Your first love

When do you finally move on and forget about your first love? Do you ever forget about them? Do you ever fall out of love with them? How do you cope seeing another person with them?

I've come out of a relationship for the right reasons but I do love him sometimes I guess. I do think of him and get jealous if I see him with someone else.

Reply 1

Creepy

14

Some people say you'll never love as strong again as your first love. Personally, took me a couple of months.

Reply 2

squigaletta

I never thought I'd get over him, and for quite a while every time we saw each other we'd end up making out (very not good). But then I met my current man and it made me realise that what I had before, I could have again but better, without the reasons we broke up. Now when I see him, we just ignore each other pretty much, bit of a shame but we've both changed so much, we don't even know who the other one is anymore.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

So if you don't find someone for a while you'll have a hard time trying to get over your ex lover?

Reply 4

squigaletta

I rekon you will stay in love with them until you find someone new, but doesn't neccessarily mean you'll have a hard time, just get nostalgic and what iffy til you find someone new.

Reply 5

The_Bear

13

pssst love doesnt exist

Reply 6

*Claire*

1

I don't think you have to find someone new. I had a hard time getting over my ex but eventually after about 9 or 10 months I releasied I was over him. I still think of him but now I can look back on what we had & feel happy about it but not wish to go back there. Altho I'm having a great time being single atm so maybe that has become my focus instead of a new man. I do agree that it may be quicker to get over someone if you meet someone new & better, cos then you don't feel you are missing what you had before.

Reply 7

squigaletta

You mean you havn't experienced it yet?

Reply 8

squigaletta

*Claire*

I don't think you have to find someone new. I had a hard time getting over my ex but eventually after about 9 or 10 months I releasied I was over him. I still think of him but now I can look back on what we had & feel happy about it but not wish to go back there. Altho I'm having a great time being single atm so maybe that has become my focus instead of a new man. I do agree that it may be quicker to get over someone if you meet someone new & better, cos then you don't feel you are missing what you had before.

Yeh, I'm sure I would have got over it eventually, but I can only speak from what I know, and I met my guy kinda soonish.

Reply 9

Tennessee

I'll never forget them, and i think that you'll always love them just a little bit. I had about three and a half months of not seeing or speaking to them at all. I was at the stage where I could talk about them and feel nothing and it would be fine :smile:

but then yesterday i hear they went to see my best friend with another friend and bang. I guess i'm not so over them. BUT, i'm doing pretty good! I don't really think about them, and when i do there isn't the same emotion attached. Just waiting...i think another month'll do it lol

Reply 10

Anonymous #2

3 and half months? pfft. I spent a whole year... broke up on christmas eve 2004 and didn't speak until new year 2006 apart from very chilly good mornings since we were in school together. In another relationship now, but I don't think I'm over her yet. It's not as if I prefer her over my current but everytime i think of her, my mood suddenly darkens. A happy moment can get ruined with a sudden recollection of soemthing similar with my former. Very annoying.

Reply 11

Anonymous #1

OP

It's so hard at the moment. Maybe because I'm lonely and waiting for university so start but on the whole I am thinking of my ex and asky my self do i love him still? I've told him I hate him in away for what he's done to me but I have momenst when I think of the good times and then i start to cry. Ahhh. I can't ever get back with him as he's hurt me too much but I want to fall out of love with him completely as it's messing me up.

Reply 12

A Y A Z

11

I feel bad for you. I'm still with my 'first love'... and I met her thru TSR! :love:

Reply 13

Charl

1

Ooooh name!? :p:

Reply 14

A Y A Z

11

If you hate him, then you have to forget about him. I know it will be hard for you, but you have to move on! How bout taking an interest in sports, or giving more time to any hobby that you enjoy. I'm sure that once Uni starts, you'll put this behind you, and maybe even meet someone really special! :smile:

Reply 15

A Y A Z

11

Sorry Charl, no names :p:

I promised her!

I'll let you know sometime :wink:

Reply 16

Rusty33

Yyeeaaahh... It's been over three years and I've dated somewhere in the ballpark of around 35 girls since my first love, and I still think about her every day. Maybe I'm different than most?

Reply 17

Doodahdoo

13

I still speak to my ex, and I still have feelings. I don't think that they mean anything, other than he was my first love, he was the one that I'll always remember.
We had a really unstable break up. I broke up with him for silly reasons, then we sort of got back together, and then he cut me out - but I was going all silly (psychiatric reasons). We broke up last September, we only really started talking again in June time.

I'll always have feelings for him. And I think that most people will say something similar. Will I act on them? No. But theres always something.
x

Reply 18

Anonymous #2

Give it time. It's very natural. You had someone very important in your life who's suddenly not there. A big void is created. You must fill it up with whatever you can (some people jump from one relationship to another but I don't recommend it). Spend more time with your friends or join some activity. Pick up an instrument or rediscover an old talent like drawing or whatever. And when you think of your bf, don't feel guilty but try to make your feelings more detached each time.

Eventually you'll find a better person to fill the void.

I know it's not really the best advice considering I spent a year getting over.. sigh. But now that I think back, I know what I COULD and SHOULD have done. And that's it.

Basically, if you have any close friends going to univ, spend more time with them and just relax.

Reply 19

BlackHawk

17

Many years on from my 'first love' yes you do get over them, yes you forget pretty much all elements of your relationship and you wonder what on earth you were doing in the first place. You realise it was just puppy love in comparison to what you're capable of feeling for someone else.

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