni in an academic sense and adapting to the course i was on to avoid having to drop out again.

Reply 4

Sanity Panda

Why does everyone feel the need to distance themselves away from old friends, relationships all just for the sake of university. Can't you do both?

Reply 5

fat_hobbit

In fact, they only seem to want to be around me when they have nothing better to do, and if ANYONE else is with us they basically ignore me so Im worried how it will affect our friendship by me being there, if Iwent elsewhere wed probably meet up in the holidays and that would be fine.
If its a good uni then why not?

It is understandable why you are concerned because your old friends would probably percieve you very differently seeing that you have already dropped out once. Thus, by seeing them again could remind you of your old course and the reasons for dropping out in the frist place. So yes, I can see where you are coming from, some things are better forgotten then remembered.

My advice to you; some of your friends sound like prats anyway (given the quote above), so it is best that you a) distance yourself away from them by saying "ohh your too busy etc" and just get to know new people on your course etc and more importantly as someone has already said, make sure you work consistanly through the year, so that you adapt to your course and dont drop out again. Forget about last year in the academical sense, and keep faith in yourself.

Good luck.