people acting strangely towards you?

When i am out wherever i am quite a sociable person, i enjoy having a laugh and chatting to different people although sometimes when i am in large groups i find that some people will completely blank me. I really dont understand why, i am male and often the culprits are female but not always. I dont know how to say this without sounding arrogant but i know i am a pretty good looking bloke so i pretty sure its not people being shallow, i wonder if it is because i have what would be described as a posh essex accent. It does actually quite bother me as i sometimes find that i get closed out of conversations.

Any advice?

Reply 1

Mr.God

7

It might be what you're saying. Perhaps you're arrogant or sound annoying without realising it.

Reply 2

Bluelight

13

maybe you're being boring and not soiable enough, can't expect everyone else to flock to talk to you and sustain conversation.

Reply 3

BobMob

Where are you based?

How posh are the other people in the group?
The accent might come into it.

Reply 4

lolly83

They could be intimidated by you, see you as this posh, confident bloke, nothing they say could possibly be interesting enough. or they could think your arrogant, I'm guessing it's one or the other.
How confident are they round other people. If they just sit in one place and talk to one person all night it's probably the former.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

I have never been told im arrogant or boring, also i have some pretty close friends and we are pretty blunt with each other although i suppose in some peoples eyes we may seem overly confident as we like to have a good time. I dont really notice how posh peoples accents are so i wouldnt know but i would say its a mix of people i socialise with.
I pretty sure most people would regard me as a pretty interesting, funny and sociable bloke as i have to be as i have been doing pr work for a couple of firms over the last year. It just really pisses me off as some friends of friends who are culprits i try especially hard to talk to but still feel they are very cold towards me, i know everyone is not going to like you but a least they could be decent and show some manners.
Also i would like to know why the main culprits seem to be girls? As i know that some groups of girls will try to put others off blokes i.e there only after one thing remark or he looks like bad news

Reply 6

Aeris

15

Anonymous

I have never been told im arrogant or boring, also i have some pretty close friends and we are pretty blunt with each other although i suppose in some peoples eyes we may seem overly confident as we like to have a good time. I dont really notice how posh peoples accents are so i wouldnt know but i would say its a mix of people i socialise with.
I pretty sure most people would regard me as a pretty interesting, funny and sociable bloke as i have to be as i have been doing pr work for a couple of firms over the last year. It just really pisses me off as some friends of friends who are culprits i try especially hard to talk to but still feel they are very cold towards me, i know everyone is not going to like you but a least they could be decent and show some manners.
Also i would like to know why the main culprits seem to be girls? As i know that some groups of girls will try to put others off blokes i.e there only after one thing remark or he looks like bad news

Why would someone say that?

I can only say that you will never be a mind-reader, so you should just keep being yourself. Also, if you ever get a moment, try to talk to one of those girls who avoid you and find out what they're like. Their behavior doesn't necessarily mean they think something is wrong with you. It could be anything.
I've been known to avoid particularly good-looking guys because they make me nervous. I'm afraid of making a fool of myself. Some people think I'm a snob because I wont talk to them. Truth is, my pride is ruining everything. Sad but true.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

i been told by a fair few girls that their friends have told them to avoid me, they wouldnt give me an explanation though although i could be something to do with being friendly and chatting to a lot of different people at the bar and the like, i dont know.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

i been told by a fair few girls that their friends have told them to avoid me, they wouldnt give me an explanation though although i could be something to do with being friendly and chatting to a lot of different people at the bar and the like, i dont know.

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