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Hi my long term boyfriend ended things a month ago now , said we needed to live a little at uni (had been together since we were 16) told me we could be best mates and maybe somewhere down the line get back together if situation was right ?!

question is how can we ever get back or even be friends if he won't even contact me ? ! He just seems to have cut me out of his life

Ive had one text and that was after I posted a photo on Instagram of a night out with my housemate, her boyfriend and his mates .

He said in his text it was obvious I was managing fine without him and had moved on ? Stupidly I replied and justified who I was with . Wish I hadn't because I feel I played right into his hands . He didn't respond either so felt pretty foolish

is he teasing me or is it possible he might be struggling letting go too ?
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Tbh I would just forget about him conpletely. Clearly doesn't like you to drop you just so he could have fun at uni and then get together again after uni. It's ridiculous.
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I have a somewhat similar problem. My current ex and I ended things mutually just under a couple of months ago as he was moving to university and 'we' (mostly him) didn't think that distance would work. I was willing to try but we ended up agreeing.

We both said we should stay in contact and stay good friends but I haven't spoken to him properly since he left and I've only really ever had 2 messages off him on Facebook. He said he doesn't have time but I see him posting on other social media platforms.

I don't know whether he's toying with my feelings or he's moved on and doesn't care- despite him actually saying he thinks 'I'm the one' to one of my close friends before he left.
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Well his exact words were we needed to 'get on with our lives ' which to me means the same thing , maybe seeing if the grass is greener than me sort of thing ....

I guess at least he must be mildly curious to be looking at my photos ...guess I'll have to be grateful for that
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Well his exact words were we needed to 'get on with our lives ' which to me means the same thing , maybe seeing if the grass is greener than me sort of thing ....

I guess at least he must be mildly curious to be looking at my photos ...guess I'll have to be grateful for that

I'd block him and forget about him
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(Original post by CaitlinJosephine)
I have a somewhat similar problem. My current ex and I ended things mutually just under a couple of months ago as he was moving to university and 'we' (mostly him) didn't think that distance would work. I was willing to try but we ended up agreeing.

We both said we should stay in contact and stay good friends but I haven't spoken to him properly since he left and I've only really ever had 2 messages off him on Facebook. He said he doesn't have time but I see him posting on other social media platforms.

I don't know whether he's toying with my feelings or he's moved on and doesn't care- despite him actually saying he thinks 'I'm the one' to one of my close friends before he left.
I know it's difficult when we were so close and all of a sudden I'm not needed anymore . Can't believe it really
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I know it's difficult when we were so close and all of a sudden I'm not needed anymore . Can't believe it really
Me either, I've just been shut out of his life pretty much but every time I message him asking how things are or message him something new thats going on it'll say he's read the message but he doesn't reply. It's so annoying really.
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(Original post by CaitlinJosephine)
Me either, I've just been shut out of his life pretty much but every time I message him asking how things are or message him something new thats going on it'll say he's read the message but he doesn't reply. It's so annoying really.
Yep am definitely feeling like I'm history . I basically dropped off the radar when we returned to uni and the more I asked to see him the more he backed off and you know the rest . Everyone is saying its really out of character for him though . He is especially close to one of the girls in his house so I'm hoping she isn't a contributing factor to our downfall
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I get how you feel. To me, that message makes it clear he's not yet over you. He sounds very comfused.
The best move on your part it to go Jo contact, for a month or so. In the meantime, have fun, build friendships - let him look at your pictures. Hopefully he'll realise that if he wants you he can't just drop you and pick it up again.
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Thanks I'll take that on board
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