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    hey, im new here, just stumbled accross it completely at random before going out to be honest but it inspired me to put down something in writing that i've been thinking about for a while

    I started uni last september (should have started the year before but I thought i'd work for a year) doing computing for industry Bsc,
    I thought it was going to be a really great social experience going to uni, as college was fantastic, I made loads of friends there and everyone was really great,

    when I got to university though, aswell as there being roughly 4 girls (out of a class of say 250) everyone was really antisocial/backstabbing/boring I dont really know how else to put it. Obviously this isnt what most peoples experience is with university so I was just wondering is it because of the type of course I'm on? (theres always been a sort of stigma about computer people being 'geeks' 'antisocial' etc. and I dont know whether it was just the people I happened to "make friends" with or whether the majority of people on these courses are like that)

    It also didnt help that I was engaged to a girl i met in college (she didnt come to uni with me) and for the first few months of uni I knew we were headed to a breakup and it sortof spoiled it for me / made me less social than I should have been
    all in all my experience with it so far's been a bit crap, about 4 months in (january) I started workign full time (to get some extra cash and also because its more fun beleive it or not ) and just doing the work on the nighttimes on the website, I obviously cant keep doing that as it gets a lot harder in the second year (the first year is just introductory stuff we've already done on our national diploma)

    so the question is.. do I either:

    a) go back in september into the 2nd year, not really knowing anyone whilst everyone else knows eachother, having had no holiday, made no friends at uni, not been present for most of the 1st year lectures and probably not enjoying it either.

    b) take a year out in australia (thats something i've been saving for whilst working) working around the country, come back rested relaxed with some great stories and experiences and rejoin my course on the first year (fresh start kindof thing)

    c) go back in september in the 1st year, and dont make a hash of it this time by being all mopey about my relationship!

    also would you guys recommend moving into a student house/halls as at the moment i've got my own 2 bedroom flat that im renting privatly and although it's okay (im living with a mate from work) it gets a bit boring sometimes and i'd rather have loads of people around me
    I think taking a "gap" year in oz would help me do this too because i'd be forced to leave my flat behind and find somewhere new to live, and i'd be living in hostels for a while so i'd get used to it

    sorry for the long and complicated post anyways and from the looks of it you guys have a great forum!

    cheers
    Dan
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    4 girls out of 250!!! OH GOSH
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    from you post you seem more keen on the australia idea and in my view would be a great way to spend a year. If you dont like the people in your year and think the next two years could be boring with them, you could consider changing course or uni but id go for the australia idea.
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    hehe yeah, the girl to guy ratio was rather disturbing, at the time it didn't bother me because i was in a relationship but ack, i like girls :P

    yeah the australia thing will be fun but by the time i start uni next year ill be 21 and if im going into the 1st year all the other first years will be 18?

    i dont know whether to change uni's, change courses or just try again next year
    what have your experiences been like with uni so far?
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    (Original post by danny_20)
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    hey, im new here, just stumbled accross it completely at random before going out to be honest but it inspired me to put down something in writing that i've been thinking about for a while

    I started uni last september (should have started the year before but I thought i'd work for a year) doing computing for industry Bsc,
    I thought it was going to be a really great social experience going to uni, as college was fantastic, I made loads of friends there and everyone was really great,

    when I got to university though, aswell as there being roughly 4 girls (out of a class of say 250) everyone was really antisocial/backstabbing/boring I dont really know how else to put it. Obviously this isnt what most peoples experience is with university so I was just wondering is it because of the type of course I'm on? (theres always been a sort of stigma about computer people being 'geeks' 'antisocial' etc. and I dont know whether it was just the people I happened to "make friends" with or whether the majority of people on these courses are like that)

    It also didnt help that I was engaged to a girl i met in college (she didnt come to uni with me) and for the first few months of uni I knew we were headed to a breakup and it sortof spoiled it for me / made me less social than I should have been
    all in all my experience with it so far's been a bit crap, about 4 months in (january) I started workign full time (to get some extra cash and also because its more fun beleive it or not ) and just doing the work on the nighttimes on the website, I obviously cant keep doing that as it gets a lot harder in the second year (the first year is just introductory stuff we've already done on our national diploma)

    so the question is.. do I either:

    a) go back in september into the 2nd year, not really knowing anyone whilst everyone else knows eachother, having had no holiday, made no friends at uni, not been present for most of the 1st year lectures and probably not enjoying it either.

