I hate my Uni experience

Basically moved into my halls later than every1 else by a few days it seems. first couple of days i sturggled to make contact- every had there group and they seemed air tight. then i went for it- to try and make friends- on the halls pub crawl. it went well met loads of people who i go on well with. the next day though no one wants to know me and i am stuck in my room with out a sodding thing top do and it really sucks. I text flat mates but no reply blatant ignoring me and so i sit alone in my room cause evry1 is out and it really sucks. basically i just feel like a moan cause it sucks bein away from home and being a loner. freshers week starts 2mora and i can see my self having the worst week and year of my life.

Reply 1

Shake 'n Bake

14

Anonymous

Basically moved into my halls later than every1 else by a few days it seems. first couple of days i sturggled to make contact- every had there group and they seemed air tight. then i went for it- to try and make friends- on the halls pub crawl. it went well met loads of people who i go on well with. the next day though no one wants to know me and i am stuck in my room with out a sodding thing top do and it really sucks. I text flat mates but no reply blatant ignoring me and so i sit alone in my room cause evry1 is out and it really sucks. basically i just feel like a moan cause it sucks bein away from home and being a loner. freshers week starts 2mora and i can see my self having the worst week and year of my life.

I moved in later then everyone else and I felt the same as you. What I did was to make friends with the people on my course first and then make friends with the people on my halls as I felt more confident with them. That way you can talk to your fat mates without feeling akward. It becomes easier as each day passes trust me. I am at home right now but I am going back tommorow morning and I can't wait. If you don't get on with people on your halls then forget them and make new friends when you join societies.

Reply 2

TomX

14

Irc?

Reply 3

benisright

1

Freshers week will be when everything kicks off

You wont be the first or last person to have a miserable first impression, and you wont be the first who has a rotten first experience and ends up loving it.

Reply 4

britishseapower

14

you still have a chance to meet new people but even if you don't, just get a part time job or do voluntary work or something, it keeps you busy, it's productive and you will inevitably meet new people, I made 2 friends in my first year and 1 has dropped out for my 2nd year so I'm pretty alone right now, all my flatmates speak different language as well so it's hard to communicate

Reply 5

lindindin

and even if you dont make friends in freshers week ( I didnt go to a single one of the parties), you will still get to know the people in your hall and when lectures start, on your course, too. I felt lonely, i still feel odd because although I like the people in my hall, they´re nothing like my friends from boarding school.. so i will just sit back and wait. you really should be fine *hug*

Reply 6

username47781

20

Try finding a club or society of your interest, they are good for meeting new people.

Reply 7

NickNack

1

just go, bang on the door to the room next door, say hi and everything will roll

Reply 8

salgueira

Freshers' Week is a bit overrated, I don't think many people find lifelong friends in their first week at uni. A lot of people just cling to the first ones they meet for fear of being alone in a strange town. But if you're old enough to leave home, you can handle being alone for a bit. Join a few societies, there's no better way to make friends than through shared interests. Otherwise wait til your course starts, you're bound to become friends with people in your classes. But don't worry about it. You won't be a loner forever.

Reply 9

mollie

The chances are the people that you meet in Freshers week are not the ones that you will stay friends with for all your uni time. Everyone is desperate not to be on their own and they talk to everyone and anyone, don't worry as your weeks get to have some pattern to them and you see the same faces you will get to know people. Do not get paranoid about people ignoring you , they probably aren't and even if others give the impression they are having a great time they may well not be. It is a huge step to move to University and not easy if you have low confidence which is easily dented. Try to go to the communal spaces like the kitchen or if others are going shopping, out for lunch ask if they mind if you go with them.I know the prospect might be quite toe curling but the chances are they will have only known each other two minutes and their friendships are all new.Good luck and don't give up.

Reply 10

Sithius

16

Try and not to have such a negative view on it all.

I hate my Uni experience

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