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Worth anything? (kinda long)
Well...first off I'm not expecting any guys to sympathise with me here so...well unless you do, hold your horses.
Right. The "wah my boyfriend is too into video games and always ignores me". Yes, this is an annoying whinge, and generally I agree with the guys. Video games are an essential. But on the other hand, my bf is addicted to online games (who hasn't heard of WoW?) to a particularly annoying degree. But that's not really the whinge. My beef is...well extremely girly and probably clingy but, I'm going to uni the day after tomorrow, and...I haven't heard a word from him. He lives ten minutes away, yet my friends who live over an hour away drove up here this afternoon to say goodbye. I went to stay with him last weekend, because HE asked ME to go, then he spent the entire time playing PC games, while I gave up, crawled into bed and slept. He hasn't phoned in ages, never replies to texts, if I phone him he shunts me off so he can carry on "gaming", with the same tone of voice that military officer might use in the middle of a covert operation. IT'S NOT REAL LIFE GODDAMNIT. Now, do I slap him round the head and demand at least a half decent goodbye, or wait till he notices that, oh he's missing something and it might be his girlfriend-but-he's really-not-sure? It's getting to a ridiculous point. At first he was really close and caring and...well great. Does that mean he's now re-thinking having a gf at all or hiding from an issue? It happened really suddenly, and I guess he really doesn't give a toss at all now.
Hm.
Right. The "wah my boyfriend is too into video games and always ignores me". Yes, this is an annoying whinge, and generally I agree with the guys. Video games are an essential. But on the other hand, my bf is addicted to online games (who hasn't heard of WoW?) to a particularly annoying degree. But that's not really the whinge. My beef is...well extremely girly and probably clingy but, I'm going to uni the day after tomorrow, and...I haven't heard a word from him. He lives ten minutes away, yet my friends who live over an hour away drove up here this afternoon to say goodbye. I went to stay with him last weekend, because HE asked ME to go, then he spent the entire time playing PC games, while I gave up, crawled into bed and slept. He hasn't phoned in ages, never replies to texts, if I phone him he shunts me off so he can carry on "gaming", with the same tone of voice that military officer might use in the middle of a covert operation. IT'S NOT REAL LIFE GODDAMNIT. Now, do I slap him round the head and demand at least a half decent goodbye, or wait till he notices that, oh he's missing something and it might be his girlfriend-but-he's really-not-sure? It's getting to a ridiculous point. At first he was really close and caring and...well great. Does that mean he's now re-thinking having a gf at all or hiding from an issue? It happened really suddenly, and I guess he really doesn't give a toss at all now.
Hm.
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Reply 1
Well to be honest you have a right to be upset, if your boyfriend at least cared he would spend some quality time with you, it seems he loves his video games more, i would say tell him how you feel about it.
But with you going away to uni i cannot see how this can carry on, i would suggest maybe just dump him straight up and enjoy your time at uni socialising, then maybe he will realise what he has lost.
A last resort could be to go round his house and tell him how you feel etc like asking for a decent goodbye.
For sure you deserve alot better than this.
But with you going away to uni i cannot see how this can carry on, i would suggest maybe just dump him straight up and enjoy your time at uni socialising, then maybe he will realise what he has lost.
A last resort could be to go round his house and tell him how you feel etc like asking for a decent goodbye.
For sure you deserve alot better than this.
Reply 3
Oh my gosh... i have the same thing! Wow and Legend of Mir!!!! Not very nice being second choice to games! I feel sorry for you i can truly sympathise! x
Reply 4
WoW ruins lives. One of my friends actually died of DVT probably from sitting down and playing for too long. **** that game.
Reply 5
WoW is the ultimate relationship-ruining tool. There really should be a warning on the box that recommends that only single people play.
These Germans might help him see there's a battle to be won . .
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/europe/5381250.stm
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/europe/5381250.stm
Reply 9
Dump him.
Reply 11
I'm with all the people who say dump him, he's acting like a total jerk.
I'm a huge gamer, and I totally sympathise with you. I'd never reject the company of friends to play a game. I play World of Warcraft, but come on, the game isn't even that damn good, especially not good enough to ignore someone who I supposedly care for enough to enter a relationship with.
To be honest, I think you should wait for him to say goodbye as a test, and if he doesn't, then forget him and get with someone else who would appreciate you, to be honest.
To be honest, I think you should wait for him to say goodbye as a test, and if he doesn't, then forget him and get with someone else who would appreciate you, to be honest.
Reply 13
The question you want to be asking yourself is this: where do you see the relationship going? If he is already acting like this at around 20 years of age when you haven't been together for a particularly long time then what will he be like in another 5 years or 20 years or 50 years?
Of course the relationship might not be destined for such lengths. Even so, if it's not then why are you wasting your time (which you could be enjoying) asleep on your own so that your 'boyfriend' can geek it up over the internet?
Whether you're intending it to last or not there are some pretty fundamental problems. So I would dump him. If you feel there's any point trying to persuade him that you are more important than some bloody game then go for it, but he hardly sounds like the kind who will turn it around and whisk you off your feet and take you out for a surprise meal etc.
Of course the relationship might not be destined for such lengths. Even so, if it's not then why are you wasting your time (which you could be enjoying) asleep on your own so that your 'boyfriend' can geek it up over the internet?
Whether you're intending it to last or not there are some pretty fundamental problems. So I would dump him. If you feel there's any point trying to persuade him that you are more important than some bloody game then go for it, but he hardly sounds like the kind who will turn it around and whisk you off your feet and take you out for a surprise meal etc.
JayEm
Maybe he's in denial that you're moving away, or he has an unhealthy addiction to the game.
yeh...but now ur making excuses for him. hes being a complete arse plain and simple - what possible reason could a guy have, a matter of days before his gf goes off to uni, for not spending as much time as poss together?
go round, dump him and find someone who isnt addicted to WoW, i mean cmon, its a)terrible and b)expensive (lol and this is a Computer Science student talking!)
The only constantly good video game i know of is Pro Evo 5 (PS2), 2 player and both completely pissed out off ur minds - lol quality stuff!
Reply 15
I'm with the rest of them on this one. Take it as a test. Or just dump him direct, he's too addicted to the game. A relationship should always be reasonable give and take, not take all and no give.
I'd finish it to be honest...
^^^That says it all.
And I speak from experience. I once lost a boyfriend to CS.
then he spent the entire time playing PC games, while I gave up, crawled into bed and slept. He hasn't phoned in ages, never replies to texts, if I phone him he shunts me off so he can carry on "gaming"
^^^That says it all.
And I speak from experience. I once lost a boyfriend to CS.
Reply 18
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Oh my gosh... i have the same thing! Wow and Legend of Mir!!!! Not very nice being second choice to games! I feel sorry for you i can truly sympathise! x
Argh. I dunno bout Legend of Mir, but the other one is....a war game, I forget the name. Good graphics actually...but that's no excuse. *hugs* bah. Gamers. Maybe there's an allowance there for flirting with said boyfriend's friends...who knows. Poor you though
maybe this thread is for you also!Pretty unanimous voting there...well whatever happens, I'm giving up quite frankly. I'm sick of having to always make an effort, on top of everything else going on. If at any point he realises he's down one female he knows my number. If remembers what his mobile looks like. But really, as much as I hate sounding big headed, he's not going to do any better. I can say that honestly. His last ex dumped him for a girl. Gutted
Reply 19
Well no suprised he got dumped last time, i would say yes dump him and see what happens, you shouldn't keep having to make the effort just because he won't do anything, good riddence to him his loss, go out and enjoy uni
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