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Am i the only female out there that thinks sex really does not feel as good as you expect it to?
I lost my virginity when i was 18, i am 23 now. I've only had sex with 4 different guys, but 2 of these were long term boyfriends so it's not a case that i've only had it 4 or 5 times...i've had it alot and it just is not getting any better.
I mean, all it feels like to me is something going in and out of me? i can feel it but it isn't pleasurable?
Also i have never ever orgasmed having sex. Infact no guy has ever made me have an orgasm.
Every time ive had sex the guy seems to love it, but for me its just so 'meh'. Really doesn't feel good to me...i genuinely feel there is something wrong with me
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(Original post by lisam191)
Am i the only female out there that thinks sex really does not feel as good as you expect it to?
I lost my virginity when i was 18, i am 23 now. I've only had sex with 4 different guys, but 2 of these were long term boyfriends so it's not a case that i've only had it 4 or 5 times...i've had it alot and it just is not getting any better.
I mean, all it feels like to me is something going in and out of me? i can feel it but it isn't pleasurable?
Also i have never ever orgasmed having sex. Infact no guy has ever made me have an orgasm.
Every time ive had sex the guy seems to love it, but for me its just so 'meh'. Really doesn't feel good to me...i genuinely feel there is something wrong with me
Can you pleasure yourself when masturbating?

If the answer is yes, none of these men actually knew how to impress you.
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If you dont feel comfortable stop. Or just wait for the one, if you believe in that stuff, and maybe it will feel better.
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(Original post by lisam191)
Am i the only female out there that thinks sex really does not feel as good as you expect it to?
I lost my virginity when i was 18, i am 23 now. I've only had sex with 4 different guys, but 2 of these were long term boyfriends so it's not a case that i've only had it 4 or 5 times...i've had it alot and it just is not getting any better.
I mean, all it feels like to me is something going in and out of me? i can feel it but it isn't pleasurable?
Also i have never ever orgasmed having sex. Infact no guy has ever made me have an orgasm.
Every time ive had sex the guy seems to love it, but for me its just so 'meh'. Really doesn't feel good to me...i genuinely feel there is something wrong with me
A lot of women get the most pleasure from the non penis in vagina bits of sex. Have these guys done much with their fingers and tongues?
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Can you pleasure yourself when masturbating?

If the answer is yes, none of these men actually knew how to impress you.
Yes i can make myself orgasm, but it takes SO long. I'm talking an hour here
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If they knew what they were doing, they'd have used their tongues.
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(Original post by Mankytoes)
A lot of women get the most pleasure from the non penis in vagina bits of sex. Have these guys done much with their fingers and tongues?
it's usually just a case of a few minutes of finger/tongue action, then it's straight to the full on sex. I'm single at the minute, but my ex boyfriend HATED oral sex so i never really got it off him. I can make myself orgasm but that is it, it also takes ages. with guys the sex is always over before i feel any pleasure at all :puppyeyes:
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Yes i can make myself orgasm, but it takes SO long. I'm talking an hour here
That's why these guys may have had issues making you scream, girl.

Although it does show their inexperience. You use your fingers, tongue and the fred in combination if you want a girl to get wet.
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That's why these guys may have had issues making you scream, girl.

Although it does show their inexperience. You use your fingers, tongue and the fred in combination if you want a girl to get wet.
Well maybe quite not an hour but defintely takes longer than 30 mins. I do get wet, even before any sex has taken place. i do get aroused but just can't seem to get any pleasure. I question if it will EVER get better, if a man can ever make me orgasm he deserves a pat on the back lol
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Well maybe quite not an hour but defintely takes longer than 30 mins. I do get wet, even before any sex has taken place. i do get aroused but just can't seem to get any pleasure. I question if it will EVER get better, if a man can ever make me orgasm he deserves a pat on the back lol
Well... let that be your quest. Find a man who can make you orgasm, although try to avoid any STIs in the process...
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Is it going in the right hole?
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Is it going in the right hole?
i think so
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My girlfriend finds penetrative intercourse not particularly enjoyable either, often mentioning that even though it's really painful she does it for me, but I find it difficult to enjoy it if she isn't either. So we mostly stick to non-penetrative, which is much more enjoyable for the both of us.

There is more than one way to be intimate
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My girlfriend finds penetrative intercourse not particularly enjoyable either, often mentioning that even though it's really painful she does it for me, but I find it difficult to enjoy it if she isn't either. So we mostly stick to non-penetrative, which is much more enjoyable for the both of us.

There is more than one way to be intimate
well at least i know that it's not just me having this problem. It is so frustrating, i want to be able to get the same enjoyment out of sex as everybody else
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well at least i know that it's not just me having this problem. It is so frustrating, i want to be able to get the same enjoyment out of sex as everybody else
Well, I'll cross my fingers for you to meet someone who knows their stuff, simply going at it like an oil pump rig I don't think does it for a lot of women (possibly guys too).


An additional note, you mentioned that it takes a long time for you to bring yourself to an orgasm, it usually does take longer for women from what I'm aware. As one 'motivational poster' I stumbled across on the internet says, "a woman's orgasm is a marathon, not a sprint", so I suppose it's a common thing!

I think the problem here is that the whole lead up to penetrative sex is rushed and sometimes even ignored altogether, which is fine if the sex is enjoyable for both parties but not so much in cases like yours and mine. So again, I really do hope your next endeavour is much more enjoyable!
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So I assume you feel pleasure when they work the clitoris?
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well at least i know that it's not just me having this problem. It is so frustrating, i want to be able to get the same enjoyment out of sex as everybody else
(Original post by Ruthless Dutchman)
Well, I'll cross my fingers for you to meet someone who knows their stuff, simply going at it like an oil pump rig I don't think does it for a lot of women (possibly guys too).


An additional note, you mentioned that it takes a long time for you to bring yourself to an orgasm, it usually does take longer for women from what I'm aware. As one 'motivational poster' I stumbled across on the internet says, "a woman's orgasm is a marathon, not a sprint", so I suppose it's a common thing!

I think the problem here is that the whole lead up to penetrative sex is rushed and sometimes even ignored altogether, which is fine if the sex is enjoyable for both parties but not so much in cases like yours and mine. So again, I really do hope your next endeavour is much more enjoyable!
Maybe you guys should hook up and... you know, try if you're both compatible with each other?
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Maybe you guys should hook up and... you know, try if you're both compatible with each other?
I think my girlfriend would have something to say about that.
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Yeah sex is actually really overrated for women. It's like some sort of conspiracy no one talks about, and the media/porn tells you it's amazing and everyone is having all these orgasms but it's just bull. Aside from the "G spot" (if it exists) there is nothing anatomically placed within a vagina to make it feel particularly pleasurable. Studies have shown that even in some women claiming to have vaginal orgasms, they were actually originating from the clitoris.

The answer... Practice making yourself orgasm. You say it takes half an hour, but you may discover ways that speed it up. Also make sure the guy does plenty of foreplay first... Then you can achieve orgasm during sex either by doing it yourself, having him do it or using a vibrator.
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I think my girlfriend would have something to say about that.
She doesn't really do the "penetrative" thing though, so you know, she might be okay with this arrangement.
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