making uni friends

Is anyone else having trouble making friends? Its comming to the end of the week and i havent gt anything to show 4 it. I usually make friends fast and am a talkatice sociable person but things havent gne well here. i live in lodnon and the people in my halls are from wales or chester or something like that. Im hating it. yesterday my room colleaugues were going out and i said yeh id like to come. few hours later i go and see and theyve gone. And they knew i wanted to come. Not sure what ive done wrong. i spoke 2 a friend who told me in a survey that in freshers week majority of girls hated it and went back to tehir rooms and cried! I used to self harm, but i dont seem the type, however recently ive been wanting to again. im soo confused and keep trying-its not easy. Im obviously nt doing well. i have no one or anything here, just me and that doesnt seem 2 b a good tool! :confused:

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Reply 1

Shake 'n Bake

I fet like that before I moved in. These are not the type of people you need to associate yourself with. Once you meet peope on your course and join societies you will be ok

Reply 2

Richy_Boi

It's so early on. There's PLENTY of time. 3 years atleast to be precise!

Chill out.

Reply 3

squigaletta

I once heard that you spend most of the 1st year avoiding the people you meet in fresher's week, don't stress, you still have lots of time, and loads of new people to meet.

Reply 4

hannasmith22

just keep at! i wudnt worry about it it does take time just keep making the effort with them and when you start your lectures next week you will meet people on your course who you can then hang around with. Just keep working at being friendly towards those who you share with and hopefully things will turn out fine.

Reply 5

artisticmusic

the EXACTLY same thing happened to me yesterday, it sucks!

Reply 6

notts

squigaletta

I once heard that you spend most of the 1st year avoiding the people you meet in fresher's week, don't stress, you still have lots of time, and loads of new people to meet.

a very good point.

im only friends with 2 of the people i would have called my friends after freshers week.

a lot of my friends are from the hockey team, and a lot are friends of a girl i got with (turns out i liked her friends more than her)

Reply 7

Fleece

Maybe don't call them your colleagues?

Reply 8

matt@internet

Seriously, how does self harming help?

Reply 9

notts

matt@internet

Seriously, how does self harming help?

thats a bit of a silly thing to say.

Reply 10

squigaletta

matt@internet

Seriously, how does self harming help?

If you are not a self harmer than no explaination will help you understand it, IMo. For many people it is a stress reliever, it releases endorphines, it calms, and it numbs emotion.

Reply 11

matt@internet

notts

thats a bit of a silly thing to say.

Why? OP said she felt like self harming again

1 Anonymous

I used to self harm, but i dont seem the type, however recently ive been wanting to again.

and I am curious why her having a hard time making a few friends makes her want to self harm, and why she thinks that'll help.

Reply 12

matt@internet

squigaletta

If you are not a self harmer than no explaination will help you understand it, IMo. For many people it is a stress reliever, it releases endorphines, it calms, and it numbs emotion.

And I'll bet lots of therapist who have patients tell them they self harm don't understand, yet they still ask.

Reply 13

squigaletta

matt@internet

And I'll bet lots of therapist who have patients tell them they self harm don't understand, yet they still ask.

yeh that's why I gave you an explanation, i just don't see how that will make you understand because of the way you phrased your original question. also therapists have a bit more understanding of the human mind and self harm than you do i expect.

Reply 14

matt@internet

squigaletta

F**k, I'm only trying to help.

Reply 15

notts

matt@internet

Why? OP said she felt like self harming again

and I am curious why her having a hard time making a few friends makes her want to self harm, and why she thinks that'll help.

because its evidently a psychological problem. u cant just go "why are you depressed" for example, can you?

Reply 16

matt@internet

notts

because its evidently a psychological problem. u cant just go "why are you depressed" for example, can you?

I believe you can. Why are you depressed OP?

Reply 17

squigaletta

matt@internet

F**k, I'm only trying to help.

You weren't trying to help, you asked a question, I answered it, and then you start acting like I'm attacking you, we are merely having a conversation.