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Guys, I've got a problem with this girl iv been dating for over a year now.
but basically, shes been ignoring me (or so it seems to me) for the last 3-4ish weeks. she says we're ok but i know somethings up - apparently she has family probs and hence doesnt want to go out at all or whatever, but seems well enough to go out with mates every now and again.

This has been seriously pissing me off (along with 1 or 2 things that iv kinda been brooding over these last month or so) to the point where i dno if this thing can continue. I really want it to but I just dont know what to do.
I really care about this girl and i know inside i love her.
I think about her everyday, but i havnt heard from her in ages.

She said many times she loves me, and can really see and future for us, and i do believe she feels this, but recently i just dont know.

I got a missed call from her earlier but i didnt take it as i dont think i was ready to talk to her there and then.
what should i do in this situation?
Im definately going to let her know how pissed i am, but what else should i do? would it be wrong for me to leave it for a couple of days so she knows how it feels?

Sorry for the repetive threads, but each situation is slightly different and i feel needs to be approached on its own accord.

thankx

Reply 1

LadyEnglish

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Seems like you're going through a bad phase, just let it pass and be there for her. If she has family probs you won't help by adding that you're pissed off with her and missing her calls and then not returning them. Good luck with everything xxx

Reply 2

Lexis

You need to talk to her. Communication is the key in any relationship.

Hold back your anger for the moment. Launching into a pissed-off rant about how unfairly you think she has been treating you will get you nowhere. Wait until you are calm before talking to her, and try and work through things in an understanding and reasonable manner. Definitely let her know how hurt and angry you feel but do not be aggressive and attack her, and give her a chance to explain herself. Resist the temptation of vindictive treatment such as ignoring her for a couple of days - you may think she deserves it but it will not help your relationship.

Lex

Reply 3

Ourkid

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Hmmm interesting one... phone her?

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

LadyEnglish

Seems like you're going through a bad phase, just let it pass and be there for her. If she has family probs you won't help by adding that you're pissed off with her and missing her calls and then not returning them. Good luck with everything xxx

Thank you for the help :smile:

im not sure about the family probs... how can she be up for going out with mates and the like and not be up for meeting me due to family probs... seems like double standards or she takes me for granted.

Ive tried talking to her and i emailed her and told her exactly how i felt, and how i felt that she could spare like even 30 seconds of her day to just say hey would be fine, at least id know she was still around and everything was ok.

I couldnt talk to her for about 2 and a half weeks and then i saw this article in the local paper about a girl with her name being stabbed... that scared the shiz out of me but she wouldnt answer her phone or reply to emails.

Shes been too busy to talk to me because she was talking to another friend, when i hadnt spoken to her for 3 weeks.

though if on the off chance she has had fam probs i would feel really bad... GODAMNIT :s-smilie:

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

Lexis

You need to talk to her. Communication is the key in any relationship.

Hold back your anger for the moment. Launching into a pissed-off rant about how unfairly you think she has been treating you will get you nowhere. Wait until you are calm before talking to her, and try and work through things in an understanding and reasonable manner. Definitely let her know how hurt and angry you feel but do not be aggressive and attack her, and give her a chance to explain herself. Resist the temptation of vindictive treatment such as ignoring her for a couple of days - you may think she deserves it but it will not help your relationship.

Lex

yeah, i wouldnt get agressive with her, because she means a lot to me, and im generally not like that, other than to people who seriously piss me off and mean nothing to me.

I will give her a chance to explain. thing is though, if i dont let it out i might never get to express it, as im one of those people who's pissed off at the time, but in the next few days i wont feel it any more assuming i talk to her.

the reason i thought maybe give it a few days is so that perhaps she'll realise that she cant take me for granted, as i do feel this way. i literally have to book dates with her 2 weeks in advance as she doesnt seem to have any time. sorry but wtf is that... :mad:

but yet i find it incredibly hard to ignore her. :suith:

thanks everybody ill probably end up ringing her later on

Reply 6

LadyEnglish

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Girls always feel more comfortable discussing personal probs with their girl-friends, especially if they are to do with female related problems (how old is she?) or family/friends. However don't take that personally, I'm sure she would discuss things with you but girls especially, the majority turn to their friends first.
If you've had sex with her in the last few weeks, is there any chance she may be pregnant? Going out on a whim here lol but I'm just thinking of reasons why she would turn to her friends...x

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

LadyEnglish

Girls always feel more comfortable discussing personal probs with their girl-friends, especially if they are to do with female related problems (how old is she?) or family/friends. However don't take that personally, I'm sure she would discuss things with you but girls especially, the majority turn to their friends first.
If you've had sex with her in the last few weeks, is there any chance she may be pregnant? Going out on a whim here lol but I'm just thinking of reasons why she would turn to her friends...x

yeah, that could be a reason, but no she isnt pregnant.

she used to talk to me about everything, but recently we've just drifted apart it seems. :frown:

thank you again

Reply 8

LadyEnglish

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Maybe your relationship is on the decline...as hard as it may be to accept. Perhaps you should stick it out a few more days then just ask her, where are we going/do you still love me? Tis a toughy. Good luck with eeeeverything xxx

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

thank you everybody, esp ladyenglish :smile:

x

So you've been wanting to talk to her properly for 3-4 weeks, and when she calls you, you're not in the mood so don't pick up the phone? Why? That's just stupid IMO.

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