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For example today i had to attend a meeting and randomly spoke to this girl who was also attending.We had a nice conversation and i found her quite attractive. Would it of been weird if i had asked her for her number? Would i have looked needy and desperate even though am not?I felt like i had a genuine connection with her and missed out on a good opportunity to make a new friend.
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Don't ask for numbers until you've had many conversations with her.
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Don't ask for numbers until you've had many conversations with her.
But i don't think i will ever see them again?
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For example today i had to attend a meeting and randomly spoke to this girl who was also attending.We had a nice conversation and i found her quite attractive. Would it of been weird if i had asked her for her number? Would i have looked needy and desperate even though am not?I felt like i had a genuine connection with her and missed out on a good opportunity to make a new friend.
I say go for it, people can always say no if they like! If you don't you'll never know if they're thinking the same thing. A guy on the street asked me for my number, we've now been together 7 years
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I say go for it, people can always say no if they like! If you don't you'll never know if they're thinking the same thing. A guy on the street asked me for my number, we've now been together 7 years
What an inspirational sentence!
1+ rep for the lady restoring faith haha
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Thinking back, I usually ask them to add me on fb xD And then maybe ask for their numbers afterwards. But your choice -good luck~
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I say go for it, people can always say no if they like! If you don't you'll never know if they're thinking the same thing. A guy on the street asked me for my number, we've now been together 7 years
Next time the opportunity rises I will think of your story and ask!!!!!
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Thinking back, I usually ask them to add me on fb xD And then maybe ask for their numbers afterwards. But your choice -good luck~
I don't have Facebook so I would have had to ask for the number. I feel like such a p****
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You should've asked her number.
I'd rather have someone I don't know strike up a conversation with me and ask my # after, than someone just asking out of the blue.
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You should've asked her number.
I'd rather have someone I don't know strike up a conversation with me and ask my # after, than someone just asking out of the blue.
Do you think it is creepy/weird/desperate/strange? Has this ever happened to you before?
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Do you think it is creepy/weird/desperate/strange? Has this ever happened to you before?
It all depends on how you approach it. Generally speaking, I wouldn't think it would be weird or desperate. Everbody likes making a new friend.

Yes, it has happened to me before. Not since I have come to the UK, tho.
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It all depends on how you approach it. Generally speaking, I wouldn't think it would be weird or desperate. Everbody likes making a new friend.

Yes, it has happened to me before. Not since I have come to the UK, tho.
What do you mean it all depends on how you approach it?
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I thought asking for peoples number was the norm. As long as you're not pushy about it go for it, and if she's attracted or interested she'll probably find it quite flattering, I do.
Don't be discouraged from doing it again if one girl says no or doesn't want to give out her number. Maybe when asking ask for two platforms so she can pick e.g 'can I have your number or facebook so we can carry on chatting'?. Something along those lines anyway.
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I thought asking for peoples number was the norm. As long as you're not pushy about it go for it, and if she's attracted or interested she'll probably find it quite flattering, I do.
Don't be discouraged from doing it again if one girl says no or doesn't want to give out her number. Maybe when asking ask for two platforms so she can pick e.g 'can I have your number or facebook so we can carry on chatting'?. Something along those lines anyway.
Would you be offended if you weren't attracted to the person?
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Would you be offended if you weren't attracted to the person?
Why would we be offended?! The only thought process leading to someone would be offended is "Oh my God! This disgusting guy thinks that I'm unattractive enough that I might actually give him my number, eurgh!" This is very unlikely and even if it were to happen, frankly, those sorts of people aren't the kind of people whose number you want anyway!

So in answer to your original question - everyone is a stranger until you get to know them, so go for it!

(Just always remember that they don't owe you anything and they reserve the right not to talk to you/give you their number, etc)
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For example today i had to attend a meeting and randomly spoke to this girl who was also attending.We had a nice conversation and i found her quite attractive. Would it of been weird if i had asked her for her number? Would i have looked needy and desperate even though am not?I felt like i had a genuine connection with her and missed out on a good opportunity to make a new friend.
What is wrong with people on TSR! Christ, i hope you have more initiative than this in the workplace.

The answer is yes, if you found her attractive then you should have gone for it.
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If the convocation is going well and the vibes are good good, then go for it dude, don't let society put you down by putting on a minimum level you need to reach before you ask her, do what you feel when you feel dude


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If the convocation is going well and the vibes are good good, then go for it dude, don't let society put you down by putting on a minimum level you need to reach before you ask her, do what you feel when you feel dude


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peace love positive vibes yeah preach it babe
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yes it would have been weird. is she the only girl in the world? no. find someone else. forget about this.
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peace love positive vibes yeah preach it babe
Blonde chick at the beach pos vibes all round baby, hey how ya doin? Ain't nobody got time for hesitation dudes
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