Parent Issues : Moving In With Boyfriend

I've just told my parents that I'm getting a flat with my boyfriend.
Naturally, they are very upset and angry, but I'm just wondering if there's anything I can do or say to make the next couple of weeks easier until I have moved out? Also, has anybody here experienced this situation before, and if you did, how did you cope with it?

Reply 1

matt@internet

12

Finally found a flat have you? :smile:

Reply 2

xChellex

OP

matt@internet

Finally found a flat have you? :smile:

Yes, thanks. It's being held for us, the landlorad has said yes, so we're just waiting on references. :biggrin:

Reply 3

username47781

20

Well your old enough to move out to be honest, but i can understand them being angry, how long you been with your boyfriend?

Reply 4

xChellex

OP

Carl1982

Well your old enough to move out to be honest, but i can understand them being angry, how long you been with your boyfriend?

Been good friends fora bout 7 years, been a couple for 6 months.

Reply 5

username47781

20

It's a big step in the relationship, maybe your parents are worried it's too soon.

Reply 6

xChellex

OP

Carl1982

It's a big step in the relationship, maybe your parents are worried it's too soon.

They said I've thrown my whole life away and how could I do such a thing to them. :frown:

I think they feel shamed of me really, but I don't know how to handle them, because I don't like to see them upset, but on the other hand, I want to move out and I want to go to uni. I want to get out in life on my own now, without parents.

Reply 7

username47781

20

Well your not exactly throwing your life away if your going to University, shows more ambition than anything else.

Reply 8

Figaro123

Then they should respect that. You haven't thrown your life away! They make it sound irreversible, not to mention bad.

Reply 9

dita_parlo

11

I went through the same thing when I moved in with my ex. It was literally hell the week before I moved out, but as soon as I moved they were ok with it. Are you the eldest/only child? With my experience it was that my parents didn't want to let go of their little girl. Once I actually moved though, things went back to normal.

Reply 10

xChellex

OP

dita_parlo

I went through the same thing when I moved in with my ex. It was literally hell the week before I moved out, but as soon as I moved they were ok with it. Are you the eldest/only child? With my experience it was that my parents didn't want to let go of their little girl. Once I actually moved though, things went back to normal.

Yeah, I'm an only child, so it makes it difficult for them I know. I hope it goes back to normal soon - and I especially hope they don't try to sabotage the flat. I mean, I know they can't do anything to stop us moving, but they can make it that little bit more difficult. :frown:

But thanks for your reply - I do feel reassured that it'll go back to normal. :smile:

Reply 11

pumpkin7

13

are you an only child perchance?

ah ok, that makes sense then. just give it time, they will get used to it eventually.

Parent Issues : Moving In With Boyfriend

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