how do i do this without looking desperate?

i really like this lad in my 6th form. hes just moved to my school from scotland. well today he asked me what my name was and apparently i went beetroot when he asked me what my name was. i told him my name and put my hand out so i could shake his hand. he shook my hand and well my friends were saying how weird it was to shake someones hand. i was only being polite... and they were saying ' controll yourself woman!' i asked him about where he came from etc...what his hometown was like and im worried i came across as desperate. im not desperate but i really like him.. how can i chat up a lad without comeing across as desperate?. i say hello to him whenever i see him and i think he might have gone funny with me...i dunno..please help!

Reply 1

OC_girl

i wouldn't worry about it, presumably you've not known him very long so i can't see how you could like him all *that* much.
If he chooses to be strange with you after you were friendly then just forget about him.

Reply 2

squigaletta

Just talk to him normally whenever you get the chance, but don't go out of your way to talk to him, and smile at him whenever you see him.

Reply 3

Anonymous #2

well so far everyone ive met at uni ive shaken their hand. And i wasnt always the first to offer the hand

Reply 4

username47781

20

Just get to know him more before making any moves on him, maybe go out for a drink somewhere.

Reply 5

notts

doesnt make u seem desperate, you just seem like you fancy him.

desperate would be chasing around after him and stuff.

just relax

Reply 6

Reue

20

Some guys like to be chased.

Reply 7

Sezkin

11

Anonymous

i really like this lad in my 6th form. hes just moved to my school from scotland. well today he asked me what my name was and apparently i went beetroot when he asked me what my name was. i told him my name and put my hand out so i could shake his hand. he shook my hand and well my friends were saying how weird it was to shake someones hand. i was only being polite... and they were saying ' controll yourself woman!' i asked him about where he came from etc...what his hometown was like and im worried i came across as desperate. im not desperate but i really like him.. how can i chat up a lad without comeing across as desperate?. i say hello to him whenever i see him and i think he might have gone funny with me...i dunno..please help!

As many people said in the post above... Don't worry about it, you don't seem desperate at all. You just shook his hands, it's not like you touched his private part and asked him out... Try and chill out. :p:

He likes you if he spoken to you and asked for your name, keep being friends with him and maybe in the future it'll build up into one beautiful relationship. :wink:

Good luck.

EDIT: Your friends are probably jealous because you got talking to this 'good looking' lad he he.

Reply 8

Zafda

8

you probably didn't come across as desperate, some friends like to be like OMG YOU'RE SOOOOOOOOOOO OBVIOUS when you're not.
no offence to guys but they are pretty slow.
he'll just think your friends were embarrasing you and that they're weird.
new kids like being spoken to and having their hands shaken etc.. i know, i've been new a few too many times.

Reply 9

NickNack

1

just my 2 cents, but i shake peoples hands all the time, guy or gal, whether im meeting them for the first time, or saying hi or bye to old friends. might seem wierd to some people, but everyone knows its just a, slightly old-fashioned, polite thing to do. And as for coming across desperate, lol well i doubt that being friendly to someone youve just met = desperation

like Zafda said, guys can be pretty slow sometimes :redface:

Reply 10

LadyEnglish

2

I'd hardly say you looked desperate, you'd only just met the boy! He probably found it funny you shook his hand and so will go home and be thinking 'hehe that girl shook my hand, I like her!' :biggrin:

lol well fingers crossed :p:

I think it's SWEET! lol xxx

Reply 11

Sensational

Its could be... Some people are just stupid when picking up the vibe from the opposite sex. Smile is the best but not everyone picks up on that. If that applies for you then maybe you need a friend to and thier unbiased senses to know if soemone is interested in you. Maybe he liked you but because of the way you presented yourself the first time he was like oh she isnt interested in my so no matter what happens now he's reluctant.

Reply 12

killerbee

12

Anonymous

. he shook my hand and well my friends were saying how weird it was to shake someones hand. i was only being polite... and they were saying ' controll yourself woman!'

that happened to me before its sooo embarassing - my mate introduced me to this guy i fancied and all i could do was look at the floor. he must have moved his hand and it went across my line of vision and i grabbed it and shook it

oh. dear. god.

how do i do this without looking desperate?

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