Girlfriend upset [off to uni]

Okay well lets start this with saying that she is not upset because of me. Well not directly.

On friday she is off to uni. and her friends are either on a gap year or going to different uni's. I am being a "bum" and going on a gap year to get work and have some fun. Tommorow (Wednesday) we are all off to a local club to basically say bye etc as its the last time we will see each other before christmas time (ish). I am seeing her all of Wed and all of Thurs before she goes off.

Well the main problem is that I spent all of today with her and I left and she just told me that she has been crying because it all hit home, she is leaving everything behind, friends, family (and me... i guess). My problem is basically I know there will be tears on Weds and then i guess probably Thursday when I go.

What this topic is about is, is there anything I can do to comfort her? I have said pretty much everything I can about her keeping in contact with her friends because her friends are amazing and we already sorted something for xmas, about making new friends because she is so amazing, and me... well I will see her whenever she has time for me.

Just for the record I dont think this about her being worried about our relationship because we have talked enough about that, for that to be fine and all good, its more to do with her leaving security and friends behind :frown:

Any advise anyone?

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Reply 1

Reue

No - most people feel sad about leavig for uni, shes no different.

Reply 2

notts

nothing u can do.
i'd probably get a little bit frustrated in your situation though, im kinda unsympathetic to people crying when going to uni. uni is ****ing awesome.

are you going to see her before xmas? u say at first "last time you see each other before xmas"

but then later say "see her whenever she wants"

Reply 3

Seeks

Its the last time she will see her friends before xmas. I will be seeing her every fortnight or every week depending on her schedule. Sorry if that was confusing.

I am not frustrated because of the reason of the crying just the fact that I cant really do anything and I know i cant :frown:

Reply 4

Hygeia

no you prob cant do anything, i left for uni last week and was crying all over my boyfriend the morning i left and the night before, just be there for her and keep reminding her that she'll get to see everyone again

Reply 5

afcwill

Well, my advice is slightly different. My mum and dad knew that i would be homesick when i left my family for uni. So what they did was they put together a photo album of all my family (and my dog!) so then i wouldn't miss them as much. And so whenever i feel homesick i look through the photo album and its a bit of a pick me up, maybe you could do that with your girlfriend's friends or family - im sure she'd love that, thats what photos are for.

Reply 6

notts

i find it pretty pathetic to be quite honest. i guess thats why girls are seen as weaker than guys though.

obviously, if it was my girlfriend who needed consoling i would feel differently.
just hug her and tell her it's ok

Reply 7

Seeks

afcwill

what they did was they put together a photo album of all my family...

That is a great idea. Thanks :biggrin:

Reply 8

afcwill

Seeks

That is a great idea. Thanks :biggrin:

No probs mate, try to do it secretly though - it will be more of a surprise to her, she'll also like that you took the time out to do such a thing. :smile:

Reply 9

The_Bear

Weird. I couldn't wait to get off to uni, who cares about friends? Easy come easy go.

Reply 10

fatboy06

Lol..I care :frown:

. What I'd say is prob when she gets to uni she won't have too much time to be sad...hopefully.

Reply 11

Shreerac1

The_Bear

Weird. I couldn't wait to get off to uni, who cares about friends? Easy come easy go.

Like many things, you don't appreciate them till they're gone.

Reply 12

fatboy06

Shreerac1

Like many things, you don't appreciate them till they're gone.

Tis true.

Reply 13

Ariel4

When she gets there, shell be fine! everyone gets a bit upset when they go, because for most people, its the first time in a new place where they really dont know anyone. just remind her that everyone there will probably be feeling the same, and theres not really anything to worry about.

Reply 14

Seeks

I will do.

Btw on the picture thing got loads of her mates (who are amazing btw) and they are create some pages for me because I have till the end of tonight to do it. Ouch :s-smilie:

but it will be immense, even if its an all nighter

Reply 15

The_Bear

Shreerac1

Like many things, you don't appreciate them till they're gone.

Dude, I've been gone for 3 years and couldn't give a monkeys. I cannot remember the surname of my best friend, hows that for appreciation? :wink:

Reply 16

holly_golightly

I'd say i'm sure she'll be fine when she gets there. I know i'm going to get really upset when i go off to uni next week because it's such a big change. Just sit and talk to her and hug her lots. The photo album idea is amazing; id love it if my boyfriend did that for me :smile:

Reply 17

Seeks