Nervous fresher (not me)

this is the thing... we only just moved it to halls a couple of days ago and as expected every 1 is a bit nervous as no 1 knows any 1

My problem is this, the guy in the room next to me hasn't really communicated with me and the other guys in our shared accomodation.

His parents said goodbye to him yesterday evening and i get the impression he is very shy and nervous (don't think he has gone out much, only with his parents, and not to any pubs/clubs).

One of my other flatmates said he had a quick chat to him but only cos he brushed past him and wasn't really that talkative... therefore the conversation was pretty short.
Also last nite when me and a couple of the other guys were in the kitchin he came in took summat out of the fridge and left without a word. I only noticed when i turned roud and he had gone...

Now, i am a pretty nervous person myself and find it easy making aquaintances but hard to make friends, but at least i am easy and friendly to talk to, and i was wondering if u guys have any advice as to how i should try talking to this guy. And if there are any that are in the same situation as this guy, would you rather be alone for a bit - maybe feeling homesick - or want other to approach u....

Any advice would be welcome

Reply 1

G4ry

1

I was probably like that guy so i can empathasise. He's probably been busy un-packing. But knock on his door and have a chat and introduce yourself to him. He probably feels intimidated because he may feel he's arriving a bit late to the party and you all know each other. Don't let him suffer in silence.

Reply 2

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3

Make an effort to include him, he'll probably really appreciate it in the end. Things like, if you've got any booze offer him a drink. If you're going out, invite him. Or, and this one will probably be the most successful, invite him for a game of pro-evo if you've got it?

Reply 3

*Mike*

11

Try and start a conversation with him, he might feel uncomfortable at first, but after a few days he should become more confident around you.

Im basing this on my past experience (I find it hard to communicate to anyone i dont know well, including some family members - aunts, cousins etc.)

Reply 4

Tonka2

Keep trying to talk to him, find out his interest, kind of music he likes an start a conversation bout that.

Reply 5

dsch

13

is he an electrical engineer?

Reply 6

Shreerac1

10

Theres no harm at all in you knocking on his door and talking to him, he'll probably appriciate it. It seems unlikely that he'd just be avoiding everyone because he's busy unpacking.

Reply 7

NickNack

1

coughsyrup

is he an electrical engineer?

lol you say that, last year we thought we'd met everyone, then around january this random guy walks in - turned out he did electrical engineering and lived in the room at the end we all thought was empty.

Reply 8

shaneo632

2

I'm likely to be similar to this nervous fresher, and at least in my eyes, I'd love someone to come and initiate a conversation.

Reply 9

Shreerac1

10

NickNack

lol you say that, last year we thought we'd met everyone, then around january this random guy walks in - turned out he did electrical engineering and lived in the room at the end we all thought was empty.

That was coughsyrup.

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

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Make an effort to include him, he'll probably really appreciate it in the end. Things like, if you've got any booze offer him a drink. If you're going out, invite him. Or, and this one will probably be the most successful, invite him for a game of pro-evo if you've got it?

*start to become worried*... is my room bugged or summat...how'd u know i had pro evo?! No i see ur point and u guessed rite i do have it...

Sods law i'm afraid, goin out for summat to eat 2nite in the kitchin and guess who's there....

Turns out his home isn't that far away and wanted to spend that nite @ at home with his family to say goodbye... anyway (after a long chat) it seems he is goin to be an instant friend and is the type of guy i would hang around with back home. (He was as nervous as i thought but soon settled down and i think i helped to settle his nerves so now i'm pretty happy)

Thanks for the advice it is much appreciated, altho there is still 1 guy i havn't met but thats a whole different situation...

Thanks guys - thats a lesson learned - to wait a bit before making a mountaion out of a molehill ! :rolleyes: