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How can I talk to this shy lad.....

I talked to him before but not much ...and we worked in pairs together. I find it hard to get talking to him more because he's so shy though he's really really nice. I do feel attracted to him but I don't know if he feels the same way... :confused:

To all you 'shy' lads out there, how would you act about girls you like and... would you like it if a girl talked to you alot?

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

You should definately go for it. A shy guy may never show his feelings. Even if things dont work out you will have succeeded in giving him a boost to his self esteem and possibly make him less shy in the future. I get really nervous and cant talk around the girls ive liked. Maybe get his msn and talk on there, as i found that a good starting point when talking to girls i already knew, tho only ever been friends.

Reply 2

rawls87

Anonymous

You should definately go for it. A shy guy may never show his feelings. Even if things dont work out you will have succeeded in giving him a boost to his self esteem and possibly make him less shy in the future. I get really nervous and cant talk around the girls ive liked. Maybe get his msn and talk on there, as i found that a good starting point when talking to girls i already knew, tho only ever been friends.

I agree, if you like this guy and he seems to shy or nervous to make the first move then you should take it upon urself to do so. Talking from my own experience as being a shy guy :frown:

, he may feel that you are "out of his league" or he could be negative to the extent that he just presumes that you wouldnt like him in this way, therefore he wont bother making a move :redface:

I hope it works out ok!! :smile:

Reply 3

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This man will be crippled by fear and spend the rest of his life a virgin unless you talk to him. Go for it - and be sure to mention charity work on any uni application. :smile:

Reply 4

a_t

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This man will be crippled by fear and spend the rest of his life a virgin unless you talk to him. Go for it - and be sure to mention charity work on any uni application. :smile:

Hehe, just keep trying, ask him to come see a film or something. Don't see why most girls can't ask guys out!

If at first you don't succeed, dust yourself off and try again.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

Thanks for the advices, I'll try and talk to him next time. It's just... when i was working with him in pairs, I started asking questions about himself and made little jokes and smiling alot around him. He just didn't say much back to me and all his reponses to my questions were like... nervous laughs, stare and smiling. I thought I was being really awkward and decided to not say much afterwards...and left it as that until the lesson ended.

Reply 6

shaneo632

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I'm cripplingly shy, and if I liked a girl, she'd really have to either initiate things or very heavily hint for me to ever do something.

I'd feel much more comfortably if she made the first moves so that I don't make any mistakes in thinking she's interested and then she turns out to not be.

Hope I helped :smile:

Reply 7

Fatb

yeh thats it hes probably shy becausew he likes you, when i was talking to this girl before who i really liked i was well shy so she initiated all teh talking to begin with but now i am really comfortable with her, more you talk to him the more hell get comfortable and talk more, just go for it

Reply 8

carefree_sloth

Why not scribble notes to him (although he's next to you :P)? It could probably help him to communicate with you better :smile:

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Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

Ahh right, I'm beginning to understand lads more more :-P. Well when the next day, after i worked with him. I was the first in the class sitting down, later on...he entered the class but looked shocked at me and then walked quickly past me. I had a feeling he's blanking me...I was going to say ' hi, want to sit next to me...' but unfortunately my voice was lost due to a cold... Anyway, I'll try talking to him again and asking how he is...etc.

Reply 10

theonehitwonder

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He likes you. I'm guessing he doesn't want to 'stuff up' infront of you. Talk to him more, maybe try flirting with him.

How can I talk to this shy lad.....

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