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All my friends have gone :(
so my best friend went to uni this morning, all my olther firends have been going off in dribs and drabs over the last few days, there are still a few left to go.... but I am staying here and working for the next year before I go to uni.
I feel so horribly lonely right now and I don't think I can actually last the next year without my friends around, I mean what am I going to do in the evenings? and who am I going to talk to about stuff. I have cried so much over the last few days and I feel bad because I think I made our last few times out together quite depressing.
I just dont know what to do! anyone got any tips to make this year go faster and to like help me stop missing all of the best people I know?
I'm just scared that they will all go out and find amazing new people and completely forget about me.
arghhhh
I feel so horribly lonely right now and I don't think I can actually last the next year without my friends around, I mean what am I going to do in the evenings? and who am I going to talk to about stuff. I have cried so much over the last few days and I feel bad because I think I made our last few times out together quite depressing.
I just dont know what to do! anyone got any tips to make this year go faster and to like help me stop missing all of the best people I know?
I'm just scared that they will all go out and find amazing new people and completely forget about me.
arghhhh
Reply 1
Last year i was the only one out of my close friends to have a gap year. Everyone else (including my boyfriend!) went off to uni and left me alone - poor little me!
I spent a lot of time panicing about how they would all go off with new people and leave me but it didn't happen. Sure in the first few weeks you don't hear much from them and some people drifted away but the people you are closest too don't leave you. We saw each other in the holidays and i've been to visit. The great thing is they all meet wonderful new people and introduce you and you get yet more friends. It all works out ok
I spent a lot of time panicing about how they would all go off with new people and leave me but it didn't happen. Sure in the first few weeks you don't hear much from them and some people drifted away but the people you are closest too don't leave you. We saw each other in the holidays and i've been to visit. The great thing is they all meet wonderful new people and introduce you and you get yet more friends. It all works out ok
Reply 2
That's weird because i'm in exactly the same situation! It has been getting me down because i love going out at the weekends, but now i have no-one to go with, i feel like a loser!! The people at my work are all a lot older (young ones have left for uni too and my closest work friend 
), there's no-one i would go out with at all
And i hear my friends saying they haven't had any sleep cos they've been going out all the time and of course i'm happy they're enjoying themselves but the selfish part of me is jealous and doesn't want them to have a better time than they would here...which makes me feel even worse for thinking that
The only good thing i can think of is how much money i'm saving up and that it will be good at xmas....and i can treat this as an alcohol detox!
), there's no-one i would go out with at all And i hear my friends saying they haven't had any sleep cos they've been going out all the time and of course i'm happy they're enjoying themselves but the selfish part of me is jealous and doesn't want them to have a better time than they would here...which makes me feel even worse for thinking that
The only good thing i can think of is how much money i'm saving up and that it will be good at xmas....and i can treat this as an alcohol detox!
Reply 3
All my friends (who are going to uni) have now gone. I spent last night (saturday night) on this forum before going to bed at 9:30 instead of being at the pub! AHHHHH!
You'll get new friends at uni though so don't worry It's only a week or so till you leave I guess?
You'll get new friends at uni though so don't worry
It's only a week or so till you leave I guess?Reply 5
Sold my car last week and nearest pub is 4 miles! (Not that I'd drive to a pub anyway). Or just work loads until you go to uni so you have stack loads of money!
Reply 6
Exactly i am in the same situation. I am just organising to see my girlfriend and friends loads and loads. It will be alright. I have great friends and I know they wont lose contact with me. I mean I am going to gigs with loads of them already so they cant get rid of me that easily 
Reply 7
Anonymous
so my best friend went to uni this morning, all my olther firends have been going off in dribs and drabs over the last few days, there are still a few left to go.... but I am staying here and working for the next year before I go to uni.
I feel so horribly lonely right now and I don't think I can actually last the next year without my friends around, I mean what am I going to do in the evenings? and who am I going to talk to about stuff. I have cried so much over the last few days and I feel bad because I think I made our last few times out together quite depressing.
I just dont know what to do! anyone got any tips to make this year go faster and to like help me stop missing all of the best people I know?
I'm just scared that they will all go out and find amazing new people and completely forget about me.
arghhhh
I feel so horribly lonely right now and I don't think I can actually last the next year without my friends around, I mean what am I going to do in the evenings? and who am I going to talk to about stuff. I have cried so much over the last few days and I feel bad because I think I made our last few times out together quite depressing.
I just dont know what to do! anyone got any tips to make this year go faster and to like help me stop missing all of the best people I know?
I'm just scared that they will all go out and find amazing new people and completely forget about me.
arghhhh
If you want to keep you friends, keep in touch with them REGULARLY, at least phone them. Otherwise, be prepared to experience what I have.
Reply 8
Prod your friends if you're feeling left out and let them know you're still around!
Reply 9
see i still talk to my friends who have gone on msn and texting....but it's just in the evenings i literally have no-one to go out with and am worried i'm turning into an internet forum addict or something! and to the person who said go to the pub after work- i'm quite shy and not the type of person who would walk into a pub or club on their own! I think i will just have to concentrate on earning money. I'm just upset that there's not at least one person who is on a gap year too, that i could have travelled with or something. Selfish i know, but it's how i feel at the moment
Reply 10
The only thing I say is that accept the fact that they've gone. You cannot put your life on hold because of it and in the meantime make new friends life’s to short to ponder over friends that I’ve moved on.
Reply 11
Anonymous
see i still talk to my friends who have gone on msn and texting....but it's just in the evenings i literally have no-one to go out with and am worried i'm turning into an internet forum addict or something! and to the person who said go to the pub after work- i'm quite shy and not the type of person who would walk into a pub or club on their own! I think i will just have to concentrate on earning money. I'm just upset that there's not at least one person who is on a gap year too, that i could have travelled with or something. Selfish i know, but it's how i feel at the moment
use your free time to go on tours of England visiting people. If you book train tickets in advance it's dirt cheap and obviously accomidation is taken care of. It's not quite the same as just having people around on tap to go out with but it helps and makes you feel more involved and means you're not spending all your time sitting at home alone.
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