help?

I'm really upset because recently stuff between me and my best friend hasn't been good - since we've gone back to school i've been feeling really depressed and she's been all quiet and stressed with stuff and although I always feel really upset in the evening, i still call her and make the effort to ask her how she is, what shes up to etc and she is really moody and off with me and i said to her that stuff has been bad between us and shes like 'it's just us getting back into the school routine' so i was like yeah ok maybe it is... but then we went out yesterday and i had just had a fight with my parents and felt like crap and she didn't even ask me if I was ok or what was wrong and we didn't talk all day and then when i called today she's all moody with me and I just don't know what's going on and every time i ask her if she's ok she says shes fine and is then really moody... it's just upsetting me because she doesn't seem like she cares and even though i'm so miserable i'm making the effort to talk to her and be nice and she knows im depressed but in response she's moodier and more unsociable then ever. what to do... :confused:

Reply 1

generalebriety

Maybe you're moody when you're depressed. Maybe she's depressed and you're just not noticing, and taking her word for it when she says she's ok. But, really, if she doesn't want to tell you what's up, what chance do we have? Ask her what's wrong. Again.

Reply 2

sufiankane

try giving her a bit of space.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

i really want to give her space but then i find myself missing her and wondering what shes up to and if she actually doesn't want to be friends anymore...

Reply 4

generalebriety

I've never understood giving people space. I don't want my friends to give me space. I want them to be around me, and if at all I ever don't want them to be around me then they're not my friends.

Oh well. I'm mildly autistic. That would explain why I don't get it.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

Yeah exactly, if im upset i want my friends with me all of the time, i hate being alone. that is why i don't want to give her space, i want stuff to go back to normal but it's just not happening =( x

Reply 6

Haze1412

Anonymous

Yeah exactly, if im upset i want my friends with me all of the time, i hate being alone. that is why i don't want to give her space, i want stuff to go back to normal but it's just not happening =( x

how long have you known her for? does she always react this way when she's stressed/upset? Sometimes, people just want to know you're there for them and that to them is comforting until they feel that theyre ready to confide in you. The best thing to do is not to push it. I'm sorry though if youre feeling miserable as well, that really does suck. perhaps try talking to someone else, another friend, or parent (?!).

Haze x

Reply 7

quintsy

I think everyone's different, and some people like to have a shoulder to cry on when they're troubled; whereas others prefer to keep it to themselves until it [hopefully] is rectified.

I think the best thing to do is be honest again about how you're feeling, but be gentle because it seems like she's going through something tough. Tell her you're worried about her- you're not trying to pry, just you think you might be able to help her or at least be there for her.

After that it pretty much depends on how she feels- she might want your help, or she might prefer to deal with it herself. Don't blame yourself though- you've done all you can to try to help.

Good luck! I hope things get better. :smile: