Male advice needed please!

I'm a girl, and I've had a serious crush on a guy for the past 2-3 years

The guy is good looking but incredibly shy and awkward. He has a successful job and a good social life, but he's never been out with a girl. He's definitely not gay (we've ascertained that already!)

I'm pretty shy myself so I wanted some advice on what to do. I don't think I'll fancy anyone else till I get over this guy, but I'm too shy to do anything about it.

I'm pretty sure he's interested in me. I'm younger than him, and I've noticed him looking at me when he thinks I haven't noticed. He always pays attention to me and to what I say. He's very kind and sweet, and when we get into a good chat he really relaxes and it's lovely. Sometimes he's really flirtatious but only when he's slightly drunk. Once when he was very drunk he told me he was a virgin then he got all upset and embarrassed afterwards.

But on the occasions when I've blatantly chatted him up, he really clams up and goes all weird and shy and he blushes and changes the subject. Once he blushed, went silent, then actually left the room.

So what should I do? Are there really men out there who are just too shy to initiate a relationship with a woman? Should I do something or is this a no-hoper? Have I mentioned that I am crazy about him? :wink:

All advice is appreciated! Thanks!

Reply 1

Mr.God

7

You might have to take him aside and be really blunt and to the point with him, because it sounds like he's a massive chicken and majorly insecure about something or other.

Don't give him the option of wriggling out of it.

Reply 2

pumking

send him a text message to say that you like him, and see what he says.

Reply 3

Rossi82

Sounds like the slighty drunk scenario is the only time when you can tell him how you feel without him turning all shy. If he's blushing then it seems a pretty sure thing that he likes you so go for it when he's in a more relaxed state (ie drunk).

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

If he's that shy as well, when you ask him out do it so its you that sorts something out, ie you get his number not the other way round incase he's too shy to phone you and arrange to meet.

Reply 5

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3

Yeah either take him aside if you can handle it, or send him a text message if you're a chicken. :smile:

Reply 6

mermania

16

I think this guy has a small penis

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

mermania

I think this guy has a small penis

Yeah I've wondered this too. I can't think of another reason why an otherwise successful and goodlooking man would be so shy.

But I had a look at his [erm] crotch area and it looks pretty full. And the other day I'm sure he had an erection (or at least a semi) whilst I was talking to him

NB Im not a pervert I was just checking him out because I was wondering about reasons why he's so shy! :redface:

Reply 8

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3

Probably because hes a virgin at an age where he really shouldnt be and is crippled by fear?

Why are you so scared? Its fairly obvious he's interested and fairly obvious hes incapable of approaching you, so why has it taken 2-3 years to think about asking him out?

Reply 9

General Mullet

He's not going to make a move so you'll have to.

Reply 10

hixey101

yeah i love that girls just expect the bloke to make the first move all the time, you would think in todays society it would be a bit more equal!

Reply 11

apple tree

Anonymous

Are there really men out there who are just too shy to initiate a relationship with a woman? Should I do something...Have I mentioned that I am crazy about him? :wink:

yes, yes, hmmmm...yes :smile:

. If you don't do something you'll regret it, and you'll be posting on here and that reminds you that you could have told the guy exactly where you are on the matter, exactly as you put it on here. You could make it clear that after you've unleashed what's been trapped inside for so long your relationship can progress in two ways. One, he is happy to see how a different relationship might evolve, two you go back to being great friends. Just make sure that you're both comfortable with the outcome. Comfortable might not mean everyone's as happy as they could be, but then at least you can move on. Good luck.

Reply 12

Defcon5

The dude is just a shy guy, yes there are guys out there like him, i was one of them. Up until i met my girlfriend of whom i've been with for nearly 2 years now. She really allowed me to be myself and i love her loads for it, now i'm not at all shy and initiate alot of things :wink:

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You say he relaxes when you have a good chat, well in that case chat to him again, get him to chill then just let him know you like him and if he'd fancy goin out somewhere sometime. Make sure you commit him to a date or sumit tho, otherwise it might not happen.
Don't try and do it all though when he's had a few otherwise he may regret it when sober and react negatively towards you.
Good luck with it tho, i hope you get your man :smile:

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

Aw, thankyou apple tree and Defcon5 (and others!)

I think I'm going to have to pluck up the courage...

Reply 14

killerbee

12

Just make sure he's not pulling your leg. Good Luck!

Reply 15

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3

With a semi while hes talking to her, i doubt he was.

Reply 16

mermania

16

mermania

I think this guy has a small penis

awesome, I got negative rep for this despite the fact that even the thread starter considered it as a reasonable possibility. Which it clearly is.

Reply 17

notts

mermania

awesome, I got negative rep for this despite the fact that even the thread starter considered it as a reasonable possibility. Which it clearly is.

thats because everyone is an idiot.
remember that lying guy last night with the shoe job? i got neg rep and was accused of being, quote, "bum boys" with mr god, because i said the shoe lie guy was awesome.

op, im a pretty shy guy (not as shy as this guy)..
im sure he would rly appreciate you making a move.

Reply 18

jaamis

speaking as a shy guy (though not as shy as this guy, it seems), i can tell you that most shy guys find it really HOT when i girls asks them out or tells them they are interested...

It's the 21st century, women's lib and all that... it's something every girl should do at least once if not more regularly! give it a go!!! you'll regret it if you don't!

(and so we're clear, guys can be insecure over more than just penis size!)

Reply 19

silverbolt

19

why cant you just go up an ask him this is the 21st century after all

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