    b) take a year out in australia (thats something i've been saving for whilst working) working around the country, come back rested relaxed with some great stories and experiences and rejoin my course on the first year (fresh start kindof thing)

    c) go back in september in the 1st year, and dont make a hash of it this time by being all mopey about my relationship!

    also would you guys recommend moving into a student house/halls as at the moment i've got my own 2 bedroom flat that im renting privatly and although it's okay (im living with a mate from work) it gets a bit boring sometimes and i'd rather have loads of people around me
    I think taking a "gap" year in oz would help me do this too because i'd be forced to leave my flat behind and find somewhere new to live, and i'd be living in hostels for a while so i'd get used to it

    sorry for the long and complicated post anyways and from the looks of it you guys have a great forum!

    cheers
    Dan

    I know many people who had nasty experiences in the first year at uni, mainly because they were being mopey about leaving home for the first time and didn't make the most of what uni had to offer. I also know a guy, however, who really couldn't wait to go (to York) but spent most of his first year down because he was forced to spend his time with people he really hated. But now, he's joined a few more societies, is willling to be more sociable and is generally having a great time.

    I can see that you've got your heart set on going to Australia but probably because you see it as the easy way out. As you've already completed your first year, I wouldn't recommend throwing it all away and starting afresh. Even though you feel you feel you've made a mess of things, you have this summer to travel, meet new people, it's not neccessary to take out an additional year in order to clear your head and start over. You need to put your girlfriend behind you and concentrate on the people you know at uni. They may not seem too promising but maybe that's because you were too quick too judge them. Put your heart into making new friends, and enjoying your time to the full and it will make things so much more fun.

    However if you really feel that you couldn't cope returning to uni this September go to Australia, but remember you'll have a lot to catch up on, and though you might return renewed and refreshed with a lot to talk about, there's a possiblity you'll feel even worse because there's no one at uni you can properly relate to. Think, you've been away for a year, had a great time, met wonderful people, matured, whereas you'll be stuck with people who are much younger than you, with a different perspective on things. I sometimes feel like that now (as a gap yr student) and that's even with fully knowing I could never have gone to uni after school.

    Consider your options carefully. Personally I would take on the challenge of going back for the second year, sticking it out and then making your decisions from there. Going to Australia may be the opportunity of a lifetime but why not save it for when you have a degree under your belt and the whole university experience is done and dusted? That to me is the best option.Hope this helps a little.
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    I think the main problem was that I made friends with people I later found out were really immature and weren't really the type of people i'd usually make friends with, and by that point everyone was in their own social groups / i felt like i had to just stick it out (also I was a year older than everyone else although I dont think that made much of a difference)

    I think i just didnt really try to get fully into it, I had my own little place that at the time was just me living there with my fiancee at the time coming around a few times a week and i was cosey, but everyone else was in a completely different situation, living in halls, meeting new people, going out on the piss etc. whereas I did that but with my college friends rather than people at uni, so I didn't really mix..

    I think i just need a good kick in the ass to move out of this flat and in with a bunch of students, I think oz will be an experience of a lifetime though which is why im reluctant to leave it until post-degree, as i've got a feeling by the end of a degree ill probably be in a relationship sereous or not and I figure I might aswell do this while i'm single and free (and also because.. well look at the weather compared to newcastle )

    what do you mean by societies? do they have groups/sports teams etc. at uni? ive never heard of them, maybe my university (northumbria) doesn't have anything like that?

    does anybody else go to northumbria university?
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    if you really hate your course and want to get away go to australia, you've nothing to lose and you can reapply for other unis while you're on your gap year.
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    From what I see, you seem to be keen on the Gap year idea. So, I suggest you do that. There is no point in going into 2nd year and not enjoying and definitely do not waste another year in first year again.
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    May I compliment you on your very clear thread title, too often do some members give their posts very unclear titles.
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    lol, I thought that too. Although, sometimes unclear thread titles attracts attention and curiosity.
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    (Original post by valcandy)
    From what I see, you seem to be keen on the Gap year idea. So, I suggest you do that. There is no point in going into 2nd year and not enjoying and definitely do not waste another year in first year again.
    How is it possible to go away and not waste another year in first year?
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    (Original post by valcandy)
    lol, I thought that too. Although, sometimes unclear thread titles attracts attention and curiosity.
    You would make a very good member of CHAT
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    (Original post by LoStInIdEaFlOoD)
    How is it possible to go away and not waste another year in first year?
    after the gap year i could rejoin in the 2nd year since ive passed the 1st, (although i'd still be a year behind where i should be)
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    If you were going to change universities where would you go? Do you have friends you still keep in contact with at other universities?
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    (Original post by Greendaygirl)
    If you were going to change universities where would you go? Do you have friends you still keep in contact with at other universities?
    nah most of my friends are will be finished there courses by the time i get back, my best friend is teaching now and he was in the same year as me at college shows what you can do if youve got the mindset to really go for it!
    but no, ill have to make all new friends when i come back to uni nomatter which one i go to
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    Is nothumbria your local uni?
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    yep, which uni are you at?
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    (Original post by danny_20)
    (multi-topic thread, how efficient )

