Would you ever get married whilst still at uni? And why/why not?

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I would if I found someone special. But I don't really believe in marriage, so it'd probably just be a long-term relationship.

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Not while at Uni because I have Uni work to do and complete. I will also have a busy routine and wont be able to spend time with the wife. I will need to concentrate on my Uni work,complete it and not get distracted.
However, I would love to get married after finishing Uni/getting a job, sorting my life out etc.
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Absolutely not. I wouldn't consider myself anywhere near mature enough for marriage and I'm not brilliant with socialising. And I've got lots of other stuff to do, like work and enjoying myself in other ways.

Obviously students who don't start university right after A levels could be different - especially people who maybe start when in their 20s.
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Yeah if I was 100% sure that whoever was the one I'd love to wake up to everyday. But the balance would be incredibly difficult and you're freedom is basically gone. You really can't go out and flirt with other guys. Now that I think about it....No cos it feels like a huge burden to carry whilst so young. You don't want to say I spent my years at uni taking care of my husband...
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Of course not. Why the hell would anyone want or need to get married while they're at uni... Unless they're a mature student or something.
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It's very unlikely but I would consider it if I found the right person and I've been with him for a long time. However I think my parents wouldn't like it.
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No, because I will be 22/23 when I finish uni. I think that is far too young to get married, personally. But if one wants to do it then I don't care.
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I'd marry someone I was with from uni, but I wouldn't marry them whilst we/I was still at university.

I'd wait until after for lots of reasons. Partly due to lack of time, money, uni work etc. But also because the time after uni is an important one that seems to test a lot of couples to either make it or break it. You're settling in to your new lives post-education, trying to get jobs, move to where your job is, and if you haven't already you're forced to grow up quite quickly and take care of yourself (in terms of your new career, accommodation, properly making it on your own without any or very little parental backup. If you're married you probably wouldn't have any parental backup actually.)

So it's a challenging time in life. It seems to me a lot of couples break at this point because they realise they need to be selfish for a couple of years to sort all of these things out.

If the relationship survived and was strong as ever, I'd marry them. If it crumbles, it wasn't to be and I wasn't ready. As much as I may love them at uni, I don't want to commit to not having the option to take a step back if I feel that I need to be alone to start my new life.
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No. I would only marry someone after many years, when you're 100 % sure that she's the right person.
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Definitely! I wanna get married at the end of next year if my boyfriend is still my boyfriend and if he agrees. He's already brought up the subject a lot of times and has made it clear that he wants to marry me, so unless we break up or my family decide to act like *****, I don't see why it can't happen. At first I thought I wanted to wait until uni ends because it might be a little stressful, but now I just wanna get out of my house as soon as I can. This time next year I'll be in my my second year of uni, but that doesn't bother me. I imagine I'd do better living with him than I would living with my family because I'll get more space and time to focus on my education. My family never cared about my education. All them became successful without their education so, in their opinion, as long as I get some kind of a pass grade I'll be fine. I hate that.

I imagine boyfriend would prefer it to happen sooner rather than later. I want it sooner just because I can't stand my family anymore. They treat my ****ing cousins like family where they treat me like a stranger. It's like I have no place here so I figure I might as well escape while I can.

Being in uni doesn't bother me. If I need to then I can go part time for a semester until I settle in to this "new life" or whatever you call it. The whole wedding aspect and that stresa wouldn't bother me because boyfriend and I don't want a wedding at all, but my family would want *something* so they can deal with that because they're the ones who want it!

Ultimately, marriage has been something I've wanted forever. I always wanted to get married early so I'm more than happy do it while I'm in uni. Uni is really flexible so I'm happy to go part time for a semester if I need to settle in or whatever, but I don't think I would.
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Not while at Uni because I have Uni work to do and complete. I will also have a busy routine and wont be able to spend time with the wife. I will need to concentrate on my Uni work,complete it and not get distracted.
However, I would love to get married after finishing Uni/getting a job, sorting my life out etc.
This is my opinion too
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I personally wouldn't have married someone during my undergrad degree, just because I'm quite shy and take a long time to get to know and trust people. That said, I knew people who either married during uni or married very soon after (strong Christians, all of them, I think), and it seemed to be the right decision for them :yes:
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No, because I will be 22/23 when I finish uni. I think that is far too young to get married, personally. But if one wants to do it then I don't care.
That was the usual age to get married my parents got married at 23/24. What would your ideal age be to get married?
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That was the usual age to get married my parents got married at 23/24. What would your ideal age be to get married?
Nah mate, 27 is the minimum for me. I'd need to get my life sorted out first with things like a job, somewhere to live on a long term/permanent basis, etc.

My mother got married at 24 too but it's just not for me.
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Nah mate, 27 is the minimum for me. I'd need to get my life sorted out first with things like a job, somewhere to live on a long term/permanent basis, etc.

My mother got married at 24 too but it's just not for me.
I have to agree to be honest I reckon I want to be pushing 30.
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I have to agree to be honest I reckon I want to be pushing 30.
I think my family would be shocked if I married so young.
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I think my family would be shocked if I married so young.
I think my family would be shocked if I actually got married
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God no! I'm young and free and should enjoy my life/relationship without complicating it.
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Yes, I would. Unless I thought it would actually make my life more difficult.
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