asking a girl out whos already got a b/f.

since june ive met 3 wonderful girls (all at seperate times though), and ive got to know them reli well and i'd really like to ask them out. but theres one problem, they've got boyfriends, how do i try and ask a girl to go out wiv me if shes already got a boyfriend and succed? all of the time though ive held back because they're already in a relationship. what can i do??

im single as you would have noticed.
any comments much appreciated.

Reply 1

hixey101

please dont.

Reply 2

Yellowmarshmellow

Hey,
if they already have boyfriends then maybe you should get to know other girls and just keep these ones as friends cos they're are kinda out of bounds and already taken so there might not be much point.
on the other hand, u could tell them how u feel and maybe if they felt the same way about u, they would consider going out with u instead or say that maybe in the future something could happen between you two...
good luck thought
xxx

Reply 3

myrtille

15

Whaaaaat?! Sorry, I just don't quite understand this...

a) You're considering asking out 3 different girls... So is it like, you pick one, and if she says no you'll ask the next, and the next..?

b) They've got boyfriends! Unless you already know them really well and know there are problems in the relationship, I don't think you should even be considering trying to split them up so she can go out with you. But I suppose you'd just be best to somehow (I have no idea...) indicate that you're interested, so if she's more interested in you than in her own boyfriend, she knows the situation.

Reply 4

dusk

silly boy. Quite simply, don't! You'll either be rejected, and possibly alienate them all, or create an emotionally messy situation. KISS. Keep It Simple, Stupid!

Reply 5

TMHNightfox

OP

no im not going to ask all seperate girls if i get rejected one by one. im just saying i met them at other times,

Reply 6

*Fliss*

Why would you think its okay to ASK A GIRL OUT when she's already in a relationship?

I just don't get it.

Reply 7

TMHNightfox

OP

i didnt say i think its ok, i dont anyhow.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

Hmm...

*shakes head*

Reply 9

poltroon

Of course you should ask them out if you want to. How is it not 'ok'?

Reply 10

Enchanté

14

The op is virtually denying everything he has stated in the first post :rolleyes:

Reply 11

TMHNightfox

OP

i never said i thought it was ok.

Reply 12

Montrose

17

poltroon

Of course you should ask them out if you want to. How is it not 'ok'?

Because they're already taken? How would you feel if you were in a happy relationship with someone and then someone else asked them out? And to the OP...if you don't think it is okay, why would you consider doing it? Do you know what moral standards are then but just ignore them?

Reply 13

Carl

14

this guy is, quite simply, a genius :biggrin:

Reply 14

sufiankane

2

I have to admire your geniusness BUT you dont just move from ne firl to the next like mobile phones, and if they have BFs do not ask them out. think pf it this way, u ask them out, you make a move, she pushes u away, calls u a typical guy, kness u in da nuts, tell her bf, bf comes and hurts you. you end up in hospital with a pair of sore nuts. so simply DO NOT ASK THEM OUT

Reply 15

username47781

20

Carl

this guy is, quite simply, a genius :biggrin:

Aye he's a true legend.

Reply 16

Carl

14

Reply 17

Eddy123

I would advise you to go for it. If it breaks up the relationship you've done them a favour because it wasn't that great anyway.

If i was you i wouldn't ask them out straight, instead i'd hang out with them and slowly escalate things, if they go along with it then great, if not then you can stop and it's much less complicated.

If one rejects him what's wrong with moving onto the next straight away? Why cry over spilled milk.