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    if u had to choose over ur best mate or boyfriend which wud u choose???
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    (Original post by psycho girl)
    if u had to choose over ur bst m8 or boyfriend which wud u choose???
    bf- my bf is my best mate so i would get the best of both worlds!!
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    best mate until were married.

    love Katy ***
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    My boyfriend is my best friend. Why would you have to choose?
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    (Original post by ickle_katy)
    best mate until were married.

    love Katy ***
    oooh....when are you getting married???
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    (Original post by ruthiepoothie)
    oooh....when are you getting married???
    im not, well not for a long time....

    (Original post by amb1)
    My boyfriend is my best friend. Why would you have to choose?
    because you had a horrible/cheeting/demanding/selfish boyfriend and your best mate couldnt stand you ignoring all of these factors so makes you choose between him and her...or you have a horrible/cheeting/demanding/selfish boyfriend who hates you spending time with your mates and makes you choose between him and her.

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    im not, well not for a long time....
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    oh.....ok

    i did have a situation like that a while ago......my then best mate decided she didn't like my bf and got really upset with me....i did actually choose him then...but we are still together and i am still really good friends with her so it all worked out
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    Surely it has to be your best mate....after all if you had found the right partner as it were you wouldn't have to make such a choice.....or am i being naive?!
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    (Original post by musiq)
    Surely it has to be your best mate....after all if you had found the right partner as it were you wouldn't have to make such a choice.....or am i being naive?!
    surely it depends who is making you choose....?
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    best mate definately...we've been best friends for like 7years so her over any1
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    (Original post by ickle_katy)
    because you had a horrible/cheeting/demanding/selfish boyfriend and your best mate couldnt stand you ignoring all of these factors so makes you choose between him and her...or you have a horrible/cheeting/demanding/selfish boyfriend who hates you spending time with your mates and makes you choose between him and her.

    love Katy ***
    If your boyfriend or best friend forces you to choose between them and someone they know you love a lot they clearly aren't thinking about you and what is best for you. Imo it's selfish to force someone into that kind of position and doing this will almost definitely push them away.
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    (Original post by Amb1)
    If your boyfriend or best friend forces you to choose between them and someone they know you love a lot they clearly aren't thinking about you and what is best for you. Imo it's selfish to force someone into that kind of position and doing this will almost definitely push them away.
    i agree!!!

    but you have to put your bf first to some extent- or your relationship will never go anywhere cos you will never see each other....
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    my ex-bf is my best friend + i would never try and mke him like my bf, just because the only thing they have in common is going out with me and it would be very weird if they were friends.

    i try and spend as much time as possible with them both. i would never stop talking to my best friend just cos my bf said so (although i'm pretty sure he's not entirely comfortable with our friendship, but he knows he can trust me) + i would never give up my bf just because my friend decided i wasn't spending enough time with him. you've got to try and compromise and if they don't get on just keep them seperate.

    lou xxx
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    (Original post by ruthiepoothie)
    surely it depends who is making you choose....?

    True....I guess i didn't think of the flip side cos my best mate would never do that!
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    (Original post by lou p lou)
    my ex-bf is my best friend + i would never try and mke him like my bf, just because the only thing they have in common is going out with me and it would be very weird if they were friends.

    i try and spend as much time as possible with them both. i would never stop talking to my best friend just cos my bf said so (although i'm pretty sure he's not entirely comfortable with our friendship, but he knows he can trust me) + i would never give up my bf just because my friend decided i wasn't spending enough time with him. you've got to try and compromise and if they don't get on just keep them seperate.

    lou xxx
    but keeping them separate means ultimately you will have to choose- i mean i know that my bf and one of my best friends don't really get on so if my friend asks me to do something i have to choose not to see my bf then.....
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    (Original post by ruthiepoothie)
    i agree!!!

    but you have to put your bf first to some extent- or your relationship will never go anywhere cos you will never see each other....
    Oh yeah, you have to balance your time between all your relationships (bf/gf/mates/family/time to yourself...). Best friends and boyfriends also should be understanding that there are only so many hours in a day!!
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    (Original post by ruthiepoothie)
    but keeping them separate means ultimately you will have to choose- i mean i know that my bf and one of my best friends don't really get on so if my friend asks me to do something i have to choose not to see my bf then.....
    but then surely you have to make that decision between all your groups of friends, i socialise seperately with my school friends and my college friends, i wouldn't say either suffered from it.

    and my ex-bf + my bf can tolerate each other, but would never spend any time together unless i was there. they both realise how important the other one is and i would be furious if either of them made me choose one of the other.

    lou xxx
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    (Original post by lou p lou)
    but then surely you have to make that decision between all your groups of friends, i socialise seperately with my school friends and my college friends, i wouldn't say either suffered from it.

    and my ex-bf + my bf can tolerate each other, but would never spend any time together unless i was there. they both realise how important the other one is and i would be furious if either of them made me choose one of the other.

    lou xxx
    its just all so complicated!!
    its hard for me at the mo tho cos my bf is still at school- and so sees all his friends there and talks to them and everything...and i am at work so i don't see anyone all day...
    then sometimes it makes me cross when he wants to go out with them instead of seeing me cos he has seen them all day....
    but i do get jealous easily......
    oh well.......:rolleyes:
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    My best mate!
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    Best Mate, cos i don't have a boyfriend.
 
 
 
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