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dilemma
heres the situation...
ive broken up with my bf who i went out with for 5 years and was going to get engaged to...
its been a month since the break up and im already dealing with two guys although im not over my ex and i love him like crazy still, even though he cheated on me and then broke up with me...
anyway, both guys know that i still love my ex and im depressed because hes left me for someone else...
the first guy is a psycho who threatens me into going out with him, comes to see me at night from his car window even though i'm with family and grabs hold of every opportunity to shove his tongue down my throat when im drunk.
the second guy is a sweetheart and is honest with me and says that he really likes me but hes always out partying and he is cousins with one of the rude boys that i used to go to college with..
what should i do in terms of these two guys? i still love my ex and i dont want to lead anyone on but i love the attention too!
ive broken up with my bf who i went out with for 5 years and was going to get engaged to...
its been a month since the break up and im already dealing with two guys although im not over my ex and i love him like crazy still, even though he cheated on me and then broke up with me...
anyway, both guys know that i still love my ex and im depressed because hes left me for someone else...
the first guy is a psycho who threatens me into going out with him, comes to see me at night from his car window even though i'm with family and grabs hold of every opportunity to shove his tongue down my throat when im drunk.
the second guy is a sweetheart and is honest with me and says that he really likes me but hes always out partying and he is cousins with one of the rude boys that i used to go to college with..
what should i do in terms of these two guys? i still love my ex and i dont want to lead anyone on but i love the attention too!
Tell the first guy where to go, and keep being friends with the sweet guy who is a cousin to the rude boy. Who cares what his cousin is like? He's a sweet guy, keep being friends with him and maybe you'll develop feelings for him down the line when things with your ex are more of a distant memory than a fresh one.
Reply 3
Id say leave it untill your completely over your ex ,dont rush into any new relationship unless your sure,course you love the attention we all do :P.just try your best not too lead him on its easier said than done,but that way you can still enjoy the attention!Im sorry to hear about you and your boyfriend it must be terrible but just take it as an experience,You will find someone better 
Anonymous
heres the situation...
ive broken up with my bf who i went out with for 5 years and was going to get engaged to...
its been a month since the break up and im already dealing with two guys although im not over my ex and i love him like crazy still, even though he cheated on me and then broke up with me...
anyway, both guys know that i still love my ex and im depressed because hes left me for someone else...
the first guy is a psycho who threatens me into going out with him, comes to see me at night from his car window even though i'm with family and grabs hold of every opportunity to shove his tongue down my throat when im drunk.
the second guy is a sweetheart and is honest with me and says that he really likes me but hes always out partying and he is cousins with one of the rude boys that i used to go to college with..
what should i do in terms of these two guys? i still love my ex and i dont want to lead anyone on but i love the attention too!
ive broken up with my bf who i went out with for 5 years and was going to get engaged to...
its been a month since the break up and im already dealing with two guys although im not over my ex and i love him like crazy still, even though he cheated on me and then broke up with me...
anyway, both guys know that i still love my ex and im depressed because hes left me for someone else...
the first guy is a psycho who threatens me into going out with him, comes to see me at night from his car window even though i'm with family and grabs hold of every opportunity to shove his tongue down my throat when im drunk.
the second guy is a sweetheart and is honest with me and says that he really likes me but hes always out partying and he is cousins with one of the rude boys that i used to go to college with..
what should i do in terms of these two guys? i still love my ex and i dont want to lead anyone on but i love the attention too!
My sympathies, it must be hard when a relationship of such longevity ends.
As for dealing with the first guy, may I suggest not getting drunk (or at the very least not getting *as* drunk) so that he can't take advantage of you in such an idiotic manner?
As regards the second, I realise that if you're not a party animal then this guy's party instincts may be a problem - but the very fact that you say 'when I get drunk' implies that you too do it at least on a semi-regular basis, so how much of a problem is it for you that this guy likes to party? Secondly, the fact of who his cousin is should be irrelevant.
There's nothing wrong with a little harmless flirting --in fact the attention you receive from the second guy seems rather flattering and may slowly help you to get over your ex. The first guy sounds like a total minger and any attention from someone like that is negative attention as far as I'm concerned - your best course of action would probably be to disassociate yourself from him entirely.
I would also say don't go out with either of them *yet* until you're absolutely certain you're over your ex - it's not fair to string anyone along.
its been said, but yeah, the first guy's a knob and he needs to be put into his place.
the second guy seems like he may actually be worth something, stick with him as a friend for a bit, see whether it develops. if itdoesn't, no hard feelings coz there are many more fish in the sea, but if feelings do develop i'm sure you both can compromise e.g. he'll stop partying as much, you may begin to get along with the 'rude' boy.
the second guy seems like he may actually be worth something, stick with him as a friend for a bit, see whether it develops. if itdoesn't, no hard feelings coz there are many more fish in the sea, but if feelings do develop i'm sure you both can compromise e.g. he'll stop partying as much, you may begin to get along with the 'rude' boy.
Reply 6
Well for one thing i know you can't fall out of love just like that with your ex partner, but what he did to you is a disgrace, he is the real loser in this.
The first guy don't even bother with he is trying to take advantage of you and probably thinks your easy meat.
The second guy may be worth being friends with for now at least, but i do not think you are ready for another relationship just yet.
The first guy don't even bother with he is trying to take advantage of you and probably thinks your easy meat.
The second guy may be worth being friends with for now at least, but i do not think you are ready for another relationship just yet.
Reply 7
Kill Them Both
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