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Can a guy not enjoy himself? (Booze)
I used to hang with the lads from time to time and we'd get pissed but I've always had this one mate of mine be funny when I've had something to drink. He'll make it obvious that he hates it when I drink, but yet he's slowly becoming quite the alcoholic.
This guy is a really close friend who considers me as the only person he'd tell everything to, but when we go out for a drink he's completely different. When we were all doing shots once, they all poured a second one but I didn't get another one, and someone asked him (while he was pouring) "Why doesn't he get another, why are you treating him like a kid?" and he replied "Would YOU like to take care of him when he's mashed?" and I was baffled at that to be honest. What the hell does that mean?
The worst thing is this is likely to affect me long-term, because I haven't had a drink in a month now because of this. Everytime one of them asks me to come out for a drink I'll refuse thinking he'll be there to shake his head. Now I'm not booze obsessed, but once in a while I do like a drink so what should I do? What's up with this geezer?
This guy is a really close friend who considers me as the only person he'd tell everything to, but when we go out for a drink he's completely different. When we were all doing shots once, they all poured a second one but I didn't get another one, and someone asked him (while he was pouring) "Why doesn't he get another, why are you treating him like a kid?" and he replied "Would YOU like to take care of him when he's mashed?" and I was baffled at that to be honest. What the hell does that mean?
The worst thing is this is likely to affect me long-term, because I haven't had a drink in a month now because of this. Everytime one of them asks me to come out for a drink I'll refuse thinking he'll be there to shake his head. Now I'm not booze obsessed, but once in a while I do like a drink so what should I do? What's up with this geezer?
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I don't know.
Eurasian
Post whore.
OP --- I agree.
OP --- I agree.
No, drink whore.
Duh! And it's penIs, not penOs.
Eurasian
Are you being racist?
What? What the f**k are you on man?
Maybe he doesn't like the way you act when you are drunk, you may not think you are particularly a problem when you are drunk, but he might. My boyfriend, although he is perfectly happy to let me drink, apparently i'm a complete pain in the arse when i'm hammered, which i haven't noticed but he has told me. Being my boyf he is happy to look after me, and pour a pint of water down my throat before i go to sleep to prevent a megabitch of a hangover spoiling whatever plans we might have for the next day, no offence but maybe you're like me and become a complete ****** when your drunk and he doesn't like having to deal with you cos you may not realise this. If he isn't the one dealing with you when your drunk, then i have no idea what he is doing and maybe pour your own drinks and if he doesn't like it, f*** him, it's his problem.
What in the hell happened to my thread?Thanks Datura for the advice though! Will consider it, sober or drunk, that is the question though.
hippieglitter, thanks for the advice.
I've thought about what I'm like when I'm drunk, and the first two occasions I was drunk he was there and he was actually laughing his head off from what I remember. He literally broadcasted that it was my first time drinking at this party on the mic (he's a DJ) and found it hilarious. But ever since, he's been odd. I think HE likes to get drunk, but doesn't want anyone else to, or something along those lines.
I've thought about what I'm like when I'm drunk, and the first two occasions I was drunk he was there and he was actually laughing his head off from what I remember. He literally broadcasted that it was my first time drinking at this party on the mic (he's a DJ) and found it hilarious. But ever since, he's been odd. I think HE likes to get drunk, but doesn't want anyone else to, or something along those lines.
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hippieglitter, thanks for the advice.
I've thought about what I'm like when I'm drunk, and the first two occasions I was drunk he was there and he was actually laughing his head off from what I remember. He literally broadcasted that it was my first time drinking at this party on the mic (he's a DJ) and found it hilarious. But ever since, he's been odd. I think HE likes to get drunk, but doesn't want anyone else to, or something along those lines.
I've thought about what I'm like when I'm drunk, and the first two occasions I was drunk he was there and he was actually laughing his head off from what I remember. He literally broadcasted that it was my first time drinking at this party on the mic (he's a DJ) and found it hilarious. But ever since, he's been odd. I think HE likes to get drunk, but doesn't want anyone else to, or something along those lines.
Maybe he wants someone to stay sober to look after him when he's drunk, and just through chance he has picked on you. Don't worry about it. By your use of the word alcoholic in your OP, he should be able to look after himself drunk or not, if you wanna get drunk, get drunk, its not his decision. HAVE FUN!!!
You shouldn't not drink because of him. As hippieglitter said, you may be annoying when you're drunk. You say he laughed at you when you were drunk, this doesn't necessarily mean he enjoys it when you're drunk: we can all do fake laughs.
Have you asked him why he has such a problem? Perhaps something happened in the past that he's feeling bitter about.
Have you asked him why he has such a problem? Perhaps something happened in the past that he's feeling bitter about.
Its difficult, because on one hand, yes everyone wants to go out and have a drink and a good time- but then again, its not fun being that person whos not drinking [for whatever reason] who has to put up with drunken behaviour; even if its not that bad. I know its a personal choice sometimes not to drink but [being in that position sometimes, myself] it isnt fun wandering around after someone/picking them up/making sure they get home safely blah blah blah when you want to have a good night out as well! Im in a similar position as your friend sometimes with my friend, and i feel ive lost our closeness because of drink; Its not that i disaprove of drinking because i do it myself but when i don't i can see different behaviour etc and its weird for close friends to see eachother acting differently/not themselves. I'm not implying you are completely different when you're drunk but there will be a difference and theres not much you can do apart not letting a silly thing like drink ruin a friendship. Me and my friends [after a rather eventful holiday] are finally getting back to normal over a couple of arguments to do with drink, so all i can say really is yes, go out and drink but don't do anything to jeopardise a friendship. If your friend disaproves of drink then i'm afraid thats tough as you can't change people's opinions unfortunately- however it shouldn't mean you are less of a friend for having fun.
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