I'm 19 and I never had a girlfriend, and I don't know what do in my life Watch

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I'm 19 years old and I was diagnosed with autism when I was 4 years old which makes a slow processor and I struggle to communicate with people especially groups of people. I'm a shy person especially when I talk to girls and people often mistake my shyness as arrogance. I was never a shy child, up until age 10-12 I as getting a bit shy then 13 and on wards I just got worst. I don't have any friends due to my struggle making friends. I used to have a few friends in the past they either didn't want anything to do with me anymore or we just went our separate ways.

What really bothers me that I'll be 20 in December and I have not yet had a girlfriend and it's really making me depressed because there are so many people my age and younger already have boyfriends/girlfriends even my 16 year old brother has a girlfriend. I'm still a virgin, I never kissed a girl and I never even held hands with them. I never really cared about getting a girlfriend until I was about 15-16 years old. I feel like such a loser because I don't think there many girls find me attractive. I'm not exactly a Brad Pitt but I don't think I'm ugly, my family say I'm really good looking but they probably just say that because I'm their own child. I've been called ugly before back in my early teens and that really lowered my self-esteem, I got bullied at school because of my physical appearance and for being shy. I'm not popular or attractive in any way. I rarely post pictures of my myself because I'm insecure. I don't think there are girls that have a crush on me or telling me they have feelings for me or telling me I'm attractive.

I get told by a lot of people that my time will come soon and telling me not to worry I will find someone soon but I don't believe it will ever happen to me because they say that in a way to bring my hopes up. It's embarrassing being an almost a 20 year old loser who had never had a girlfriend, never had sex, never kissed, never held hands, left school 'poor' GCSE results, unemployed, have no social life. My life is going downhill and I'm that kind of that anyone will love to make fun of.
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Hello Jamie

Only thing I can tell you is that their are guys without autism totally ordinary guys who have never had sex by your age, nor kissed a girl, nor dated so you should not look down on yourself too much. I can't really comment on your autism cause first of all I am not autistic , second I have never personally known someone with your condition, nor done any reading on it. Still I am sure I have heard of autistic people being in relationships, even in relationships with those without autism. I guess it depends on the level of autism you have perhaps and whether it takes control of you more. As for your fears about uni you should not be too concerned if you need extra help or should we say specific help your uni will have to provide it by law it is simple procedure and don't think it makes you any less then others especially if you truly need it.
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