My boyfriend lied to me? why?

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Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 months now. He is my first boyfriend and im still a virgin (im 19 hes 20). Im not hes first girlfriend and he as hab sexual experiences before. I never really cared about is past relashionships, and even thou he is my first boyfriend he know that he can talk openly to me about it, i realise that past relashionships are sort of importante in the development of anyones perception on love and firther relacionships.
Our relashionship is based on honesty, ive actualy never lied to this guy and i realy love him. However this past mothe we have been having lots of arguments about other stuff and our relshionship is extremely fragil right now. We havent had sex yet because im still getting ready, but we have explored plenty of other things sexually, we are both very open minded people and we feel confortable enought with each other to be at ease trying things we havent done before. I completly trust him (or i used to think i did), i was up to experimenting anything, i even givin him a rimjob, and ive never though i would do that in my life.
Ok now the main problem, so to speak... My boyfriend has a fetish for anal sex, i know this because he is obcess with it, he watches it in porn (we've seen porn together several times), and he talks about how he want to try it with me, wich its not something im scared of, i mean, im up for experimenting. He told me that he had NEVER tried it before, and would love to. But yesterday something happen and now its making me doubt my trust for him. We have a friend in comon, hes my friend's boyfriend. Me my friend and her boyfriend (my bf friend) were talking very hopenly, like we always done it, and this guy warned me about my boyfriend fetish for anal sex, asking me if i knew about it. I said yes, i kne and it was something we've talked about and that im totaly ok with it, i actualy mentioned that fact tha my boyfriend told me he's never tried it bofere. This guys face turn birght red, and i know somethings up, so i try to make him spli his guts, and then he evetualy tells me that tha's a lie, and that my boyfriend had told him he had anal sex with his ex-girlfrien.
This really made me feel sad, not because of the "anal sex with his ex girlfriend", but because he lied to me, and now it mekes me question everything we have gone through together. Im realy hurt and i want to talk to my boyfriend about it, but i dont know how to aproch this issue. He just pains me a lot that he would lie to me, when we have such good comunication and he know i dont realy mind these thigns... This friend of ours started feeling realy bad about telling me and he is suposing that there may be the possibility that my boyfriend may have lied to him, you know, guys braging, but i just cannot be quiet, i realy need to adress this with my boyfriend.
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He could have lied to him or to you... but this is such unnecessary thing to lie about and i'd consider twice before continuing to be in relationship with him...
but do ask him out of curiosity why he lied and tell me what he says
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Just let him bum you it's all good.
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Well done to anyone who read the whole thing...
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It just a little white lie in my opinion
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Talk to him about it. He might have thought you weren't up for it if he tried it with someone else first or he might not have wanted to upset you. Hope things work out
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It could just as easily be a lie he told his friend for bravado, and what you got was the truth. Or maybe he lied to you because he didn't want you to feel pressured by the fact that he'd done it before. Worst case scenario is he lied to you to make you want to give him anal sex because he is finding it difficult waiting for you to be ready for vaginal sex, but can't think how to tell you.

There are many possible reasons why he lied and you can use this as a springboard for a frank discussion about both of your sexual needs and hang-ups.
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:lol: :lol: :lol: virgin who gave a rimjob
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(Original post by Brit_Miller)
:lol: :lol: :lol: virgin who gave a rimjob
Yes, I raised an eyebrow at that too. Never heard that delightful phrase before. I think OP might as well go the whole hog..
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(Original post by Zarek)
Yes, I raised an eyebrow at that too. Never heard that delightful phrase before. I think OP might as well go the whole hog..
Maybe some watersports as well just to feel comfortable before popping the cherry :lol:
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(Original post by Brit_Miller)
Maybe some watersports as well just to feel comfortable before popping the cherry :lol:
Absolutely
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He could have lied to the friend rather than you, talk to him.
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