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best friend got with the guy i am seeing
I was seeing this guy, and my best mate just got with him and has just told me they're going out.
I'm not sure how to react to this situation. Five of my close friends also knew, and I didn't find out until today - this has been going on for 2 months.
I don't blame the relationship my friend has with the guy I was seeing, but I blame the fact that she kept the whole situation from me until now they're actually going out.
I'm confused and don't know how to act. Do I forgive my friend?
She made a mug out of me for 2 months because I didn't know this was going on. She broke my trust because she actually promised me back in July that she'd never pull him (and was a bit insulted by the fact that I'd think she could do such a thing).
And she'd been lying to me because I had a feeling something might be going on but she said that nothing was, even though she had perfect oppurtunities to tell me about their relationship some time since July/August?
I'm not sure how to react to this situation. Five of my close friends also knew, and I didn't find out until today - this has been going on for 2 months.
I don't blame the relationship my friend has with the guy I was seeing, but I blame the fact that she kept the whole situation from me until now they're actually going out.
I'm confused and don't know how to act. Do I forgive my friend?
She made a mug out of me for 2 months because I didn't know this was going on. She broke my trust because she actually promised me back in July that she'd never pull him (and was a bit insulted by the fact that I'd think she could do such a thing).
And she'd been lying to me because I had a feeling something might be going on but she said that nothing was, even though she had perfect oppurtunities to tell me about their relationship some time since July/August?
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Was you actually in a relationship with this guy or was it just a bit of casul? if you was in a relationship with him them what she has done is awful and i would never forgive her for it, mind you the guy would be equally stupid.
Carl1982
Was you actually in a relationship with this guy or was it just a bit of casul? if you was in a relationship with him them what she has done is awful and i would never forgive her for it, mind you the guy would be equally stupid.
well my mate knew that i liked him loads, and she could see that i was trying to have a proper relationship with him... but obviously that never came about.
Anonymous
well my mate knew that i liked him loads, and she could see that i was trying to have a proper relationship with him... but obviously that never came about.
So technically you weren't in a relationship with him then?
Carl1982
So technically you weren't in a relationship with him then?
no, but surely she would have known that he was out of bounds, because her seeing him would have really hurt my feelings?
It's an awful thing what your "friend" has done and i don't think i could forgive her if she was my friend. Ditto the guy. Actually she doesn't sound like a good friend at all.
Anonymous
no, but surely she would have known that he was out of bounds, because her seeing him would have really hurt my feelings?
Trouble is she can do that since you weren't actually in a relationship with him, but still yeah what she's done is very cruel, but i wouldn't waste time on either of them to be honest. But if your in that situation next time with a guy, make it clear what you want, whether it's a relationship or not.
Carl
she's your best friend? sounds like she's pretty insensitive to your feelings.
yeah, she said that she didn't tell me sooner because she didn't know if it was serious or not, but i was so besotted with this guy...
That's pretty awful. Don't think I'd forgive her - at least, not for a long time.
I advise thee to find some better friends.
I advise thee to find some better friends.
Zafda
i hate 'friends' that do that.
a) if they were truely your friends you'd have known about it long ago, sod that they'd have never even considered hurting you the way they did.
i dunno if they meant to cause you to feel crap, but you obv do. try hanging around with different people?
a) if they were truely your friends you'd have known about it long ago, sod that they'd have never even considered hurting you the way they did.
i dunno if they meant to cause you to feel crap, but you obv do. try hanging around with different people?
yeah i have 2 best mates, the one one is being supportive. they dont know each other, so its nice to have the outider view kinda thing
Personally i think you might be being a bit harsh. You werent actually going out with him, and maybe you never were going to. She has he own story too, she also must have really liked him that would have made it out of bouds to you perhaps. If she had a chance with him and you didnt, why are you begruding your friend happiness?
If i was you i would forgive my friend, there was no defined relationship and if they liked eachother, its just sort of something that happens.
although if it was as my last ex who i was completely going out with who then kissed and groped my best mate then i would forgive them still but its just hard to find the good points after these things happen
you have to think is your friendship worth falling out over for a guy.
although if it was as my last ex who i was completely going out with who then kissed and groped my best mate then i would forgive them still but its just hard to find the good points after these things happen
you have to think is your friendship worth falling out over for a guy.
Well i can see that maybe she should of stayed clear but if he really liked her more thna you and you wern't going out then i don't see a problem. She should of talked to you about it though if she had feelings for him. Can't judge this situation without hearing from the other girl as well.
The thread title is a bit wrong, seeing as how you weren't "seeing" him; it was more a case of wishful thinking.
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