Does anything work out the way you want?

I believe that things can work out the way you want, but in most cases, you have to make it work for yourself, you cant expect it all to fall into place just like that.

Emotional suffering is always going to happen, even if things do end up the way you want in the end.

Reply 2

OP

When you say emotional suffering, like unrequited feelings for someone, missing a place you can't be in etc?

Reply 3

ForumFreak

9

My university accomadation worked out just the way I wanted. However I think with most things its a compramise. Usually things dont work out exactly how you want them to but they dont go competely wrong.

Reply 4

Ankan

From my own experience I can say that I don't think anything Ever turns out the way you want them to. But that doesn't have to be a bad thing, often things turn out much better than anything you could have forseen yourself. When you try to force things to be in a certain way, ie the way you want them to be, it only brings suffering.

I think that you have to accept the fact that you can never know or say what will happen but also that this is for the best. Cause few are qualified to know what is the best for themselves.

Reply 5

tbm

I mean things like losing out on jobs, having issues with people, struggling with education, that sort of thing. Im nearly 23 BTW.

For example its my last year at uni this year. I know I will be really pleased once Ive graduated and I'll be exactly where I want to 'be', but at the moment I feel pretty sh*t, just because its bloody hard work and I wonder why I ever started it. But it will all turn out ok in the end :smile:

The relationship thing isnt really an issue I have, as Im getting married next year so Im totally happy with that aspect.

Reply 6

allymcb2

8

In my life things usually go completely wrong.

Reply 7

Tarts_n_Vicars

naivesincerity

Was just curious really at the age of 25, in other people's expereinces with relationships and life. Does anything work out the way you want, or are you always in a sad, dissatisfied position? Is emotional suffering/dissatisfaction inevitable? Discuss

It's all about perception. Things not going quite how you wanted them to does not automatically equal a sad and dissatisfied position. Things never go my way...I am in a living hell right now on my exchange year in America that I'd been so looking forward to but it's not the end of the world for me.

Reply 8

OP

Tarts_n_Vicars

It's all about perception. Things not going quite how you wanted them to does not automatically equal a sad and dissatisfied position. Things never go my way...I am in a living hell right now on my exchange year in America that I'd been so looking forward to but it's not the end of the world for me.

Are you missing a place or person?

Reply 9

Tarts_n_Vicars

lol I'm not missing anything! I knew you'd do that to me.

It's not as good as I thought it was going to be, but that's more down to some unfortunate luck I've had rather than my expectations. Again as I said, it's not the end of the world. Things are only as catastrophic as you let them be.

Reply 10

Jelkin

17

My dad has a theory that life is like the normal distribution [maths talk] - sometimes things will go badly, but there are things that go well to balance it out, and most things are near the average mark.

Reply 11

OP

Tarts_n_Vicars

lol I'm not missing anything! I knew you'd do that to me.

It's not as good as I thought it was going to be, but that's more down to some unfortunate luck I've had rather than my expectations. Again as I said, it's not the end of the world. Things are only as catastrophic as you let them be.

Just wondered that's all. It could be worse if you desperately missed a place, had a kind of unrequited love, missed a person etc, all of which I have :smile:

Reply 12

Merovingian

One never indulges these trifling emotional weaknesses, but rather one strives to reverse or overcome the situations that give rise to them, by sheer force of will! Long live the Superman.

Reply 13

Evenstar

I'm amazed at how lucky I usually am for various reasons. I usually get the jobs that I really want, I've never broken a bone, had a filling or an operation. The best one is that when I'm totally skint and panicking like mad about money, some usually just pops up unexpectedly like I'll get a cheque through the post or a refund for something I'd forgotton about etc.

I've probably totally broken the spell by telling everyone about it now! :p:

Reply 14

OP

Merovingian

One never indulges these trifling emotional weaknesses, but rather one strives to reverse or overcome the situations that give rise to them, by sheer force of will! Long live the Superman.

How utterly pretentious

Reply 15

tortured

8

In my experience, things never turn out the way I plan/hope... And not for lack of trying, either.

Funnily enough, something happened today causing me to go into complete hysterics on a platform in the train station, to the point where I had to vent my frustration by calling my mother and ranting about how nothing ever works out for me!

I'm always late, no matter how early I try to be. I never get the grades, no matter how much effort I put in. It's pretty darn annoying really -- I honestly think some people are born unlucky.

Reply 16

Jelkin

17

There's a stupid Lindsay Lohan film about luck. Anyone seen it?

Reply 17

Merovingian

naivesincerity

How utterly pretentious

And racial spiritual connections aren't? :rolleyes:

Reply 18

Mrs_F

15

I would like to think so, but then no one can know for sure what will happen in the future. Which is why I am a big believer in fate and what will be will be.

All together now: Que sara sara!

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OP