Do relationships work if the girl is highly educated compared to the guy?

He's a waiter and he's happy with his career and all anyone should strive for is happiness. As a mature adult in a relationship you're expected to want nothing for your partner but happiness even if that means leaving them.

If you're bothered by a partner who wouldn't live up to your standards of being "ambitious" then that's absolutely fine, but being ambitious doesn't make you any better than your boyfriend and he absolutely has no reason to change.

You're the one in the wrong here because you're expecting him to change. He's not going to, nor does he need to so if it bothers you that much break up with him and move on.

I've got at least 2 friends I can think of however who went through this exact problem with their ex's and felt they weren't ambitious enough. They both ended up leaving them and then their ex's ended up doing way better than them after a few years. Both went back down the line and were effectively told to do one. Turns out they were of the belief that if you love your partner enough, what they do shouldn't really matter.

That's something I believe in as well but then I'm a male. It's different for a large proportion of females and it's called Hypergamy.

Your first year of uni and you call yourself highly educated?
Even if you finish your studies, your are not highly educated.

I love to see how many people think that they are highly educated when in reality they have no deep knowledge of anything.
For example I see a lot of dumb girls who finish their studies because they are not lazy and forcing to finish it but they can't hold for 5 minutes a serious discussion.

So, convince me that you are highly educated. In which areas do you have an expert level of knowledge?

Why am I asking this? As highly educated person you should understand what I want to tell you and it will answer your opening question.

Actually, i hate to brag but you asked. I have got a first class honours degree from the UK thank you very much. And compared to someone who has barely gotten through college, yes i consider myself of slightly higher intellect.Not in many aspects of life, but i hope my degree speaks something about my level of ambition. And with this level of ambition i hope to become that highly educated professional one day.

It depends on the aim of your relationship. Are you just having fun or is it for marriage, long term, kids etc. if it's for the latter, I'd say the MAJORITY don't work. The issues will manifest later. Say with kids, my kid isn't allowed to do an arts degree. They do an undergrad like maths, science, medicine, engineering... Then they can pic You need to understand that mind sets can NEVER really be changed. And you might not be at the same level. But that's my two cents.

Miss highly educated,

you didn't answer my question. I asked you in which areas you have an expert level of knowledge. Maybe you should think about again what highly educated means.

Having a degree of your studies tells nothing about your intellect because this is what you study. The important part is outside of your studies you have knowledge about and then you can call yourself highly educated.
Your first class honours degree isn't impressive, 15% reach it.

Your intellect is normal, nothing above average.

But yes, you have a higher intellect than your boyfriend and your level of ambitions are different. There I agree with you. But you are putting yourself in a position which makes you look down on people. The problem is, if you loved your boyfriend, you wouldn't do this to him. No matter what kind of intellects you have. The problem is you. You already know that you can't be thoroughly happy with this guy and you search for reasons why it won't work.

Stop thinking that you are highly educated, you are not, and tell the truth about feelings and thoughts to your boyfriend.
Wish him the best in his life and move on.

My bf and I have very different goals and aspirations career wise. I am in my first year of uni as a dental student and he is currently a waiter, at formal events e.g weddings etc. He has no plans of changing this, he is happy to do this forever. We're both the same age and recently my uni work load has increased so much i am constantly studying, stressing and trying to finish all the work i have on time. And like any other student i find it very helpful when i study with someone else or in a group and i've done this twice (studied with a girl colleague) . So this evening we got into a big argument about this, he said i'm cheating on him when i go over there to the halls, and that i'm pretending to have so much work. So i said to him 'Don't compare your studies of balancing 3 plates on your hand with my studies in dentistry' ....i know this is harsh but i was so furious, i've had enough of him calling me a liar all the time and thinking that uni is so easy. And im not talking about UK uni, ive already finished a degree in the Uk. Im studying abroad which i have to say is much much harder, we get tons of homework all the time. We get told on Monday that we need to learn ALL the muscles of the body for the following day , literally it's that intense, i don't even have time to pee!
Was i unfair for saying this to him?

I know i should apologize but i just don't feel like it right now, he thinks i'm learning poems at uni.

I think my mistake here is the way i phrased the title. Have you actually read the post? my concern is in the fact that he is not understanding my demanding schedule, accusing me of cheating constantly when i'm in fact studying. That's the problem. And someone who cant grasp the concept that med school is difficult....well what can i say, they probably haven't done much studying in their life.
I am not a snob and i don't look down on people. A bit of empathy and understanding from his behalf is all i wanted

I think relationships work best if both people are relatively equal in intellect.

I'll also point out many people working in minimum wage jobs are very intelligent and that you don't necessarily have to have the same level of job to be on the same mental level as someone else.

It's been a couple months since you started dental school, chill the **** out, either you're over exaggerating massively which I think you are or you simply can't handle it in which case quit.

My bf and I have very different goals and aspirations career wise. I am in my first year of uni as a dental student and he is currently a waiter, at formal events e.g weddings etc. He has no plans of changing this, he is happy to do this forever. We're both the same age and recently my uni work load has increased so much i am constantly studying, stressing and trying to finish all the work i have on time. And like any other student i find it very helpful when i study with someone else or in a group and i've done this twice (studied with a girl colleague) . So this evening we got into a big argument about this, he said i'm cheating on him when i go over there to the halls, and that i'm pretending to have so much work. So i said to him 'Don't compare your studies of balancing 3 plates on your hand with my studies in dentistry' ....i know this is harsh but i was so furious, i've had enough of him calling me a liar all the time and thinking that uni is so easy. And im not talking about UK uni, ive already finished a degree in the Uk. Im studying abroad which i have to say is much much harder, we get tons of homework all the time. We get told on Monday that we need to learn ALL the muscles of the body for the following day , literally it's that intense, i don't even have time to pee!
Was i unfair for saying this to him?

I know i should apologize but i just don't feel like it right now, he thinks i'm learning poems at uni.

You clearly didn't pay attention to what i wrote, i explained that it's not a Uk uni, which is easy compared to where im studying at the moment, Uk uni doesn't care if you do your work or not, you don't get tested on a daily basis, in the UK you get few coursework pieces and then exams, i know this because i finished uni in the Uk with a first class.

So. Which degree did you do beforehand.