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Reply 1
Speaking from experience as a girl... I wouldn't do it.
Anything can go wrong with a text, she can ignore it, it might not get delivered/go to the wrong person etc...
Asking her to her face is always the best bet; you can see her reaction so then you KNOW how she feels plus she'll respect you a hell of a lot more by doing this.
It's hard to take someone seriously when you ask them out over text anyway.

Plus I have a petty, childish rule I've always kept; if they asked you out by text, dump them by text.
doll-heart
Plus I have a petty, childish rule I've always kept; if they asked you out by text, dump them by text.


lol mean mean person
yes it's ok.
Reply 4
imageofreality
lol mean mean person


I am, it's true: I'm a grade A b*tch.

You have to admit I have a point though; if they can be cowardly then surely so can I?
Reply 5
Bury college?

As for asking out by text...get some balls lol
doll-heart
I am, it's true: I'm a grade A b*tch.

You have to admit I have a point though; if they can be cowardly then surely so can I?


Not really.

Asking you out is a good thing generally and sometimes it's easier to be sweeter by text than to speak face to face.

Dumping someone is a bad thing generally and sometimes it's best to do it face to face... if you have a heart that is.
Reply 7
What?????? It's "sweeter" to ask somebody out by sms? :confused:
samba
What?????? It's "sweeter" to ask somebody out by sms? :confused:


Nope, sometimes you make it sweeter. I'm talking about anything other than the "will u go out with me" texts......

Plus it helps for shy people too. In my experience, texting works depending on what you say and on the context but face to face is better if you can do it. My point is that asking someone out isn't a bad thing so why should it be assossciated with dumping [bad thing]??
Reply 9
To be honest, in my opinion if you are too cowardly to ask somebody out face to face, you're gonna be WAY to cowardly to dump them by anything but sms...or maybe email?

At least phone the damned person. sms is just lame. I'd think it was a joke if somebody did that to me.
samba
To be honest, in my opinion if you are too cowardly to ask somebody out face to face, you're gonna be WAY to cowardly to dump them by anything but sms...or maybe email?

At least phone the damned person. sms is just lame. I'd think it was a joke if somebody did that to me.
100% agreed.
Reply 11
samba
Bury college?



Oh god, I am stalked! Who are you, stranger of Bury?
Reply 12
Anonymous
My point is that asking someone out isn't a bad thing so why should it be assossciated with dumping [bad thing]??


Haha, well that depends on what they say back to you...
Reply 13
doll-heart
Oh god, I am stalked! Who are you, stranger of Bury?


Wow, I'm bloody good! I'm nobody you know (in all likelyhood) :p: I was there for a lil conference thingy (about computers!) last year and saw somebody looking distinctly like you!

I should be a pro stalker :biggrin: Corn market chippy is the biggest + in bury.
Reply 14
samba
Wow, I'm bloody good! I'm nobody you know (in all likelyhood) :p: I was there for a lil conference thingy (about computers!) last year and saw somebody looking distinctly like you!

I should be a pro stalker :biggrin: Corn market chippy is the biggest + in bury.


Ahh, grim! Everyone in Bury knows each other though *frowns* I probably would know you by sight anyway.
Reply 15
I can pm a piccy? I remember that day at bury college clearly! I told the manager person there to shove his offer up his arse and angered them I think :biggrin:

edit: hahahaha you've removed your pic and everything now lol
Reply 16
Fair play! Well done, Bury college are ******s anyway.
And yes, pm away.
Haha, I know; I don't want any more people who recognise me; I have a lot of enemies... oh god, you're not one are you?

P.S. We totally hjacked this thread.
Reply 17
Indeed they are crap!
And no I dont hate you lol...I very much doubt you even know me :p:

PS: stupid thread anyways!
Reply 18
Anonymous
Done thing? Good idea, poor idea?

I'm guessing it's a bit of a crap idea.

But hey what do people think?


i've had this done to me, i did think it was sweet that he was too shy to ask me out face to face, but then again i did end up saying no (because i didn't like him in that way), which i might not have done to his face because i hate hurting peoples feelings.

i think you should do what feels right, if you're too shy to ask her to her face then maybe a text (or phonecall?) might be better. but it would be a bit more personal to do it in person.
To the OP - as a shy girl, I'd never dream of asking someone out to their face (too scared of rejection!). So I would have no problem with being asked out by text message... as long as he followed it up with a phone call after I'd texted back to say yes :smile: