flatmate terror!!

oh my god. i live in a flat with 8 other girls and we all get on fine. Until 3 of them started acting like they rule the roost and decided to bring round about 8 'jock' lads to our flat and proceed to party like crazy till going on 5 in the morning.

This has happen 3 times now but no1 will say anything, and to make matters worse - loads of u have to be up early for lectures and end up having no sleep.

I want to say something cos its absolutely disgusting what ther doing.

Do i say something?

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Reply 1

_EMMA_

yes! you have to say something, otherwise they won't change.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

its not loud music its screaming and running around and breaking things and shouting. its so annoying

Reply 3

Leisure17

Tell them that being a part of your community they must behave so that everybody is happy. So all of you together must find a compromise. I suggest trying to get the whole group together for a "crisis session", it shouldn't be too difficult if only 3 out of 8 girls are the ones who are disturbing.
State the problem without being personal or emotional (difficult, I know) and then work out rules you ALL are comfortable with.

Reply 4

Segat1

call the cops on them next time.

Reply 5

Anonymous #2

I had flatmate terror, he tried to kill himself.

Reply 6

Why not buy some earplugs/muffs?

Reply 7

rich63

i would tell them sooner rather than later

Reply 8

G4ry

Before you go speaking to wardens and getting the university involved speak to the girls. If you want get the flat together and the 5 of you can speak to the 3 girls making noise (although this could seem like you're ganging up on them and cause a split in the flat.)

If that doesn't work - then speak to your warden.

Reply 9

hippieglitter

I'd just go to your warden, thats if he is not like mine and completely useless. Most unis do have a rule about no noise after a certain time, where i was it was 11:30pm and luckily we were ok with that, and even before 11:30pm if someone was in bed we tried to be quiet. What they are doing is totally inconsiderate and unfair on you and the others. They need to be shown that they are not the only people living there. Also if they are breaking things that are actually property of the college they will have to pay for that in the end and yes the letter about payment will go to all of you, and if they think they can get awway with annoying you now they they will think they can get away with just lettung you pay for damage you didn't cause.

Reply 10

lolly83

What a nightmare, speak to the 5 who are aren't first then call a flat meeting.
Try not to gang up on them, but make it clear to them that they need to be a lot more considerate. If that doesn't work then talk to your warden.

Reply 11

Ariel4

Dont go to the warden yet, it could make things a bit tense. speak to the girls, and try to come to an agreement. maybe let them know what days people have early lectures, and see if they could agree not to bring people back and make loads of noise on the nights, and on weekend nights, so long as theres not loads of people and all the mess is cleaned up, its ok to bring a few people back for a couple of drinks. if this doesnt work, then have a word with the warden.
i expect after a couple of weeks, when they get into lectures, theyll calm down a bit, the first few weeks of uni are usually pretty chaotic!

Reply 12

Fleece

Didn't you tell them at the time to keep it down?

Reply 13

Shéamais

A Jock is a scottish person, or slang for a private in a scottish regiment. Must have been a fun party with all those squaddies.

(edited 4 years ago)

Reply 14

Anonymous #3

Anonymous

I had flatmate terror, he tried to kill himself.

I've had that. it's the most terrifying thing in the world.

Reply 15

high priestess fnord

get the other girls on your side first. if you complain alone then they will just think your a kill joy and carry on with it even louder.

Reply 16

hippieglitter

House meetings don't work, half our house had a fall out with the other half, me and another girl were stuck in the middle, we called a house meeting, everybody turned up except the one girl who was actually the root of the problem, i went to see her and she refused to leave her room, so nothing got sorted out. A house meeting is not gonna work cos if someone thinks they are gonna get in trouble they won't turn up.

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

yeah. The next morning we went downstairs (the ones that were woken up) and they all apologized apart from one, who now none of us like. Shes just a stuck up snob. lol