Arranged marriages

As a 19-year-old self-proclaimed loner/introvert for life, I often say to my parents that I don't want to get married. Ever. And I know I seem too young to be commenting on that, but I do say it. The closest I've ever been to a girl is an awkward slow dance, desperately avoiding eye contact, at senior prom.

I say I never want to get married because I care more about things that may seem trivial to you, but are the essence of life to me - football (American), kayaking, work, comedy, TV, music, etc. But nothing could be further from the truth. Perhaps my deepest, darkest secret is that I want - (dramatic and awkward contemplative moment) - an arranged marriage.

Are they really more modernized nowadays? Apparently they're largely facilitated by websites like shaadi.com, etc. But would something like that really work? I sometimes feel so ashamed. I'm a modernized US citizen. But I still want an arranged marriage. I guess it's because I feel like I have no chance in hell of actually finding a girl, and also because they (arranged marriages, not girls) seem to work better.

And don't think I want to marry some traditional girl from some obscure backwater because she'd be easy to control. I want a modern, educated, intelligent, witty Indian woman - just raised in India. I just seem to prefer Indian-born girls for some reason. More, I don't know, Indian maybe? Is that wrong?

I know arranged marriages are fairly common among Muslims (if I'm wrong - sorry), but what about Hindus. Are there any Hindus out there in mahiram-land who share my opinions and feelings?

Of course, being deathly afraid of flying anywhere, and visiting India in general, doesn't help at all.

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

svdesi

As a 19-year-old self-proclaimed loner/introvert for life, I often say to my parents that I don't want to get married. Ever. And I know I seem too young to be commenting on that, but I do say it. The closest I've ever been to a girl is an awkward slow dance, desperately avoiding eye contact, at senior prom.

I say I never want to get married because I care more about things that may seem trivial to you, but are the essence of life to me - football (American), kayaking, work, comedy, TV, music, etc. But nothing could be further from the truth. Perhaps my deepest, darkest secret is that I want - (dramatic and awkward contemplative moment) - an arranged marriage.

Are they really more modernized nowadays? Apparently they're largely facilitated by websites like shaadi.com, etc. But would something like that really work? I sometimes feel so ashamed. I'm a modernized US citizen. But I still want an arranged marriage. I guess it's because I feel like I have no chance in hell of actually finding a girl, and also because they (arranged marriages, not girls) seem to work better.

And don't think I want to marry some traditional girl from some obscure backwater because she'd be easy to control. I want a modern, educated, intelligent, witty Indian woman - just raised in India. I just seem to prefer Indian-born girls for some reason. More, I don't know, Indian maybe? Is that wrong?

I know arranged marriages are fairly common among Muslims (if I'm wrong - sorry), but what about Hindus. Are there any Hindus out there in mahiram-land who share my opinions and feelings?

Of course, being deathly afraid of flying anywhere, and visiting India in general, doesn't help at all.

well with an attitudelike tht-ur luky u r considering arrange marriages

Reply 2

Invocation

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Arranged marriages are common in families from the sub-continient Asia. I feel sorry for you man.But i'm sure they won't force anyone on you that you don't like ? Or try and convince them you can find your own Indian girl.

If all else fails you could just say you're gay and run away...

Reply 3

General Mullet

Anonymous

well with an attitudelike tht-ur luky u r considering arrange marriages

I think you need to re-read the whole sentance.

Reply 4

bubu

Hi first please get out your head arrange marriages always work!!!!!
I dont see problems with arrange marriages as long as the female and male get to know each other for a while before they get married, and both are happy to marry even if you have to wait a year or two atleast you will no the good points and bad points of your other half, alot of arrange marriages you dont get the time to get to know the other half so when your marriage what do you actually no about each other?
as for flying why dont you marry some one from same country as yourself and not from abroad then you proble have a little more in common with each other

hoped this made sense