I want to contact an old ex

More than dealing with ignorance, I think it's harder to deal with the feelings you start developing for your ex all over again after moving on. From my own experience, I can tell you that it was really difficult for me to focus on my career when my ex got in touch with me two years ago. It brings back all the memories and makes you want to get back together and all that stuff. They're in your past for a reason and so, I guess, that's where they should always remain.
But then again, you can go ahead and speak to him if you think you can deal with all of this easily!


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I broke up with him because our relationship wasn't working out towards the end. It was pretty difficult to deal with the breakup, so I chose not to contact him for a while until he texted me a year later. It wasn't easy for me to ignore him since I wasn't completely over him and I wanted him back. But trust me, it made it worse by me responding to his calls and texts.
I still think about him sometimes, but I don't think I want to get in touch with him ever again, no matter how much of a great guy he is/was.

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Out of curiosity, I know it wasn't working out towards the end, but how come a year later you weren't interested in giving it another go even when you clearly missed him and still thought of him as a great guy ? Let alone never wanting to speak to him again ?

I've decided that I'm not going to reach out. I ended up looking him up on facebook for the first time last night and I see that he actually moved back closer to home months ago. That may sound like a good thing but given that I've always been under the impression that distance broke us up, it raises the question of why hasn't he contacted me ?

I guess he's just not interested any more.

The reason why I didn't want to give it another shot was because he was already in a relationship with this girl, and I think they're still together. I heard this from a mutual friend who even told me once that he was happy with her, which is what I wanted for him at that point of time. Seeing him happy made me feel good. So I didn't want to screw up with him or his relationship. But eventually that's what happened when he got in touch with me...sigh.

It's true that distance does tear you apart, but that doesn't mean it should stop you from contacting him. If you feel it's easier for you to move on with life along with being in touch with him as a friend, I'd say that's amazing! I personally wasn't able to do so, and it made me feel like sh*t when he ignored my calls or texts.


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Ask yourself why do you really need to reach out to this guy, then ask yourself is this sensible?


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I don't see what you've got to lose. You broke up over the distance. You still have feelings, maybe he does too. Or maybe you could be great friends. I say go for it, you regret the risks you don't take way more than those you did.

Don't do it unless you want to get back with him

Thanks for the input.

The thing that's putting me off however is that if the distance isn't much of an issue anymore, I don't get why he hasn't contacted me ? He moved closer to home almost a year ago and has never reached out.

One part me has the same logic as you but the other part is saying that it's pretty clear he's not interested. If I reached out and he ignored me or it was clear he just wasn't interested it would overwrite the whole distance thing. Atleast if i don't get in contact it's never confirmed if you get me ?