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Single people in your 20s- how much sex do you have?

I was just wondering how much sex do single people who are in their 20s have.

I'm currently 25 and single (have had sex with just one girl before, my ex gf). Although I manage to get dates fairly regularly (thank you Tinder!), I have never experienced this "hook up culture" that people speak of and I generally suck at escalating things to a more physical level with my dates.

I was just wondering whether I'm the only guy who is hopeless with girls despite managing to get dates or if this is a hardship faced by many, despite constant efforts on the dating front?

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TSR probably isn't the best place to ask.
TSRians spend all their energies trying to get top GCSEs and top A levels and 1sts at uni. They have no time for dating. :biggrin:
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Think of how much you think everyone is getting...

Then divide it by 10. You may get your answer then
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Original post by MorganA07
Think of how much you think everyone is getting...

Then divide it by 10. You may get your answer then


Even if its just making out with your date (or some randomer) it's more than me.
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Don't beat yourself up on it...

Its better to have coitus with someone you love than just random hook-ups
I'm 22 and I've only ever had one sexual partner. It's been nearly 2 years since that happened incidentally. I would say at the moment my sex life is pretty much non-existent.
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Original post by MorganA07
Don't beat yourself up on it...

Its better to have coitus with someone you love than just random hook-ups


Perhaps yes but a random hook up is still a significant improvement on nothingness.
Not enough :cry2:
None. Ever. Why do you think I joined this site in the first place?
Not single anymore but I was for quite a while, during that time I didn't have sex. I did have the opportunity several times but I'm not keen on the idea of casual sex; I did kiss guys on dates or nights out but that's it. My boyfriend was also single for a while before he met me; he didn't have sex during that time either.
Original post by Anonymous
I was just wondering how much sex do single people who are in their 20s have.

I'm currently 25 and single (have had sex with just one girl before, my ex gf). Although I manage to get dates fairly regularly (thank you Tinder!), I have never experienced this "hook up culture" that people speak of and I generally suck at escalating things to a more physical level with my dates.

I was just wondering whether I'm the only guy who is hopeless with girls despite managing to get dates or if this is a hardship faced by many, despite constant efforts on the dating front?


When I was single, it tended to go in fits and starts. You'd meet a girl and have a couple of weeks of regular sex, and then you'd move on and have a couple of quiet weeks where nothing much happened, then something else would turn up and you'd be back at it again and so on.

The important thing is not to worry about it. Just stay busy and keep socialising and meeting new people and these things just happen. Also - make sure you do a good job so the girl will want to do it again and will also tell all her friends about you.

I never went on a date, maybe that's where you're going wrong?
Rarely :frown:

What the hell is sex? :'(


Think about this: less chance of STDs, less chance of getting someone pregnant...

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I don't even get dates or any kind of level above just being friends/acquaintances :huff:

Women want nothing to do with me on that level apparently... :frown:
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Original post by cole-slaw
Also - make sure you do a good job so the girl will want to do it again and will also tell all her friends about you.


Not easy for someone who doesn't have sex much. You're exposed to tons of problems like nerves. I suppose alcohol will help cure that.

Also... where the hell do you socialise if you hate clubs?

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Original post by datpiff
Not easy for someone who doesn't have sex much. You're exposed to tons of problems like nerves. I suppose alcohol will help cure that.

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Alcohol helps - but not too much!

You do have the whole night and morning remember.

It helps if you get a girlfriend, even for just a few months, at some point before the age of 20. That should give you enough sex to feel confident that you know what you're doing from then on, and so nerves are no longer an issue.
Original post by MorganA07

Its better to have coitus with someone you love than just random hook-ups


Firstly who calls it coitus other than Shelden Cooper? Secondly... no **** Sherlock, who would have thought sex with someone you really care about is better than sex with a stranger. :dontknow:That still doesn't mean casual sex is pointless. Nothing wrong with two people having a fun fling.
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Original post by cole-slaw
Alcohol helps - but not too much!

You do have the whole night and morning remember.

It helps if you get a girlfriend, even for just a few months, at some point before the age of 20. That should give you enough sex to feel confident that you know what you're doing from then on, and so nerves are no longer an issue.


About being able to get it up happens to every man at least once in his life. It's the worst **** ever. All that can be done is to laugh.


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I spend too much time being awesome to notice...now I think about it. I get none. But who cares?
Original post by datpiff
About being able to get it up happens to every man at least once in his life. It's the worst **** ever. All that can be done is to laugh.


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Yeah maybe,, but surely you can work around it. Just keep foreplaying til you get going again. She'll just think you're an incredibly considerate lover.

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