Want to ask a girl out... but problem...

Mornin people i need some suggestions! I met this girl in my class at the begining of college. She is a first year while im a second year. I am usually the kinda person whom is not even interested being with another girl (am i asexual?) but for some reason im am so attracted to this girl and I set a precident for myself in wanting to have conversations with her and we got on really well. However last friday when I was walking back from college her friends (rather bitchy people) asked me if i liked her, at this point I just tried to not give a straight answer and one of their reply was she had a b/f.

Nwo this really surprised me as she was acting as if she doesn't (at lunch wants me to show her around the college and wants to get to know). I asked my friends for their opinions and it was generally split between go for it and leave her alone. My head is telling me to leave her as she is in a relationship and I should respect this... but my heart tells the opposite.... and this is really making me confused.. any help would be great

Reply 1

notts

situations like this are always hard.
seeing as you dont know the guy, i say go for it.

but then if she gets with you, would you trust her knowing she abandoned a previous boyfriend?

i find it horribly rude when people who know me try it on with my GF so i guess that is tainting my reply, and if i was single like you i would probably just say go for it.

Reply 2

mipmapped

13

Maybe she just wants to be your friend.

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

Find out for sure! There's only one way to know, just ask her. Personally I like boys to have courage in talking to me about things like this. Her bitchy friends may not even be telling the whole truth. But even if she has got a b/f at least you will know where you stand.

Go for it!

Reply 4

Big Fat Mel

Anonymous

Find out for sure! There's only one way to know, just ask her. Personally I like boys to have courage in talking to me about things like this. Her bitchy friends may not even be telling the whole truth. But even if she has got a b/f at least you will know where you stand.

Go for it!

Or just try to find out whether she does have a boyfriend with some careful remarks. Even if she does, she might be impressed that you are taking an interest in her. (Or not, just see how it goes)

Reply 5

Robcampo

6

ask her if she has a bf... bt dnt make it evident u wnt to ask her out, just drop it in conversation, ' what you doing tonight, you got a boyfriend or anything that your going to see'

then you know for sure

Reply 6

username47781

20

Find it for sure if she has a boyfriend if she does i would back off but there is no harm in being just friends.

Reply 7

Lewisy-boy

11

never ask if she has a boyfriend ... act as if you have no idea then when she says it say "woah, I dont need to know all your problems!!" and continue as if she didnt say it.

asking if she has a boyfriend is a sucker move.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

any response from the girls would be nice

Reply 9

mipmapped

13

You have a butt problem? Unlucky.

Reply 10

Lady Stardust

Er, well DON'T get all defensive if she tells you she has a bf, and go "Woah you dont need to tell me all your problems" or whatnot. Even said in a jokey way, it's kinda odd and rude, and it will probably cause some sort of arkward silence or she will be annoyed. I know I would be if I mentioned I had a boyfriend and someone just randomly said that.

She may have a boyfriend or she may not. Friends are weird, and they get jealous really easily. Some of my friends have lied to guys I've fancied or lied to me about guys I fancy, I wouldn't believe it 100% exactly. Did she not mention a boyfriend at all to you? That's odd... I mean I don't expect her to go "OMG and then (insert boyfriend's name) said this!!" but some sort of acknowledgement...

Basically just keep going and developing a friendship, as you were doing before, if she has a boyfriend, stay in there I guess, but don't make any advances, and don't badmouth the boyfriend!

If she doesn't have a boyfriend, ask her to go for a coffee sometime. I don't know why, but with every girl I've spoken to, when a guy asked us to go for a coffee, we just know that they like us (It has always been the case with me...might not be with everyone) and maybe act a little more flirty so she gets the picture.

I'm a girl, btw.

Reply 11

Dragon24

17

I don't think you can class yourself as 'asexual' (lacking interest in or desire for sex) maybe you never found someone who takes your fancy until now. It would be weird if you fancied every single girl in the world, hence why we only take a shine to some and not others.

Reply 12

DrNick2006

10

I say, go for it! Even if she does have a bf, he might be a right arse or something... maybe... And, yeah, asexual's perhaps a bit far- selective may be better.

And I hate to say this, but I feel absolutely compelled to- where you put whom should be who. It would've tore me apart had I not have said it.

Reply 13

Zafda

8

Anonymous

Mornin people i need some suggestions! I met this girl in my class at the begining of college. She is a first year while im a second year. I am usually the kinda person whom is not even interested being with another girl (am i asexual?) but for some reason im am so attracted to this girl and I set a precident for myself in wanting to have conversations with her and we got on really well. However last friday when I was walking back from college her friends (rather bitchy people) asked me if i liked her, at this point I just tried to not give a straight answer and one of their reply was she had a b/f.

Nwo this really surprised me as she was acting as if she doesn't (at lunch wants me to show her around the college and wants to get to know). I asked my friends for their opinions and it was generally split between go for it and leave her alone. My head is telling me to leave her as she is in a relationship and I should respect this... but my heart tells the opposite.... and this is really making me confused.. any help would be great

a) her friends could be making it up, some girls say stuff like that so that the guy backs off, or they're not really her friend and stirring stuff.
b) ask her if she's taken, just casually in a convo, she may be taken but maybe their relationship isn't all that.

i wouldn't say you should give up because you don't know what her situation is like. stay friends with her, if she's really really set with this guy then maybe just keep it to friends, if not she'll soon split with this guy and it'll be good for you, hopefully.

Reply 14

Ron Stoppable

14

notts

situations like this are always hard

*flaccid

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