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Another parent problem..

Well, basically lets get this long post over by me explaining about my brothers. I have 2 of them, one 14 and one 7 (I'm 16 - just). I hate the one who is 14 as, well, lets just say its impossible not to hate him. He's vermin, and the complete opposite of me. I've never liked him and never will. I feel nothing other than hate towards him. My younger brother I used to love because he reminded me so much of me when I was younger - quiet, misunderstood etc. But recently (starting from about 6 or so months ago) he's begun to change. He's becoming just like the middle child which is something I could not cope with - one of him is enough. However, he has started in many ways to become worse - I feel so sorry to say it because I used to love him so much at one point, but he's become a horrible, disgusting little boy. I'm beginning to feel towards him as I do towards the other one. He's spoilt, rude, thick, has tantrums over the tinest things, irritating and generally vile. He never used to be like that. This will get to the parent(s) at one point, just bear with me.

Anyway, yesterday he was playing on the computer when the mouse just suddenly disappeared (well, according to him :rolleyes:

). So anyway, feeling irritated that he had dashed into my room for the like hundredth time while I was doing homework I got up angrily and decided to see what bit on the game he was stuck on now. Feeling irritated, when I saw the mouse had gone I told him he had broke it and that he would have to tell mom when she got back. At that point he ran downstairs and started screaming as though someone had stabbed him! What would the neighbours think - and what if they called the police, thinking something had happenned?? I was fuming at this point so I picked my brother up from under his arms and (admittedly, very roughly) thrust him onto the floor and shouted at him to shut up. He then started running around screaming saying I had done something to his throat and that he was dying! What a horrible, manipulative little boy! Anyway I shouted at him to shut up again and then because I couldn't cope with him anymore I went upstairs as I had a headache. It took the middle brother quite a while to shut him up.

When my mom got home (despite him having become normal in the hour after he had ran around screaming he was dying) he immediately told her about what had happened - there was no need for this and all of us know that my mom is a bit screwy and can't control her anger - except in the case of my youngest brother. Anyway, he told her that I had strangled him and tried to kill him!! I said I had roughly picked him up under the arms and shouted at him - but she doesn't believe me so she called my middle brother who said he hadn't seen properly (as he was in the kitchen) but he had seen me pick him up by his scruff and throw him. I can appreciate that it may have looked like this from an angle as I wrestled to pick him up from under his arms, but as he said before he hadn't really seen it properly! Anyway I looked to my mom thinking she would now have to believe me - though my middle brother had still told it wrong, he had at least said that I hadn't strangled him However, she then resorted to telling me how that was even worse!! I told her that now she has to believe me because even my middle brother had said differently to strangling him! She wouldn't take a word of it. I explained to her how naughty my brother was and how bad he was becoming and how he deserved to be punished (she certainly never punishes him like she did me and my middle brother when we were younger). She didn't want to know. She didn't punish my little brother in the slightest - well, I heard her attempting to tell him off so I would hear and not think it wa unfair but it was extremely obviously staged so I wouldn't think it unfair! She took my mp3 player off me and pushed me as I went upstairs! She's been in a foul mood with me - I keep telling her it isn't fair and asking her why he wasn't punished but she just gets angrier with me!! She's got my dad on her side too, she expained to him when he got back from work and he immediately agreed with her - he's a weak-minded, pathetic sort of man - in order not to cause an argument between him and her. He fully agrees with her on every count even though he hasn't heard the full story of what happened!

Am I just wrong on every single count or do my parents and brother(s) have some blame as well? I can't believe my mom is doing this, as though I didn't hate her enough anyway, she's now just digging it deeper. Can anyone suggest any help and/or their POV, as it would help to know what the situation sounds like to someone else. Sorry its so long!

Reply 1

G4ry

Sorry if i trivialise this but he's 7 years old - what do you really expect from him? Just sounds like typical childhood squabbles.

Reply 2

Shreerac1

Sounds very typical of the average 2.4 children to me. You call your youngest bro a "little boy", well he is 7 so what do you expect him to be? Everyone seems to think the youngest is treated differently, its probably due to a thing called jealousy.

PS you said you hate your other brother. Please learn to appreciate what you have in the way of family.

Reply 3

lorna18

hey, thats a pretty tough situation, all i can suggest is taking your dad to one side, you say hes the weaker one, hes more likely to believe you. what you should do is sit with him and tell him everything, how you feel and stuff and even if you have to start crying to make him understand, do it. and tell him you cant cope with how it is anymore, hopefully he will understand your situation and try and stand up to your mum by telling her, i know your mums tough and doesnt believe you, but if the dad thing doesnt work, maybe trying it with her might help a bit. i know how horrible and annoying brothers can be, i have a 12 year old brother but if i go to hit him he smacks me back and hes alot bigger than me even though im 18 lol. but its worth a try. in my opinion your brothers are more to blame than you, i would of roughly handled him too given the situation. hope this helps, if not im not sure what to do other than keep out of everything they do

Reply 4

pikaboo

Jesus. The kid's 7 years old - all little kids act like that at some point. You can't expect your brothers to act as 'mature' as you when you have quarrels with them.

Cut your other brother some slack too - at 14 he'll be going through puberty so it's bound to be a difficult time for everyone. Quit with the 'hate' thoughts and look for the good in your family (there's bound to be some, if you look hard enough) and once you start acting positively towards your brothers you'll probably start seeing they're acting nicer towards you in return.