How annoyed would you be?

Known your friend for 5 years who's fancied you since you met you, then you get super attracted to him and hook up. You used to spend every day together. He'd do anything for you.

You go out and he doesn't see you as much and doesn't call as much. He blows you off to move furniture for his mother (even though she IS a complete monster and I would be scared of her too) and frequently lets you down in this way.

Would you be raging?

And, what should I do? I love him so much and I don't want to lose him, but I need to let him know (without scaring him off and sounding like a bitch) this isn't right.

What should I say?

Reply 1

musicbloke

Tell him to stop blowing you off. Not difficult.

MB

Reply 2

Mr.God

Ummmm, he's doing his mum a favour, and not wanting to spend every minute of every day with someone is perfectly normal.

Chill out.

Reply 3

paperclip

i agree with music bloke, let him know how you feel

Reply 4

KuinKra

So you've ignored him for 5 years and when you do get together you're annoyed that he's ignored you for 5 minutes?

Hm. Real fair.

Reply 5

General Mullet

Give him some space, being in each others pockets gets boring after a while.

Reply 6

foxo

musicbloke

Tell him to stop blowing you off.

I thought most people enjoyed that...

Reply 7

musicbloke

foxo

I thought most people enjoyed that...

Maybe she should tell him to stop blowing his mum.

MB

Reply 8

Becca28

i dunno whether this helps but i did the same, was great friends with this guy who fancied me, then as soon as we started dating it just wasnt the same, so i did the whole avoiding thing, i preferred being just friends (yeh i managed two weeks before i had to end it lol). other than that maybe he just needs a bit of space to adapt from being just friends to being in a relationship.

Reply 9

Love Sheep

Guys need their space. He'll still come back, even if he doesn't see you every day...my boyfriend and I see each other a little bit each week, if either of us has something else going on then that's fine, because in the long run, we know we're together, so why worry? Insecurity is often something that ruins relationships...and you appreciate someone more when you haven't seen them for a while. It'll be OK. :-)