Fancying people who are married

Are you looking to him as a replacement father figure, thus subconciously misplacing your feelings and believing you fancy him?

I think you know deep down that it's not worth it and he won't recriprocate feelings for you so just stop trying to make yourself fancy other guys and be yourself. You don't need to fancy someone.

Is your father around?

I ask because fancying someone that much older than you when you were 12 sounds like you have unresolved issues with male role models, particulary father figures.

You need to get over it. There are so many issues here and they're all wrong. Make a mental note - married men are out of bounds and it's a waste of time fancying them. Then perhaps the other issues will fall into place.

Good luck

I think it's an issue to fancy someone who was 32 when you were 12. There is something not quite right about that.

Married men are very much out of bounds, which I'm sure you know anyway. But I don't think the issue is you fancying married men. More the fact you fancy this man.

Ive liked this man who is twice my age for about 8 years now (since I was 12), I don't want to marry or go out with him cause firstly hes not like that he would laugh, secondly it would be strange I just wouldn't do it and he is already married with kids older than me. I do not show it at all in fact I don't even make eye contact or speak to him much because its embarrasing. Its really sad and its even worse because im a virgin im just so uncool but I can't help the feeling thing. I have been out with a guy but I never fancied him and find it hard to fancy guys my own age they just seem too boyish and immature. I think it is fading off a tiny bit now but what the hell why am I so odd?

Ive liked this man who is twice my age for about 8 years now (since I was 12), I don't want to marry or go out with him cause firstly hes not like that he would laugh, secondly it would be strange I just wouldn't do it and he is already married with kids older than me. I do not show it at all in fact I don't even make eye contact or speak to him much because its embarrasing. Its really sad and its even worse because im a virgin im just so uncool but I can't help the feeling thing. I have been out with a guy but I never fancied him and find it hard to fancy guys my own age they just seem too boyish and immature. I think it is fading off a tiny bit now but what the hell why am I so odd?

ok like eeeuw gross

I know how you feel! it's so frustrating to love a married man.