There's a girl I work with whom I'm totally and utterly obsessed with. Every minute I'm in work I'm thinking about her, and when I'm not in work I'm thinking about when I'm next going to work with her. I tried asking her out but she said 'no'. This is understandable because although we get on just fine, there's no chemistry or flirting between us. This is very odd and has got me confused because I can't normally talk to a girl without being accused of flirting, but with this particular girl my head goes blank and I'm scared to touch her. I can't seem to compliment her or mess with her. All I do is ask the same boring questions, again, and again.
When I asked her out she just said, 'no', so I found it easy to get over her. However soon after I hear she has a boyfriend so my interest is sparked again because I'm thinking, 'well what if she didn't have a boyfriend?' (and why didn't she tell me she had a boyfriend?)
I guess I'm posting her for advice on what to do if you were in my situation. I'm thinking I would like to become close friends, and if things don't work out between her and her boyfriend, then I'm in a good position to maybe ask her out. On the other hand I'm thinking it would be easier to get a job elsewhere and forget about her completely. I don’t know what I want to do, I only know that a night out with her would be bliss.