My mate...

Right, I have just moved in with a load of new housemates and i've become pretty good friends with one of the girls, as its freshers week we planned to go out quite a bit and were gonna go out tonight, then she found out that her old housemates who apparently hate her were going and so she didn't want to go.
I understand that it is horrible to go somewhere where people are gonna be bitching at you especially to you face as well as behind your back, but i hate the fact that it is stopping her having fun. I donlt mind satying in with her if she doesn't wanna go out but i don't think she should let these girls ruin her fun.
How can i convince her that she shouldn't let these girls bother her and she is 10 times better than them and she shouldn't let them stop her doing what she wants to do? To be honest if we did go out and they started bitching at her i would stick up for her and tell them where to stick themselves, but she won't even go out if she knows they are gonna be there.

Reply 1

toipot2

If theyre that unpleasant why dont you avoid them too?

Reply 2

hippieglitter

I don't know them, i've never met them and i've never been one for avoiding people or letting people who hate me spoil my fun. They are not worth it. If i wanna do something then i do it, if they hate me thats their problem, i've done nothing to them, they can go f**k themselves. I just wish my friend felt that way instead of letting them win all the time, i want her to see that she is better than them and she deserves to be able to do what she wants instead of being scared of them all the time.

Reply 3

brak3n

Perhaps it was just an excuse because she didn't feel like going out?
Try again another night, there's only so many times she can say no before she starts feeling guilty about letting you down, surely.

Reply 4

doll-heart

Be there for her, tell her she can't hide in fear from these people forever; she needs to go out and show them they don't bother her. Everyone has enemies; we all just have to learn to ignore them and get on with our lives.

Reply 5

Mr.God

Respect her wishes.

Reply 6

hippieglitter

I do, i'm not gonna force her to go out if she really doesn't want too, but it seems her only reason for not going out is cos she doesn't want to see these girls. She has said that she wants to go out but feels she can't because of these girls so its not a case of just being an excuse.

Reply 7

Why not go somewhere these girls are really unlikely to be?

Reply 8

The_Bear

Yeah, go somewhere else lol!

Reply 9

croissantfever

why are you teling this to us? tell it to her!

Reply 10

CalculusMan

She posted this yesterday. So what happened in the end? Did you go out with your friend? Any luck with changing her mind?

Reply 11

hippieglitter

Not that night, i am trying again tonight i've given her the choice if she wants to go out of following the freshers with the chance of seeing these girls or going somewhere else where the girls aren't likely to be with the added bonus of getting in free.