Do I go to her birthday?

My friend's birthday is coming up soon but I am not sure whether I should go. A guy who is in his 30s with little going for him will be there who I detest as he said bad things about my boyfriend for no reason and caused trouble for me and my friends, and another old school friend will be going who keeps telling lies and dating the dodgiest people around.

The friend who's birthday it is has become on a constant liar, is secretive and is messing about with a married man - which I don't like this cheating behaviour. Do I go and face these people and have an awful time or not go and look like I don't care?

Reply 1

squigaletta

Don't go, sounds like you don't really want to be friends with thses people so whats the point in going and being fake?

Reply 2

LadyEnglish

Just go, it's only one night and will mean a lot to your friend even if you're hating every minute. Sacrifice :wink:

Let go of all your judgements for the night, avoid the people you don't like and try and enjoy yourself :smile:

Good luck xxx

Reply 3

kam

Personally I wouldn't go. I'd explain to the birthday girl why, the fact that there would be weird/detestable people there.
Maybe give her a card/present another time? If she doesn't understand that, it's her problem, you're being honest at least.

Reply 4

sidi

I'd give it a miss. Maybe your friend will get the message that you're finding her behaviour difficult.

Reply 5

holly_golightly

Go for an hour, get an important fone call that presents an emergency that you have to attend to immediately (or alternatively develop an illness). You've turned up then, and shown willing. Also, if you do end up having a good time you can quite easily stay. :smile:

Reply 6

WokSz

Don't go, especially as you seem to really not want to be friends with them! :P

Reply 7

toipot2

I dont think id go

Reply 8

Tennessee

I would go...for two reasons. 1) If you WANT to keep these friends, however terrible, it's best to just go and suffer. At least they can't throw that in your face. 2) Think of all the comedy moments. lol i know that sounds weird...but you have to admit, being amongst all those people who you seem to have a dislike for IS kind of funny...i find awkward moments hilarious to talk about, whether it happened in a nice way or not :p:

I don't know, i just think that if you want to stay friends with these people then go, you never know, they might change, and you might also regret not being there. It's better to go and hate it than look back and think 'i wish i'd gone'. Remember - hindsight is a bi***

Reply 9

Rusty33

If I were you, I would go, look cute at hell, take your boyfriend and make sure he looks fly as hell, and leave early as you two have "other things you need to get to."

Sounds to me like these people are bottom feeders. If they are looking down on you, it sounds more to me like they're really looking up at you. I'd say give them something to look at, and as graciously as you can, leave them with a salty taste in their mouth.

But, that's just me. :wink:

Reply 10

Schroedinger's Pandora

As far as I agree with the above poster, my instincts would be to not bother with it at all.

Make your excuses and go somewhere you really want to go.

Reply 11

Dragon24

Why let these people get the better of you?

You could show your face as I'm sure your friend would appreciate it, she may feel bad if you don't go and they will be glad they got to you.

If you really can't face it - perhaps you could do something separate with her?