What will you be doing over the Easter break? >>

What will you be doing over the Easter break? >>

What will you be doing over the Easter break? >>

upset

could do with some advice,

last night me and my boyfriend got very drunk and he started talking about love.

this may seem wierd to some people but weve been together 8 months and although i think im in love with him (i wont tell him this though) hes not in love with me an to be honest sometimes i feel like he says it alot that he isnt. he does tend to go on about although how much he likes me he isnt in love and doesnt think he will ever be with anyone untill hes been with them for years.

but last night he started asking me if i loved him which i refused to answer. he kept asking saying he wanted to know cos hes never been loved before. (he always jokes that he knows i do anyway but ive never said it) i asked if he loved me and he said yes i think i do. but i didnt believe him cos we joke about saying it quiet alot, he kept saying he did and asking me if i did then after a while he said nah i dont really was just winding you up. this has upset me a little but not much, but the thing that has upset me most is that he knows i dont want to split up when i go to uni and he said last night that if i turned round and said yes i do then maybe things didnt have to change but i was too scared to say anything incase he was joking and then id look like a fool.

this afternoon i sent him a text asking if he meant what he said that if i loved him then maybe we could stop together and he just said, "lets not go down that road it will make things awkward" which makes me think he didnt mean it at all. but know im really upset cos part of me thinks if id had just told him last night then maybe wed be ok, what if hes only saying that to save face? ...but then i guess i know he isnt, ive asked him loads of time if he still thinks we should break up and everytime the answers yes!

just upset me thats all. thanks for reading doubt anyone did get this far though

prettygreeneyes99

if you love him then just say it, what have you got to lose?

OP

he wont say it back though. and im leaving for uni in a week and were breaking up anyway. im not sure if theres any point??

prettygreeneyes99

no but at least your feelings will be out in the open, better than thinking 'what if' dont ya think :smile:

:smile:

Indeed. Remove all doubt and it might just make up his mind.

OP

and if he doesnt say anything and nothing changes?

prettygreeneyes99

then it wont be different to how it is now, but it will remove any doubt you have...

He would at least know how you feel and maybe from his reaction you'd confirm how he does.
If he doesn't feel about you the same way and it's upsetting you, maybe you should find someone else?

OP

thats not an option! i couldnt imagine not being with him even when i go im not really up for anything. im ok with us breaking up cos i know its amicable and that were staying friends so id still be able to talk to him etc.

also im dont know what loves like?if i am in love or if its just infatuations how can u distinguish the difference?

prettygreeneyes99

well i dont know about everyone else... but i think after 8 months, it cant be infatuation, infatuation in my opinion is something you get in the first 3 months or so where you think their the best thing since sliced bread and your pretty much all over them all the time & dont stop thinking about them.. and love is well, love

OP

he constantly says that he doesnt love me though and he does say that its not to do with me its due to him, and that hell need to be with someone for 1yr plus before he thinks he can

but then when hes drunk hes always saking if i love him and saying he loves me but when i cos of what hes said i dont say anything back then he says that hes jokin.

do you reckon its just the drink talking n making him more luvvy duvvy ( to be fair drink can do that!!) or do you think when i dont say it back then he pretends hes jokin. but to be fair hes not the type of person to do this although on this occasion he might be

honest opinion please

Personally whatever he feels towards you I think you should tell him you love him, thats the kind of thing you just can't keep to yourself!

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