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Go to bf's ex gf's party or not.

Basically the story is:

I've been with my boyfriend for nearly a year.
He broke up with his on/off girlfriend of 3 years and then asked me out about a week later (I went mad at him when I found this out) but apparently he didn't love her and that it was a relationship of convience and he should had finished it a long time ago. They never lived together and me and my boyfriend do.
Anyway, they haven't spoken to each other since the split apart from her texting him to ask if she can take his 5 and 6 year old kids out plus the time when she came to a footie match with her mate which she had asked my bf to get tickets for (she kept giving me evils)
Anyway, she's having a 30th birthday party on Friday and she's invited my boyfriends kids, my boyfriend, his mum and ME!

Now his mum is going and taking the kids to the party. My boyfriend isn't really concerned about going and doesn't particularly want to and he says it's up to me if I want to go or not. Part of me wants to because I think that she might be up to something and want to know what but another part of me doesn't because I don't particularly want to see her and it would be awkward seeing as her family and friends will be there.

So basically I'm a bit stuck as to what to do. Do I go or not? And what do you think her reason could be for inviting me?

Reply 1

Sam Beckett

How old is he and how old are you?

This whole thing sounds like something off Jeremy Kyle. It's very petty and insecure to think she's up to something.

Reply 2

BlackHawk

I'd go and hold your head up high and just be so polite that butter wouldn't melt. Just be morally better than her.

Then when you get home have a chat with your bf about why exactly his ex is still having a role in his life and with his kids.

Reply 3

pumpkin7

Sam Beckett

This whole thing sounds like something off Jeremy Kyle. It's very petty and insecure to think she's up to something.

i love that show! lol..

yeah.. i wouldn't want my boyfriend going to his ex's birthday party..

then again, are they his kids with her?

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

pumpkin7

i love that show! lol..

yeah.. i wouldn't want my boyfriend going to his ex's birthday party..

then again, are they his kids with her?

No, they're not her kids.

I've never seen that show. Might have to watch it some day :p:

Yes, I do know that I sound insecure but I can't help it. I do trust my boyfriend, it's just her I don't trust. I mean it's been a year since they split up so she's got to be over him. Also, I just think it's weird that she's invited me to the party. If it were your party, would you want your ex-boyfriends girlfriend there?

Reply 5

LadyEnglish

OP I would go, stick close to your bf and be pleasant to her. She'll see you and your bf are still strong and you're the mature woman who doesn't care about her petty motives xxx

Reply 6

Sam Beckett

Have the two kids got the same mother? And how old are you?

If they haven't got the same mother then that's a real warning sign. I get the feeling he's the kind of guy who goes from woman to woman. Or perhaps girl to girl if you're a young 'un.

What do you think she'll do? If you don't go and your boyfriend doesn't go then what's the problem?

I also think she was just being nice, but anything can happen on Jeremy Kyle.

Reply 7

dita_parlo

You've said that your bf isn't particularly concerned with going... You don't seem keen on going, so uhm, don't go.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

Yep, you're both right. I've decided not to go. Instead me and my boyfriend are just going to have a quiet night in kid free :p:

She probably was just being nice. Although I still think it was bit weird but that's her problem not mine. Like my boyfriend said, he's with me now and the fact that he doesn't want to go to the party tells me that they are in the past.

Anyway, thanks guys. It was much appreciated, despite it being a petty situation!

And I'm now going to keep an eye out for the Jeremy Kyle show. I'm intrigued!

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