    hey, im new here, just stumbled accross it completely at random before going out to be honest but it inspired me to put down something in writing that i've been thinking about for a while

    I started uni last september (should have started the year before but I thought i'd work for a year) doing computing for industry Bsc,
    I thought it was going to be a really great social experience going to uni, as college was fantastic, I made loads of friends there and everyone was really great,

    when I got to university though, aswell as there being roughly 4 girls (out of a class of say 250) everyone was really antisocial/backstabbing/boring I dont really know how else to put it. Obviously this isnt what most peoples experience is with university so I was just wondering is it because of the type of course I'm on? (theres always been a sort of stigma about computer people being 'geeks' 'antisocial' etc. and I dont know whether it was just the people I happened to "make friends" with or whether the majority of people on these courses are like that)

    It also didnt help that I was engaged to a girl i met in college (she didnt come to uni with me) and for the first few months of uni I knew we were headed to a breakup and it sortof spoiled it for me / made me less social than I should have been
    all in all my experience with it so far's been a bit crap, about 4 months in (january) I started workign full time (to get some extra cash and also because its more fun beleive it or not ) and just doing the work on the nighttimes on the website, I obviously cant keep doing that as it gets a lot harder in the second year (the first year is just introductory stuff we've already done on our national diploma)

    so the question is.. do I either:

    a) go back in september into the 2nd year, not really knowing anyone whilst everyone else knows eachother, having had no holiday, made no friends at uni, not been present for most of the 1st year lectures and probably not enjoying it either.

    b) take a year out in australia (thats something i've been saving for whilst working) working around the country, come back rested relaxed with some great stories and experiences and rejoin my course on the first year (fresh start kindof thing)

    c) go back in september in the 1st year, and dont make a hash of it this time by being all mopey about my relationship!

    also would you guys recommend moving into a student house/halls as at the moment i've got my own 2 bedroom flat that im renting privatly and although it's okay (im living with a mate from work) it gets a bit boring sometimes and i'd rather have loads of people around me
    I think taking a "gap" year in oz would help me do this too because i'd be forced to leave my flat behind and find somewhere new to live, and i'd be living in hostels for a while so i'd get used to it

    sorry for the long and complicated post anyways and from the looks of it you guys have a great forum!

    cheers
    Dan
    Sounds like a typical science / computing course that is full of blokes.

    Sorry if you mentioned this already but which uni are you at?
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    If you don't know if your uni has societies it's either

    1. A really strange uni, or
    2. You must have gone nowhere at all during the start of your course


    Any decent uni should have sports teams and societies and they shouldn't be hard to find. I suggest you have a look around at your uni again to try and find out more about what you can do. Societies can also be good places to meet girls! For those yet to go to uni, it would be a good idea to see what societies are there, as well as what the student union is like - it might help you decide where to go.

    Good luck with whatever you decide danny_20!
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    Personally I would recommend you take the year out and start the whole lot again after going to Australia. Maybe consider a different uni and maybe even a different course. It seems to me like your main problem, the HUGE problem which no one else has picked up on it that you were not living in halls. Of course it's boring. Of course you didn't meet people. If you live out and don't belong to any societies, the only people you meet are people from your course. You've already said that the people on your course are horrible. You need to start again and get totally into the university experience. If you stay put, you're not going to get any happier. Uni is the place where most people meet the people who become their lifelong friends, and often future partners. If you miss out on the social side of uni, you'll never get that chance again. Fine, you'll meet people from work and other places once you graduate, but I'm betting that by then you might have forgotten how to socialise a bit, if you haven't already. Definitely have a fresh start.
 
 
 
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