The Student Room Group

Looking but not touching?

Hey...

I know it's cliche but is it really bad that I've developed a crush (juvenile word, I know) on a guy at my new job. He's just the most beautiful thing I've ever seen, and he's got a personality to match. Everytime I go to work I get the tram and he's there, everytime I finish he's there on the tram....

My boyfriend comes back from visiting his family in 2days time and I feel guilty for even giving this other guy a second glance...what are other peoples' views?
PS: I've never been unfaithful
Nothing wrong with a bit of eye candy, its when you cross the line and actually do something unfaithful then its bad.
Reply 2
You're not a bad person for finding somebody else attractive, it's not as if you're acting on it.

Your boyfriend has probably seen other girls he finds attractive.

As long as you are both faithful it doesn't matter.
Reply 3
I actually find myself really looking forward to work and making more effort than normal just cos this guy is gonna be there. God he is gorgeous :frown:
if you really like him that much then are you sure everything is good with your relationship? i mean i look but i dont think about any particular guy that much, if i did i would seriously think about dumping my bf
Reply 5
Been with my boyfriend for a year, and out of that year we've spent approx 3 months apart on and off due to him going home (Malaysia/Canada) and a holiday I took... I dunno why I'm all funny about this guy. I find that I can even spot him in a crowd.... scary. He's such a lovely guy, we just chat and chat about nothing and..and...he's lovely.
Is the guy spoken for?
Reply 7
Well...I don't really know. It's not something I've asked him outright...
Reply 8
high priestess fnord
if you really like him that much then are you sure everything is good with your relationship? i mean i look but i dont think about any particular guy that much, if i did i would seriously think about dumping my bf


I agree. It's important, to me at least, that I find my boyfriend to be the most gorgeous person in the world. I find other guys attractive, sure, but not like him :love: It's because of the love, the closeness, etc. If I didn't feel that I'd think there was something seriously missing from the relationship.
Reply 9
MY bf and I have had problems lately, but things got sorted a few weeks before he left and he's coming back on thursday after a month away. It sounds awful, but I kinda miss being with guys who fit my usual type(and this guy is my type to a T), cos my bf is the complete opposite of my usual type...
Do you love your boyfriend? And I mean, are you in love with him? It sounds like maybe not..? In which case, seeing as it's been a year, maybe you would be better off finding someone more like yourself, what do you think?
Reply 11
I dunno. Maybe. I think I love my boyfriend but I'm not in love with him...the honeymoon period is over and done with I guess.
Anonymous
Nothing wrong with a bit of eye candy, its when you cross the line and actually do something unfaithful then its bad.


exactly
aww. if you only stuck long enough for the honeymoon period then might as well not get a relationship
Reply 14
I think that most people will find other people attractive!
Just because you have a partner who you are in love with, doesn't mean that you will suddenly become blind to all other people, and will never ever notice a good looking person again!
It's totally unrealistic to expect anyone in a relationship to never find anyone other than their partner attractive. Don't feel bad just for liking this guy at work.
Well nothing bad really with finding someone else attractive but your problem seems to be that your not sure if you really love your boyfriend anymore and the more interest you take in this guy the more it is going to affect your relationship with your boyfriend because he will sense something is up.

Maybe have a talk with your boyfriend and perhaps think of a way to put the spark back in your relationship.