Is there such a thing a romantic love?

Don't fully understand; if they were never meant to be then the chances of staying together are low.

What about all the people who stay married ? Many of them are still together because they're still in love, the presence of love or whatever label you put on it enhances marriage success. Without this, the marriage would be as you say " work ", a chore, a bit of labour.

This not a business contract, a marriage / relationship based on this lacks true feelings , soon it will become labourious, boring, empty and pointless - iow no reason to be together other some unworkable notion of "working on it ". Result separation - it's inevitable.

The existence of romantic love must be experienced to be proved - like eating ice cream, you don't know what it tastes like if you never experienced it.

So this leads to next point which is that
you can only find RL if you're interested in it, like you would only try icecream if you want to try it, no one can force you.

So why not go for an arranged marriage ? If you find him attractive and you're willing to ' work ' at it then by your criteria why not ?

That's assuming our paths have been paved for else, surely we have free will, right? with it comes the ability to change your mind.

Marriage is a legal document. That's why your attracted to the person, your feelings come from your desire for them making it's a more pleasurable and enjoyable experiences, otherwise it is like work.

Your not interested in things that are not beneficial to you. Being with someone can better your life.

That arranged marriage idea isn't as far fetched as you make it sound.

This idea that your soulmate, your special someone is waiting is a farce.

Something like that, although I'm not big into compromise, and don't surrender my freedom at all easily.. so she really has to be something special

That's what I said - so what ?




Stating the obvious. Never said arranged marriage was bad, but I knew you would imply I did.

Asked you why don't you try one since you don't believe in soulmates.




NO. It is not, I am living testament of that.

But Like I told you :

The existence of romantic love must be experienced to be proved - like eating ice cream, you don't know what it tastes like if you never experienced it.

You can only find RL if you're interested in it, like you would only try icecream if you want to try it, no one can force you.

I'm just saying it's not that crazy to be fixed up with someone, if they fit what your looking for.

As for the arranged marriage thing, I don't see how being interested in something makes you experience it. I'm not particularly interested in shedding my uterine lining every month (sorry about the image) but I can't help experience that every month.

Some thing are organic and some thing are manufactured.

There you go again - stating the obvious




I already dealt with this - stop repeating topics

Well your basically saying, think it and it will has and what i'm saying is, Open your eyes, life ISN'T as black and white as you think.

No I am not.

Read it :

You can only find RL if you're interested in it.

Like you would only try icecream if you want to try it, no one can force you.

Either you are pretty dim or you are not reading properly

Look I can't help that I don't quite get your analogy, there are lots of things I don't/didn't want to experience which I have i.e. tooth extraction. hitting my little toe against the wall.

Just because you want to feel something doesn't mean it's true. I could start believing in loch ness monster, does it make it real then?

Putting the subject mater into consideration, your being decidedly more aggressive. I am merely stating my opinion.

chill out hun.

Nonsense, in what way exactly is ice cream " aggressive " ? LOL

How does anyone equate ice cream with tooth extraction ? Total BS, only someone with a truly perverse attitude could do that.

You just don't like it because what I said exposes your silly world view and you resent that so you try your last card - false accusations .

Sorry

I'm here for serious debate.

NOt as sorry as I am. From discussion so far, I can't see you having a serious - meaningful debate even if your life depended on it .