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I've been living in university private accommodation for three years now with the same friends. We've had a girl move in because she had nowhere else to live this year and her mannerisms are getting very annoying. It feels like to me that everything we say is a competition to her. She's one of those people where if you say "I used to have drama lessons when I was younger and did some performing on stage" the reply will be (in a group conversation context) "Oh, well I performed as a child actor at the Soho theatre". She seems to have a distorted perception of her abilities in any context. She'll say "I'm great at darts" and turn out to be atrocious. Typical example of a narcissist I think.

How do you deal with these kinds of people? I can put up with it but I'd really like to say something which will make her realise she's being arrogant (which she is in general) but won't harm our relationship and disrupt the 'Yin and Yang' of our house. I guess that's her personality and I can't do much about it... perhaps I'm just in need of a vent. How would you deal with someone like this?
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I've been living in university private accommodation for three years now with the same friends. We've had a girl move in because she had nowhere else to live this year and her mannerisms are getting very annoying. It feels like to me that everything we say is a competition to her. She's one of those people where if you say "I used to have drama lessons when I was younger and did some performing on stage" the reply will be (in a group conversation context) "Oh, well I performed as a child actor at the Soho theatre". She seems to have a distorted perception of her abilities in any context. She'll say "I'm great at darts" and turn out to be atrocious. Typical example of a narcissist I think.

How do you deal with these kinds of people? I can put up with it but I'd really like to say something which will make her realise she's being arrogant (which she is in general) but won't harm our relationship and disrupt the 'Yin and Yang' of our house. I guess that's her personality and I can't do much about it... perhaps I'm just in need of a vent. How would you deal with someone like this?
Meditate? I'm not too sure, but I completely understand how you feel.

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Tell them? They might not realise what they're doing. A number of people do it because they want to add to the conversation instead of saying 'that's interesting' and don't realise that they're just bringing the conversation back on to themselves. Don't do it aggressively or anything but a surprisingly enough, they can realise that it's just a rubbish way to make conversation.
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haha I can see the potential for fun here, just say more and more outrageous things, make it a running joke with other people
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Simple. I would cut them off.
I'd cut them off sooner
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I'd cut them off sooner
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