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im not much of a conversationalist, and at school i had a few close friends, but never had anyone i could really talk to. im not quiet or extremely shy, i just sometimes never have anything good to talk about! im worried when i meet new people they think im ultra boring and go talk to someone else.

Please dont say "be urself", because it wont work.

Can someone give me pointers to some good coversation starters apart from the usual "what course u doing, where u staying etc." because that becomes really boring really fast. Like maybe some jokes?

Something to break the ice.

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Reply 1

OC_girl

I wouldn't suggest going round telling jokes. Just make people feel comfortable in your presence.

How?

smile at them (but not like a maniac) be down to earth, take an interest in the things they say, pay them a compliment (if you mean it, and don't over do it!)

Reply 4

flyingpig

if ur in halls ask if anyone wants a cup of tea. etc

Reply 5

dutch_stud

everyone is on the same boat, and just as scared to you to talk to anyone. Surely if you start a conversation about jackall such as what course are u doing or where are you from they wil be happier than if you dont say anything at all. Everyone is scared and will be grateful if anyone talks to them no matter what, conversations wil naturally bloom from that. Show some interest and initiative and it will tkae you a far way - you've got the world and its people at your finger tips, its not gonna come any closer than that

Reply 6

username47781

There are so many opportunities to meet new people, join clubs etc, as the people above have said, take interest when you are involved in a conversation.

Reply 7

lovelee-jublee

There will be so many people at Uni you're bound to find people with similar interests as you, so don't worry.

Also remember that no-one at Uni will know about your past, so you don't have to be intimidated or shy around anyone regarding that - this is the best time to make a fresh start. Good luck :smile:

Reply 8

dutch_stud

you can start by going onto the forum of your uni here at TSR - providing that its listed. or join myspace and find ur uni - u can start talking to pppl on ur course who have the same fears as u do

Reply 9

Zafda

you just have to try talking to various people; ones you study with, live with, hang around with.. all with an open mind. you can't have a script for what you should say, just go for it with an open mind.

Reply 10

j.r.87

OC_girl

I wouldn't suggest going round telling jokes. Just make people feel comfortable in your presence.

well....i think making ppl smile works, for me it does.

Reply 11

OC_girl

j.r.87

well....i think making ppl smile works, for me it does.

i just don't like jokes and tend to get annoyed by people telling them. But i have had a sense of humour by-pass, not everyone has. :wink:

Reply 12

Anonymous #2

flyingpig

if ur in halls ask if anyone wants a cup of tea. etc

NO, do not under any circumstances make tea for anyone. I did that once, they started choking, their face went red and they began spluttering up blood and vomit. The carpet was left in a right mess, I don't think the stains will ever come out.

Reply 13

OC_girl

Anonymous

tell that story to new people you meet, that'll endear you to them.

Reply 14

Jack0

The best piece of advice I can give you is to be interested in people, and listen to what they have to say. People love to be listened to. Ask questions and be relaxed.

Reply 15

wainwright

Jack0

The best piece of advice I can give you is to be interested in people, and listen to what they have to say. People love to be listened to. Ask questions and be relaxed.

spot on. also join societies so that you meet plenty of people with similar interests :smile:

Reply 16

Scuttle

Get drunk, everyone else will be.

Reply 17

wainwright

Neilan

Get drunk, everyone else will be.

not the best way of making friends though is it?

Reply 18

Anonymous #2

OC_girl

tell that story to new people you meet, that'll endear you to them.

It's not really true, but the look on people's faces......

Reply 19

matt@internet

I'm sorta the same OP 'cept I am quite shy. The people on my flat just talked to me. I was supposed to go out with them last night, but after they got on the bus I was told I had to wait for the next one as it was full. So I got on the next one, and as I was waiting outside the club to get in, as I had no ticket and had to buy one there these guys next to me started talking to me, and that was it. Just had a beer with them in the club, listened to the music and spoke a bit, went out and got a burger and then got a taxi home. It was that easy.