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I'll try to keep this short but basically there's this girl in my lectures who I find aesthetically pleasing, I have no idea if she's a nice gal or not but I'd like to find out. If it was a smaller class or groups hadn't been formed I could approach here relatively easy but she sits with her own group and I sit in mine, comepletely different sides of the theatres.
- My main problem is that I lack confidence I think, I've been told by many girls that I'm good looking although some don't look at me twice so I find that confusing. I don't think I'm that good looking but ive never been so confident about myself as I'm putting on quite a bit of size and my body is pretty good so (don't wish to be cocky). I've never had much success with women, always been more of the friend.
so my question is.. Does anyone have any ideas of how I can isolate her and talk to her without coming across as a right creep and getting rejected?

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So, smile, seek opportunities to chat and find out where she socialises. It is potentially creepy to be too intense in a study environment so better if you can make your move in the pub. Bear in mind though, aesthetically pleasing girls are in demand.
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So, smile, seek opportunities to chat and find out where she socialises. It is potentially creepy to be too intense in a study environment to better if you can make your move in the pub. Bear in mind though, aesthetically pleasing girls are in demand.
OP here. Yeah, think I'm gonna have to play the long game. Yeah especially on a chemistry course the number of good looking gals aren't exactly high.. But to be fair neither is the number of guys. Pub will be my best bet, if I can get a few drinks in me (and her!) then I'll be able to turn the charm on and hopefully set things up for the future. Have no idea if she's a pub gal though.
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When you are walking out of class or something just talk to her, try and get her on her own I don't really know, not too experianced haha


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When you are walking out of class or something just talk to her, try and get her on her own I don't really know, not too experianced haha


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It works especially well if it is night time...and you have a chainsaw.
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I would just literally write your no. and name on a piece of paper, then as you walk past etc. just stop her and say - hey, I know this is so random and I hope it's okay but you're really cute/*** etc, and I'd love to get to know you.
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Speaking from a girls point of view i think you should approach her as a friend and build a foundation, find out if she is nice and if you have similar interests. Don't worry about 'the friend zone' because in my opinion 'the friend zone' is just something we like to believe is real to cope with rejection better. I mean i could never be in a relationship with someone who i wasn't friends with like i want a relationship where i can hold hands, kiss, do all the lovey dovey couple stuff but i also want someone i am comfortable with and can be myself around. So to not bore you any further my advice would be to make friends first. Good luck!(even though you don't need it)
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It works especially well if it is night time...and you have a chainsaw.
I tried that one before, but with a knife and apparently I "came on too strong"
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I would just literally write your no. and name on a piece of paper, then as you walk past etc. just stop her and say - hey, I know this is so random and I hope it's okay but you're really cute/*** etc, and I'd love to get to know you.
In a perfect world id do that, but I think you need to be hella confident to do that and I simply am not. But thanks anyway
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When you are walking out of class or something just talk to her, try and get her on her own I don't really know, not too experianced haha


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I think that may actually be the way to go, nothing complex, just slowly worm myself in and make her fall in love with me, right? That's how it happens, yeah?
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I think that may actually be the way to go, nothing complex, just slowly worm myself in and make her fall in love with me, right? That's how it happens, yeah?
Let us know if you succeed. We need some success stories..
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I would just literally write your no. and name on a piece of paper, then as you walk past etc. just stop her and say - hey, I know this is so random and I hope it's okay but you're really cute/*** etc, and I'd love to get to know you.
That's so alpha. I love it!

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I think that may actually be the way to go, nothing complex, just slowly worm myself in and make her fall in love with me, right? That's how it happens, yeah?
Haha yeah idk just go with it
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That's so alpha. I love it!

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Youll fail. Unless she's easy. Just talk op?
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I'll try to keep this short but basically there's this girl in my lectures who I find aesthetically pleasing, I have no idea if she's a nice gal or not but I'd like to find out. If it was a smaller class or groups hadn't been formed I could approach here relatively easy but she sits with her own group and I sit in mine, comepletely different sides of the theatres.
- My main problem is that I lack confidence I think, I've been told by many girls that I'm good looking although some don't look at me twice so I find that confusing. I don't think I'm that good looking but ive never been so confident about myself as I'm putting on quite a bit of size and my body is pretty good so (don't wish to be cocky). I've never had much success with women, always been more of the friend.
so my question is.. Does anyone have any ideas of how I can isolate her and talk to her without coming across as a right creep and getting rejected?

Thanks!


The wonderful thing about lectures is that you're completely ok to talk to anyone, especially if it's first year. You have a common thing that unites you all in a way :lol:


I would try to keep it very casual, and just sit where she sits. Sometimes sure she probably sits with a group, but if you see the chance to sit next to her go for it.


Then, use the thing you have in common- the lecture. Say something funny to break the ice, then introduce yourself. Ask her name. If the lecture is going on by now and you're feeling confident enough in your looks, something kinda quirky could be to write on your notes 'Coffee after this?' and pass it to her with a cheeky grin.


If that's not your style think up something else but the above circumstance is basically exactly what I did to a girl I liked. :blush:.
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OP here. Yeah, think I'm gonna have to play the long game. Yeah especially on a chemistry course the number of good looking gals aren't exactly high.. But to be fair neither is the number of guys. Pub will be my best bet, if I can get a few drinks in me (and her!) then I'll be able to turn the charm on and hopefully set things up for the future. Have no idea if she's a pub gal though.
Haha are chemists ugly people?
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The wonderful thing about lectures is that you're completely ok to talk to anyone, especially if it's first year. You have a common thing that unites you all in a way :lol:


I would try to keep it very casual, and just sit where she sits. Sometimes sure she probably sits with a group, but if you see the chance to sit next to her go for it.


Then, use the thing you have in common- the lecture. Say something funny to break the ice, then introduce yourself. Ask her name. If the lecture is going on by now and you're feeling confident enough in your looks, something kinda quirky could be to write on your notes 'Coffee after this?' and pass it to her with a cheeky grin.


If that's not your style think up something else but the above circumstance is basically exactly what I did to a girl I liked. :blush:.
And where you successful in getting the girl you liked?
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Do not under ANY circumstance approach her.

What will happen is that it will boost her ego. She probably gets approached everywhere from the streets to the bus to lectures and to her you're just another desperate guy seeking her attention.

Only approach if you are a good looking man (8 /10 or above), if not then all what you will be used for is a quick ego boost.

Stop boosting the egos of women, you OP, are the reason why average woman think they're beautiful models who only deserve men who look like Brad Pitt.
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And where you successful in getting the girl you liked?

Yes, though we only went out for a few months. Aesthetic turned out not to be a good judge of potential spouse
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