Why do people disrespect single mothers? *RANT*

"According to the Index of Leading Cultural Indicators, children from single-parent families account for 63 percent of all youth suicides, 70 percent of all teenage pregnancies, 71 percent of all adolescent chemical/substance abuse, 80 percent of all prison inmates, and 90 percent of all homeless and runaway children.

"It found that children brought up in single-mother homes ‘are five times more likely to commit suicide, nine times more likely to drop out of high school, 10 times more likely to abuse chemical substances, 14 times more likely to commit rape (for the boys), 20 times more likely to end up in prison, and 32 times more likely to run away from home.’"

Should add these are from the US but even so.

(Sauce: http://scottthong.wordpress.com/2009/04/16/ann-coulters-statistics-on-single-motherhood-and-the-suffering-it-causes/)

There's no reason to disrespect single mothers or fathers. There are a lot of reasons why a person can become a single parent, even if they've done their very best to be as secure as they possibly can be before having children - relationship-wise, career-wise, money-wise etc. Nobody can know how things will turn out a year, five years, or ten years in the future.

Being a single parent isn't easy. I'm not one myself, but my mother was (until she married my stepfather), and I know a couple of women who are. Both work hard and they are good parents. None of them could have expected what happened. It just happened, and they've done the best they could. They don't deserve to be demonised - far from it. Their kids are happy, creative, well-mannered and pleasant to be around, and that's an achievement for any parent, single or not.

Exactly my point. Repped

There's a very informative piece on this by Shawn James. You can read the full thing here. http://shawnsjames.blogspot.in/2013/04/ways-single-mothers-destroy-their-sons.html I've copypasted some bits here. Enjoy!



The most toxic environment for a boy growing up is a single mother household. I can tell readers from personal experience that boys don’t get all their needs met in a single parent household. Many of the lessons they learn in that hostile territory growing up make them into lost, confused men with no defined sense of identity.

How does a single mother destroy her son? Let me count the ways:
Speaking negatively about their father.
Saying negative things about men.
Teaching their sons to disrespect their fathers’ authority.
Teaching their sons to disrespect male authority and male authority figures.
Projecting anger at the father onto the son.
Not allowing their father to see them.
Bringing in substitutes for a father.
Coddling their sons.
Inconsistent discipline.
Teaching boys to be emotional.
Not teaching their sons what boundaries are.
Not teaching their sons coping skills.
Establishing a co-dependent relationship.
Smothering.
Bullying
Trying to run his life
Thinking she can raise a man be a man on her terms.
Trying to turn their sons into “Perfect” people.
Not encouraging them or supporting them in their quest to become independent men.
Not encouraging boys to embrace their masculinity.
Not encouraging boys to embrace their sexuality.
Misleading boys about Male/female relationships.
Sabotaging his relationships with women.

Well what are the mothers supposed to do? Just abandon their kids to be with their man?
If a guy truly loves you, he will want you whether you're single or have 10 kids. It wouldn't make a difference to him IMO

I don't really want children, and definitely wouldn't want one that wasn't mine. It's not hard to find someone that hasn't been pregnant before. I don't know why anyone in our day and age wouldn't have an abortion if they were a single mother. FYI my mum was a single mum.

I call this bull..

lmao at even the thought of raising another dudes kids

theres pathetic and then theres that

lmao at even the thought of raising another dudes kids

theres pathetic and then theres that

My sister became a single mother when her marriage broke down - the last straw was was when her husband drank the money she had saved for her children's school shoes. She devoted herself to them and only remarried two years ago, after thirteen years as a single mother.

One of my nieces is also a single parent - she separated from the father after he assaulted her and threw her across the room while she was pregnant. She has a beautiful little boy who suffers from a debilitating medical condition which often requires hospitalisation.

However there are also a lot of single fathers who are struggling to bring up their families, but who don't get the disapproval that single mothers receive. There are also a large number of fathers who long to be part of their children's lives but who have to fight against both the mothers and the courts to gain access to their children.

Life is rarely black and white. Anyone who is willing to face and accept the responsibility of being a parent is deserving of our support.

Well said. Voluntarily cuckolding yourself is utterly reprehensible.



Women, learn this lesson before it's too late: becoming a single mother will absolutely KILL your chances with desirable men. The only 'males' who would seriously consider dating you are at the bottom of the barrel and have no other options.

Marry a decent guy when you are young and desirable.

I don't really want children, and definitely wouldn't want one that wasn't mine. It's not hard to find someone that hasn't been pregnant before. I don't know why anyone in our day and age wouldn't have an abortion if they were a single mother.

Women, learn this lesson before it's too late: becoming a single mother will absolutely KILL your chances with desirable men. The only 'males' who would seriously consider dating you are at the bottom of the barrel and have no other options.

Marry a decent guy when you are young and desirable.

How can you abort existing children? 0.0

lmao at even the thought of raising another dudes kids

theres pathetic and then theres that

Women if you want to survive, make sure you stay close to your man.

How can you abort existing children? 0.0